This is a conversation that goes on all over the world between women. Good women, nice women, women who want to be happy, who want their children to be happy & who have a strong desire for peace… and yet…
Where is OUR happiness? Our peace? Our kindness? Our love?
Yes, we can do big, public things like volunteer, raise money for charities, be a Foster parent, etc. but in our every day words and actions, are we really resonating what we wish for in the world?
Last week we all heard about the horrendous tragedy in Manchester. I felt broken inside. But what added to my sadness was that when I scrolled through my Facebook feed most of what I read was people:
complaining
using extremely negative words (that I choose not to reprint here) against other women
judging
And I thought…
And people wonder why we are experiencing this reality right now?
As we all know, everything is energy. Words have an energetic frequency, actions, feelings, posts we share, comments we make, food, plants, desks, chairs…everything has a measurable energy.
So, if we are using negative words, in whatever circumstance, we are resonating that energy. And the more we resonate this negativity, the more negative energy is collected in our collective consciousness (the world’s consciousness). And, what we have resonated is what we will receive back. It’s the Law.
It’s Time to BE Happy
I was really called to write this post… for it to be a reminder, to all of us women who are truly beautiful souls, that if we want to live in a peaceful, loving world, we must make our main choice every day to BE peace & love. That goes for everything we say and do.
Can we be perfect? Should we get down on ourselves if we mess up? No.
But we CAN inwardly or outwardly say, “I’m sorry” and then make a different choice in the next moment.
And, what we can also do is to make our other main focus, JOY & PLEASURE.
Did you know that the emotion of JOY is only 160 Hz from that of Enlightenment? (Enlightenment resonates at 700 Hz and JOY at 540 Hz)
This is the reason why we focus so much on PLEASURE here at The Elegant Life, because when you are doing something that gives you pleasure, you radiate JOY and when you radiate JOY you change the world’s consciousness.
And when the world’s consciousness is uplevelled by all the beautiful souls around the world committing to JOY, the world’s reality will change. It’s already changing!
How BEING Happy is Changing the World
More people are open to Spirituality than ever before. More people are meditating than ever before. So a shift IS happening, but we need to continue moving towards JOY, ladies.
If you hear yourself complaining, shift to …”But I am so grateful for _________”
If you feel yourself being pulled into gossip, remove yourself from the situation or change the topic.
If you hear yourself judging someone else, say inwardly or outwardly, “I’m sorry, that’s a judgement.” And send that person love instead.
Here is a video to reinforce this concept of how frequency affects reality.
Watching it will change you, trust me.
So ladies, who is up for committing to LOVE, JOY, PEACE & GRATITUDE?
More than ever before the signs could not be more clear as to what our focus needs to be right now.
We women can literally change the reality of our world…but remember…it starts with us and every single thing we consciously or unconsciously do, say, write, or be.
Sending you SO much love, peace, beauty and JOY,
For those of you who would like to commit even further to becoming the BEST version of yourself, I invite you to beginThe Art of Living Elegantly. It’s your beautiful guide back to the REAL you.
I’m finally ready to admit something: Hi, my name is Erin Kurt and I’m addicted to helping people.
Some of you may think I’m joking.
Some of you may think I’ve lost it! LOL!
And some of you may be quite confused right now….
Let me explain. (I know many of you ladies will completely “get” what I’m about to admit and share. Hey, maybe you’ll be joining me at Helping People Anonymous! LOL!)
During the past month, I have been busier than busy. And it’s of my own doing, to my own detriment.
I knew we were moving house in April.
I knew my husband was going to be away for a whole week after our move.
Yet I took on more work than ever….and I’ve hit a wall.
Not only did I run my very first LIVE training on The Elegant Clearing Process here in Dubai, but I had already agreed to host the ONLINE version of it as well, which required hours and hours of filming, editing & uploading of trainings.
At the same time, The Divine inspired me to teach women how to Elegantly Manifest & Maintain Their Best Body and create a 6 week program for it to continue supporting them while they put the principles into practise!
Now this is all great as the Divine downloaded this to me loud and clear…but! But…. I was the one who put pressure on myself to release it right away. What was I thinking??? (I have now switched to pre-selling it as my assistant, graphic designer and I all work to get it organised and looking gorgeous. If interested you can pre-order it HERE, and get the pre-order BONUS too!)
Throw into the bag being asked to be interviewed and having to create material for that, and I was in over my head.
You see, in the midst of my utter passion for my message and the mentoring I do with women I kind of forgot that there are other “life” aspects to be taken care of too.
Homework help, dinners to make, costumes and supplies to gather, birthday gifts to buy, parties to go to, leaks to fix, a house to set up….you get the picture. It’s been an intense month.
Can you relate at all?
How I First Became Addicted to Helping
I can still see a movie in my mind that impacted my life forever. I am sitting in a Math Class feeling anxious and upset.
The teacher is teaching a lesson on fractions and a boy named Troy Yearly is continuously being asked questions by the teacher and getting them wrong. At one point he drops his head to his desk in embarrassment and my heart breaks for him.
The whole time this went on I was thinking, “There is SUCH an easier way to teach this! Why is she showing him how to do it like that?”
As soon as the teacher set out our textbook assignment I went up to Troy’s desk and said, “Troy, there’s a really easy way to do this, do you want me to show you?”
He mumbled, “Okay.”
I showed him a really simple method and gave him a question to try. He did it in 2 seconds and I said, “Yes! That’s it!”
What happened next is something I’ll never forget.
He lifted his head up, turned to look at me and a big grin slowly appeared on his face.
That was all I needed.
My heart was FULL! I had instant energy inside, as if I had just drank 20 cans of Red Bull.
I was overjoyed beyond anything I’d ever felt before from helping him….and this is when I became addicted to helping people.
How My Helping Addiction Didn’t Serve ME
I went on to become a teacher because I LOVED helping kids feel great about themselves and live up to their potential and beyond.
I then became a Stress-Free Parenting Coach to mothers & fathers all over the world because I wanted eliminate the unnecessary stress that parents were facing on a day to day basis.
And then I went on to coach women on how to create Signature Businesses for themselves because I so wanted them to feel the same empowerment and exhilaration I felt by being able to express myself and serve people using my natural gifts and abilities.
And now, well, I am serving at the highest level ever. What I do now makes me feel exactly as I did with Troy Yearly that day…. I assist women all over the world to live & manifest exquisite lives for themselves by helping them return HOME to their Divinity. NOTHING is better than this.
So, when I receive downloads on how to serve, I’m up for it!
When someone reaches out to me, I’m THERE.
When someone is feeling lost, disconnected, or at a major turning point in their life and needs guidance, I AM THERE.
And when they email me to share of their success, breakthroughs and miracles, I can’t go to sleep for hours because I am on such a high!
So, where’s the negative in all of this, you ask?
Things I’ve Done to DisHonour Myself
Overcommitting to others and neglecting my own family
Promising a deadline and working night & day to honour that deadline (with little sleep and no time for doing those things I always dreamed of doing in my life.)
Allowing people to not pay me in full or bargain my price (I learned the hard way here. Now, I set my price which honours who I am and the magic I bring into people’s lives and no longer negotiate or offer payment plans. If someone desires change and is committed to that change they will find a way to raise the money to work with me or invest in one of my life-changing online programs. )
Working During My Holidays and Not Fully Turning Off. I used to do this all the time. I finally learned to state that during a certain month I’ll only be doing Social Media postings. Although I had a wee slip just the other month when my hubby and I were talking about our trip to Canada this summer and I blurted out, “Hey! Maybe I can lead a short weekend workshop while we’re there!” Ahem…that didn’t go down well…
Can you relate to any of this? Do you give, give give and then hit a wall?
We come from such a great place, don’t we?
And I really do take care of myself! I regularly meditate, move, eat well, have dates with my hubby and friends and spend quality moments with my kiddies, but there is something deeper that is going on and I feel it.
You probably feel it too.
You KNOW your soul desires more quiet time.
You KNOW you miss your girlfriends.
You KNOW you miss reading more novels.
You KNOW you miss having your own “thing” outside of being a mother, a partner, a business owner or employee.
For me, it’s the fact that I am literally living the life I could only dream of years ago.
But I am so busy right now serving and helping people that I have no time to fully ENJOY this life that I manifested.
And that’s not okay with my soul. That feels like a REAL dishonouring of the Divine.
How to Stop These Addicted Patterns
Step 1
Notice there’s a problem.
Step 2
Journal about WHY it’s a problem. Why is it feeling like a problem? How is it affecting your life right now?
Step 3
Write down how your ideal life would look and feel down to the smallest detail. (I do this with my 1:1 clients and it is a beautiful and very telling experience)
Step 4
Do the Elegant Clearing Process or Work 1:1 with someone who can support you with tools, strategies and mentorship on how to go from where you are to where you desire to be.
Step 5
Meditate and Visualise Your New Life Vision at least once a week. My 6 Phase Visioning Meditation is perfect for this.
After going through these steps myself:
I definitely noticed that overcommitting and giving myself short time lines were a problem. I was addicted to helping so much that I forgot about honouring myself.
I recognised all the ways in which being addicted to helping was negatively affecting my life.
I revisited my life vision that I wrote on December 31, 2016 (New Years Eve) and became realigned to my soul’s desires in all areas of my life.
I did the Elegant Clearing Process and made some beautiful decisions on how I will move forwards. (If you are interested in what my soul wants to do that I haven’t been doing, watch the video at minute 9:00 where I share all!)
What I want to hi-light here is that I always view every experience as a gift. And I really did receive a gift from this busy, uncomfortable month. I reconnected to my soul’s deepest desires.
If you have had a similar experience of over giving to the point of burnout or feeling resentful or getting ill, please do share it in the comments. Or…
Do you feel you are addicted to something that isn’t serving you anymore? Please share below as I can guarantee someone else is feeling the very same way.
Diets, Exercise, Deprivation…No more! It’s time to elegantly step into your BEST BODY today!
Let’s chant this, ladies! How liberating to never ever have to diet again. In fact, go throw out every diet book you’ve ever purchased. I’ll wait. Whoo Hoo!
Over the past 4 weeks I’ve gone through some of the steps I took (and still do to this day) to elegantly melt 50 pounds off my body.
I review them really quickly at the start of the video above, so have a quick watch!
However…there were things I didn’t have time to share. And, I wasn’t able to gift you the kind of support I know will be SO helpful if you really want to have this work for you like it did for me.
Based on my experience and conversations with women who are wanting to live this way too, I created a simple 6 week program that will elegantly guide you into your best body.
I highly encourage you to watch the video above to hear me explain all the juicy details (you can start at minute 3:52 if you are short on time)
In a nutshell though, here is what I KNOW will allow you to attain & maintain your best body.
In this 6 week Elegant Guide you will receive:
1) My Top 6 Elegant & Effective Movements for Women (these are simple, fun & feminine and can be done in 20 minutes or less. Hurray!)
2) My Personal 2-Step Morning Ritual for Incredible Health & Vitality (This sets me up for a speedy metabolism and consistent energy throughout the day – no more 3pm energy slumps, hurray!)
3) 5 High-Vibe Breakfasts, Lunches, Snacks & Dinners for you to choose from each each day so you can make conscious choices that taste amazing and are oh, so pleasurable. The weight will melt away as you savour deliciousness! (You’ll LOVE how I organised this for you!)
4) How to Elegantly Eat Non-High Vibe Foods (I’ll give you 3 words you can say to all of your food so that your body loves it and uses it for only good.)
5) Daily Elegant Reminders for Your Soul. For 6 weeks you will receive a daily message that will inspire & remind you of the Elegant Principles for attaining your Best Body. It’s like having me pop in to give you a hug, smile and little nugget of wisdom for 42 days straight (Oui, even on the weekends)
6) BONUS! My secret to making your daily movements 10X more effective. Whoo hoo! (It’s a manifesting secret)
7) Pre-Order BONUS! If you order before the product actually launches in May you will receive a VIP Ticket to an Online Soiree with me where I will answer any question you have regarding the elegant principles to attaining & maintaining your best body!
If you desire a body you love, total health & vitality and a lifestyle that brings you Inner Peace & JOY then there really is only one thing to do…
Click HERE and begin the Elegant Journey back to the best YOU. “See” you in the program!
I’ll never forget the moment when my new personal trainer used his caliper to grab the fat around my waist and his tape measure to jot down my inches. Oh – My – God, how totally humiliating.
Then came “The Talk”. Here’s how it went:
Trainer [trying to sound non-chalant]: “Okay, so based on all the results you are considered to be in the Obese Zone.”
Me [trying to look like I’m really interested but really wanting to cry], “Oh wow, okay.”
I used to be the skinny kid. The young adolescent who some described as looking too thin – sickly thin even. They used to tell me I should eat more….until they saw me eat whole bags of cookies after school.
To have gotten to a place in my life where I was tired, worn out, and OBESE was something I couldn’t even wrap my head around.
In order to get me down to my ideal weight, the trainer had me doing short, intense periods of cardio, along with weights, squats and stomach exercises.
I was a sweaty mess after our exercise sessions.
After returning home in order to take care of my daughter and run my business, I would lay down on the sofa and not get up until it was time to collect my son from school. My body was completely spent.
I thought to myself, “Who ARE those people who say exercise gives them energy??? All it does for me is make me want to sleep for 10 years!”
I worked with this trainer for 6 weeks as a lead up to my summer holiday with “the GOAL” being to drop a dress size & look good in a bikini. You know how that goes, right?
And so the saga continued. I would try to do things on my own, do another diet…. and nothing was sustainable, not even exercise. After about 2 weeks I would catch a cold, get the flu or just feel unwell.
How to Attain Your Ideal Weight… Without Exercise
I won’t go into the long story of how I came to practise what I do today, but just know that I got to a point where I was just DONE. Done with the countless diets. Done with the countless exercise promises. Done with feeling crappy and no energy. Just done. And so, I asked the Divine for Guidance and voila! Here it is:
Banish the word EXERCISE from your vocabulary. There are so many counter-productive beliefs and messages around the word that it is, in my opinion, better to never use it again. Instead, I choose to use the word MOVEMENT.
We are energetic beings and in our energetic system we store beliefs, memories and memes thus causing a congestion in our energetic system. When there is congestion, there is no flow of energy. And without flow of energy our bodies don’t work well. They put on weight in certain areas related to the belief or memory or they create pain or tension. So, we must move.
Every morning before stepping out of bed, ask your body & soul this question: “How would you like to MOVE today?”
Before beginning your movement make an intention for what you desire the movement to DO for you. Your intention could sound like this: “My intention is that this movement unblocks any and all energy congestion within me so that energy flows freely throughout my body and elegantly brings me to my ideal weight.”
Enjoy the movement and Thank your body for supporting you.
Two of my Favourite Elegant Movements
My Morning Movement Ritual. (Watch the video above, specifically at minute 2:00)
Kundalini Legs (Watch the video above, specifically at minute 10:15)
What I Recommend For You Now
Now you have the 4 Steps to Elegantly Attain & Maintain Your Ideal Body! (If this is the first time you’re seeing this series, start back at Video #1 HERE)
If you’re anything like me you won’t want this series to end here. With anything new, I like to be hand held a bit until it becomes a habit or fully integrated into my life.
I plan on sharing all my extra little secrets that I didn’t have time to share with you during this series. Plus, from my teaching days, I know that the best way to learn something is a little at a time, so one doesn’t become overwhelmed and do nothing out of confusion.
No, I want you to say, “Erin, thank you SO MUCH! I cannot believe that getting to my ideal weight could be this easy and elegant! I am LOVING myself and feeling so incredible!”
So, on Friday, I will be pre-launching a gorgeous program that will hand hold you through this process. Hey, if my mom, who can’t work out hard, can lose 2 dress sizes in 6 weeks then you can too!
Set an alert on your calendar for Friday, April 21st to come back to the blog to see what this is all about.
A quick teaser of just THREE of the gems in the program:
ONE – My Secret trick to use when eating a non-high vibe food, like chocolate cake or white pasta. Your body will enjoy the food and you won’t gain weight from it! YES!
TWO – My Top 6 Elegant Movements that I have found work best for most women; movements that are simple, short & highly effective (and don’t leave you huffing and puffing!)
THREE – 5 Beautiful, High-Vibe Breakfasts, Lunches, Snacks & Dinners for you to choose from each day so you can make conscious choices that taste amazing and are oh, so pleasurable. The weight will melt away as you savour deliciousness!
See you on Friday with all the other juicy details!!
Have you ever eaten a meal and felt bloated or like you want to go to sleep afterwards? How about a bit depressed or “low” and you have no idea why?
I used to have all of those experiences. I couldn’t figure out why I would eat a healthy meal and soon after feel bloated, sleepy, a bit grumpy or even depressed. What was wrong with me?
It was certainly not my intention to eat and feel this way! So what was going on? Of course, you know the pattern. Search the internet, find a book, purchase it, follow it and not really feel or see the fantastic results it promised. Yep, I had a mini library of these!
Until I threw all the books away and proclaimed that I would never diet again. The diets never brought me joy or peace, sooooo….what was my plan?
I had been having success with manifesting wealth, experiences, opportunities, etc. so I wondered, could my Elegant principles be used for this as well? I tried and it worked!
How I Started to Lose Weight & Have Energy
The first thing I always teach is to set an intention for what you desire. So, I desired to have energy and vitality and to be toned and slim. (Of course I went into more detail, but in general that’s what I wanted).
Then, as I teach my clients, I surrendered and waited for Divine Inspiration to guide me on how to have more vitality, energy and a slim, toned body.
Once I felt Divinely guided I listened. I listened about what to eat at each meal (see video#2in this series), and I listened to what my body did NOT want anymore and stopped eating that.
I began finding information about “high vibration foods” everywhere! So I ate more of them.
I asked myself a question every day, which I will share with you next week.
What Foods Give You Energy & Vitality
Now, I wanted to feel energetic and full of vitality.
How do YOU want to feel?
What words come to you? Happy? Energetic? Fully of Vitality? Clear? Light?
What if I told you that the choices you make in terms of food have a direct effect on how you feel?
From what I have learned from my mother, a holistic nutritionist, my sister, a naturopathic doctor, and my friend/client Dr. Simone Laubscher (creator of the Super Elixir), is that if you desire to feel high vibe you need to feed your body high vibe foods.
As you know from my previous videos, everything in this universe, us included, is energy. And that energy can be measured.
You unknowingly measure someone’s energy when you immediately feel down or joyful in someone’s presence.
Well, food is no exception. You can measure the vitality a food has. When we eat high vibe foods we take on that energy!
So, if you desire to feel full of energy and vitality all you need to do is eat a lot of foods that measure a high frequency. Simple right?
Well, unless you’ve been immersed in this, like I have, you wouldn’t know what is high frequency or not.
To put it simply, high frequency foods are foods that come in their natural state. (See some of my favourite high vibration foods and how I prepare them in the video above at minute 6:00)
High Frequency Foods
Here are just some of my favourite high frequency foods:
fresh, organic fruit
fresh, organic vegetables (particularly anything that is green)
whole grains like oats, quinoa, brown rice
beans & lentils
nuts & seeds
Now, before you say, “Oh, Erin, this doesn’t sound very “pleasurable” or “French” to me! I thought you said Spiritual Women can eat anything they want and be slim.”
Oui, oui, they can, come see how!
How to Eat Non-High Vibe Foods
On videos 1, 2 & 3 I told you that you need to let the Divine be your guide on what you eat and how much. You’ve practised that, right????
I also shared with you that when you beautify and frenchify your food you tend to eat slower, eat less, and ENJOY the food so much more. You’ve brought out those gorgeous plates and silverware or even bought new ones, right?
Okay, so now, I’ve just told you that if you want to feel light, clear and full of energy and vitality you need to choose foods that can be measured at high frequencies. Are you confused?
A croissant or chocolate éclair wasn’t on that list! Here’s how this all works…
Image from Alrifai: The Irresistible magazine
Spiritual women know how they want to feel and consciously, intentionally choose foods that will gift them the frequency of this feeling.
However, a Spiritual woman also asks her soul what it desires to eat and if her soul says it would LOVE to savour a piece of dark chocolate cake then she does. (after asking how much of that chocolate cake it desires to eat).
If you berate yourself for eating that cake you will be creating negative energy and therefore ingesting negative, low energy. If you ENJOY that cake slowly and fully with pleasure then you will be raising the energy of that food.
There’s also a little secret that I use to boost the vibration even more which I share in my program “The Elegant Guide to Your Best Body” (I taught it to my hubby this weekend and his reply?
“Man, that shit works!”
Okay, not so Elegant, but I’ll forgive him:)
Keep applying all three Elegant Principles you’ve learned so far throughout this week and then meet me back here next week for the final post which will explain EXACTLY how I slimmed down without “exercising”.
Here are links to the past videos just in case you’ve missed them.
P.S. If you are feeling in alignment with this way of attaining and maintaining your best body then I suggest heading straight HERE. You can get get started today and within a week you will feel more peaceful, confident and full of vitality than you have in a very long time.
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