“Well, SHE thinks highly of herself, now doesn’t she?”
“I don’t like her. She’s SO ______.”
I could probably write a 10,000-word post just listing the countless ways we’ve judged others.
But here’s the real question: what about the judgement we place on ourselves?
Self-Judgement Is the Harshest Kind
Do any of these sound familiar?
“How could I be so stupid?”
“She’s 55 and not overweight—what’s wrong with me?”
“What I have to say doesn’t matter. Others say it better than I ever could.”
At first, judging others and judging ourselves may seem like two separate things. But in truth, they’re deeply connected. When you judge another woman, it often mirrors a hidden judgement you already carry about yourself.
And this cycle of comparison and criticism erodes our self-worth, feminine confidence, and joy.
The good news? You don’t have to stay stuck there.
The Elegant 3-Step Judgement Detox
I’ve created a simple, feminine, and very elegant 3-step practice to release judgement—whether it’s about yourself or someone else—and turn it into self-love in just seconds.
Step 1: Pause & Notice
The moment you catch yourself judging, pause. Take a breath and simply notice the thought without shaming yourself for it.
✨ Ask: “What is this really about?”
Step 2: Reflect & Redirect
Behind every judgement lies a wound, insecurity, or unmet need. Instead of letting the judgement spiral, gently redirect it with compassion.
✨ Ask: “What do I truly need right now—acceptance, love, or reassurance?”
Step 3: Replace With Self-Love
Choose a higher perspective. Speak to yourself the way you would to a dear friend. Replace the judgement with a loving truth.
Examples:
Instead of “She thinks she’s so special,” try: “I admire her confidence. I can cultivate that too.”
Instead of “I’m not good enough,” try: “My voice matters. What I offer is uniquely mine.”
Over time, this practice rewires your thoughts and strengthens your self-love, confidence, and feminine grace.
Your Invitation
Next time you catch yourself in judgement, try this Judgement Detox and see how quickly the energy shifts.
✨ Let me know in the comments what judgement you’ve struggled with—and how this practice helped you turn it into self-love.
Did you know that the frequency of JOY is even higher than LOVE?
Being in the state of JOY gives you the energy, motivation & clarity to BE, DO & ENJOY everything your Soul desires!
Think about it…
When you are in complete JOY
you:
Have more energy
Easily do movement activities
More quickly/efficiently perform tasks
Feel fulfillment
Are more care-free about things (flexible mindset)
Are more open to trying new things
Are inspired to love yourself & others – it feels natural to you
I could go on and on, but can
you see the difference in what JOY gifts you (and others)?
So, the BIG question then is HOW to ascend into this state, right?
Well, I share the Elegant HOW in this week’s video!
On Monday, January 20th, it’s my 48th birthday! So, in honour of this, I’d like to gift you a 48% off coupon code to use towards The Joy Formula that I mention in the video- YAY!
I only do this kind of SALE once a year on my birthday so be sure to take advantage!!! The coupon code is only valid until 12 Midnight EST on January 20th so act now and begin feeling JOY… today!
The Coupon code is: JOY2020 (Feel free to share this with any friends, family or even on your social media accounts!) The more the better! We want to spread JOY everywhere this year!!!
Are you feeling the NEW energy in the air? How about an inner desire for spiritual ascension?
The new 2020 frequency is in full force and it will continue to get stronger as the years go on, so if you’ve been feeling the need for Spiritual Growth or Personal Growth on a grander scale then you are ready to move into your next level of spiritual ascension.
It’s such an exciting time!
In order for you to know HOW to ascend into the next level, you have to know what the levels are and what characterises them so that you know where to focus your energy.
In this week’s video, I’ve laid it all out for you!
If you have any questions
please leave them in the comments. I’m here to assist you into your next level
and I couldn’t be more excited for you! Life just gets better and better! (And
as a result, so does the world:)
A MAJOR ANNOUNCEMENT!
Yesterday an interview with me went LIVE. The interviewer asked if I would consider opening up The Elegant Life Makeover for at least a day so that her listeners could join.
It felt right, so I said yes
to opening up the program for 48 hours.
If you would like to be hand
held on your Spiritual Ascension for 5 months along with other beautiful SOULS
then feel into your heart and LISTEN.
Is this for you?
Go HERE to learn all the details, feel into your heart (not your head which will always try to keep you safe & small) and invest if it’s what you KNOW you require to elegantly and gracefully ascend into your next level of peace, joy, fulfillment, happiness, abundance & purpose.
You’ve only got 48 hours to
feel into this though.
2020 is already here and a whole NEW decade is opening, so what do you need to know?
I am more excited about this year and decade than ever before because the energy that is present and gaining momentum each day is POWERFUL! Not only powerful…but oh so helpful.
I filmed a very special & important video for the blog this week describing exactly what you can expect from the next year & decade as well as something you need to know in order for this momentum to serve you without added drama.
Please SHARE this video with all the women in your life as their future will be determined by this information.
Much love,
Manifest your desire into reality. Download this free meditation
Congratulations on taking your first step into The Elegant Life!
