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The Making of a Spiritual Woman: Video #3 (Abuse)

Dear Diary, I don’t even know how to start to describe what happened after our games night with friends. We were having a fun time, enjoying nice snacks and drinks but when we were going home, I told David that I would drive because I had only had 1 1/2 drinks the whole night. He was drunk. He refused to give me the keys. We argued, as usual, but he refused to give the keys to me. I was so tired that I stupidly got in the car just to avoid another huge argument with him, but as he drove, I got scared; not just for me but for other people on the road. I told him to pull over. He said no. So I threatened to jump out of the car. He pulled over and started screaming at me. I was so disgusted at how he wouldn’t just hand me the keys to keep us and everyone else safe! How hard was that??? He refused, saying I was exaggerating, so I said, “Well, if you want to kill yourself be my guest, but I won’t be staying in this car with you.” As I went to open the door. He grabbed my hair and put me into a head lock. I was so scared because I’d never seen him like this before. It was like a demon had come into him.

Why was he so determind to drive?

I was choking, so I began fighting him. I remember seeing on Oprah to scratch at a guy’s eyes, so I did whatever I could to get him to let go of me. I must have hurt him because the next thing I know he opened my door, called me a bitch and kicked me out of the car onto the street. I was totally and utterly in shock. All I remember doing was getting up and running. Thank God we were close to my mom and dad’s house, so I was just going to run to there. Soon, I started hearing a car’s tires squealing and an engine revving louding. It was our car coming straight down the street that I was running! I was so scared so I found a bush to duck down behind. As I crouched behind this bush I thought to myself, “Erin, you are Nicole Brown Simpson.” (How ironic that on the night of my stagette we all watched the TV in disbelief at OJ Simpson runninng away from the poice in his white Bronco).

Deep inside my soul I knew at this moment that it was over between David and I.

The out of control car continued to squeal it’s way through the residential streets until finally the night went silent. Frightened, I cautiously walked to my parent’s house. My sister let me in and I went downstairs to go to sleep. I didn’t say a word to Jana about the incident. I never did share our problems, out of humiliation.

Soon, I heard David’s voice.

Oh, shit! He starts yelling to my sister, “Where’s Erin? She gone crazy! She was scratching at my eyes. She’s gone crazy!” My sister dind’t know what in the world was going on, so she showed David where I was and said, “Erin, what’s going on???” I stomped up the stairs towards David and said, “Get the H__LL out here!!! It’s YOU who was drunk and was choking me! Don’t you EVER lay a hand on me again! Get out!” David got so angry he pushed me down the stairs. I began sobbing and yelled, “GET OUT!!!!!” Thank God he left. I went into my bed, curled up in the fetal position and said to myself, “It’s over. That’s it.” The next morning I was woken by the telephone. It’s was David…

Click HERE for a very different kind of post…yes, it’s not ALL drama…tomorrow I begin to experience ROMANCE! 

With Love, Erin Kurt

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The Making of a Spiritual Woman: Video #2 (Marriage Counselling?)

Dear Diary,

What a life I lead. I”m sure it’s the same for everyone, but sometimes you feel like, “Can’t I have fun for a long period of time without some big crisi happening all the time?”

David had been going to counselling and things were great for about 2 weeks. (this is his pattern). Then one day he just reverted back to the old David.

I was so exhausted from teaching, tutoring and teaching piano with the house STILL not being finished that I just had a breakdown.

I told David that I didn’t know if I wanted to be married, that I wanted to go to France, that I wanted to date other guys – I just wanted out of my life!

He thought we both should go to counselling so we went.  After the session we had a masssive argument over…get this…a POTATO!

I told him I was okay to go home and make something quick, a baked potato.

He said, “No, I don’ t want to have to clean up. Let’s get fast food.”

I said, “You can get something but I’ll wait to have my potato at home.”

He kept badgering me saying, “No, Erin, Let’s get fast food.”

Finally, I looked at him and said, “I’m OK with this. I’ll have a potato. You get what you want, OK?”

He accused me of controlling the conversation. 

What????

I said, “David, you are telling me what I can and cannot have.  Just get yourself some fast food and let’s be done with this!”.

Again, he insisted.  Now I went pyscho. I screamed, “David, this is about a POTATO!”

He said, “Why can’t you compromise?”

I said, “I thought I did!”

This was ridiculous!  I am going to tell the counsellor about this at our next session. I can’t take this anymore.

I bet Matt, the Vice Principal, would never treat  his girlfriend this way.

Tomorrow we’re going to our friends house to play games. That should be fun.  I am really just wanting life to feel happy again.

Please God, I don’t know how much longer I can take this.

Click HERE for Part 3 of “The Making of a Spiritual Woman” where so much occurs and so much is decided…or is it?

With Love,

Erin Kurt

 

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The Making of a Spiritual Woman: A Pilgrimage that Began in Paris Video #1)

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As I sat on a park bench in yet another stunning park in France, I stared up at the sky and said to Guy, my friend, “I just want to be happy, Guy.  I just want to be happy.”

He replied very simply, “Well, that’s a very good goal to have.”

His answer seemed too simple. Too unemotional.  I felt dead inside, couldn’t he understand that?

I arrived in France an excited, but broken woman, and after the exhilaration of preparing and settling in to my beloved France, all my issues came rolling in to be healed.

I was so excited to be in France, as it had always been a dream of mine to live there, but real life set in and I wondered how I was going to feel genuinely happy…within my heart.  Or maybe it was inner peace I was seeking?  I didn’t know.

To say I was confused was an understatement.

I had had so much drama in my life.  One thing after another kept happening and I was exhausted, particularly after the recent event that I left behind in Canada.

Yet, a tiny piece of my soul was still shining and it desired more out of life.

It desired more of EVERYTHING…


One year earlier… ( from my actual diary)

“Well, here it comes – life has really gotten to me today.  I have to write in her today because I have a major decision to make – whether David and I stay together or not.

There has been so much going on with us for so long that I’ve not written about, so I don’t even know where to start.

I guess things REALLY started to escalate when we got married.  The constant berrating of how I did or didn’t do things.

How he used to “teach” me how to wipe the counter tops.

How he used to “teach” me how to get out of the shower so that no water went on the floor.

How I had to wrap the remote control in plastic and every day unfold a layer so no finger prints got on the remote.

I was literally backed into a corner so many times during arguments where I screamed at him to stop controlling me.

But this wasn’t all. We constatnly fought about money. In fact about 50% of our arguments are over money.  He gets so stressed about it that he takes it out on me.  He has started to become verbally abusive.

He doesn’t even allow me to have my own credit card!  And, I’m the one teaching all day, coming home, tutoring students, cooking dinner, doing the dishes, then going to teach piano so we can get this f—king house fixed up!

There is so much more I could say, but I was totally going into a depression.  I felt trapped in a horrible marriage.

I finally told David and things got a bit better but after 2 weeks everything returned to normal.  One night I was lighting candles for dinner and he blew them out.  “Why do we have to act?”, he said.

I felt my heart drop into my stomach. 

Was this going to be my life???

Today, my sister and I came home from enjoying a nice moccahino and David asked what price I got for my car insurance.  It turned out to be slightly higher than what he found and he flipped.

My stomach clenched and then I said calmly, “We’re going to work out down stairs.”

He then said, “It’s 4:30 and you haven’t even cooked dinner.  What am I going to eat?”

I got so mad and thought, “I don’t know, what ARE you going to eat???” But I said, “I’ll make you something after I exercise because Jana has to get home soon.

He slammed the door and walked out. 

After Jana went home David and I talked and argued and then decided that he definitely had to see a counselor for his stress and anger issues.

I love his soul but he has so much baggage to work out.

We need to re-start our relationship – to remember who we were when we fell in love with each other.  Should we live apart and date again to try and start over?

I’ll see how things go with the counselor but I am serious about having to end things. 

Having it be so close to being a reality is so heart wrenching, unbelievable, sad… and scary!

Oh my God, I feel something inside but I don’t want to admit it….

The Vice Principal at my school is in my head and I can’t stop thinking about him!

*Some names have been changed to protect their privacy*

Click HERE for  Part 2 of “The Making of A Spiritual Woman”. 

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The Elegant Formula for Manifesting Your Dreams

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Ahhh…Manifesting one’s dreams….Are you always thinking about the future, what you desire for the future, and lamenting where you are right now in your life?

Oh, do I know this well!!!

I used to live in a constant state of dissatisfaction.  Yes, of course I had good times, love and happy moments in my life, don’t get me wrong…

But in my thoughts, in those quiet moments with myself, in my heart, I always wished for something I didn’t yet have.

Can you relate?

The Mistake Women Make When Manifesting

When I was struggling with my prosperity, I was almost obsessed with reading books, watching “The Secret” and other videos, buying products, and practising techniques. Little did I know,  I was actually promoting and attracting what I didn’t have!!!

I was focusing on the LACK of prosperity I had in my life.  Oops!

It’s crazy, isn’t it?  We think the harder we work at something the better and quicker it’ll appear in our life, but whoa is that ever the wrong way to approach things.

The Elegant Life is what I discovered when I learned how to set an Elegant Intention™, how to Elegantly clear what was blocking or inhibiting the things I desired from coming into my life and then Surrendering the outcome to the Divine.

You’ve heard me say this before so I won’t go too much into that right now.  However, what I promised last week was that I would share what you SHOULD do after you’ve set your intention, cleared and surrendered.

What to Do Once You’ve Surrendered

Ready?

What do you do while waiting for your desired life to be your reality?

You LIVE…elegantly.

What does this mean?

Most people are trying to DO more to BE more, but it’s completely the opposite.

When you focus on BEING and ENJOYING, you will notice how life just starts to flow and the “doing” will be more graceful, elegant and full of ease.

I’ve mentioned this before as well, but one of the best questions you can ask yourself is:

“Who do I desire to BE in my life?”

Diane Von Furstenberg said, “I didn’t always know what I wanted to do, but I always knew the woman I wanted to BE.”

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Who do you desire to BE?

Really spend some time journalling about this and even meditating on it.

A fun idea here is to think of a woman you admire and then deduce what it is that you admire about her.  It doesn’t have to be just one woman, it could be many!

Some of mine are:

Amal Clooney – intelligence, elegance, natural beauty, humour, elegant style

Elle MacPherson – elegant style, natural beauty, does movement she enjoys, nourishes her body with alkaline foods, a down to earth, sucessful entrepreneur and mother

Ines de la Fressange – elegant, simple style, REAL, unpretentious, French, simple hair and makeup, lives authentically with her style, her home, her books, her store,  knows who she is and enjoys life.

Can you see the patterns?

 “How can I BE like this TODAY?”

Ask yourself this each and every day!  And soon, you will BE this woman naturally.

People from my past were and still are in awe of how totally different I am compared to 18 years ago.

I never felt comfortable hugging people.  Now, hugging is something I feel compelled to do! Even while living in Europe where it’s all about the “kiss on the cheek”;)

I was VERY self conscious – never wanting to do things for fear I’d fail, for fear of not being good enough or just out of pure insecurity and shyness.

People simply cannot believe that I’ve done what I’ve done and accomplished what I’ve accomplished. I wouldn’t either except for the fact that I feel this is my “normal”, and that the old Erin is just a faded memory. I can’t believe I was ever so insecure!

Let’s get this back to you now…

Questions for you to ask yourself:

If you were that woman who you desire to BE, what would you DO?

♥ What would you ENJOY?

♥ How would you DRESS?

♥ What would your home look and feel like?

♥ What music would you listen to?

♥ What movies or TV would you watch?

♥ What books or magazines would you read?

♥ What kind of friends would you have?

♥ What foods would you eat?

♥ Where and how would you travel?

Your life may look SO different from what you desire, but just move elegantly, step by step through this transformation.

It’s not a race.  You’ve already determined your destination.  Now, just live that way to whatever extent you can each day.

Want true friends? 

Begin to clear your Facebook “friends”.  Move towards clearing people from your life who don’t match the type of people you desire to have in your life.

THIS is elegant manifesting.

Want a soul mate? 

Become clear about who you want your ideal partner to BE.  What would you ENJOY together? Start doing some of those things yourself!  Focus on being the woman who would attract such a partner.

Maybe you desire for your partner to be kind and patient and plan special things for you to do together.  Start being kind and patient with everyone around you, including yourself!  Plan special outings with friends and family and even for yourself! Yes, even for yourself:)

Perhaps you could go to the cosmetics department to discover your signature look.  Enjoy doing feminine things for yourself such as applying body oils, buying the perfect dress or outfit for dates.  Sleep on one side of your bed in order to make space for your partner. Get the picture??

Desire financial freedom?

Spend time visualising you living your ideal day.  How and when would you wake up?  What would you eat for breakfast?  What would your house look like? (My 6 PHASE Visioning Meditation is PERFECT for this! It’s what I do at least once a week)

Go through your whole day focusing on what you are doing and how you are feeling.  Focus on raising your personal frequency (using my Elegant Guide to Prosperity) so that you are a vibrational match to money.

Save up to purchase an expensive item that makes you feel prosperous!

ENJOY tea or coffee in luxury hotels to put your energy there and become a vibrational match to luxury.

In essence, while you wait for your desired life, spend time doing, being and enjoying that which your soul desires!

It may not be exactly as you imagine just yet, but you have to begin to step into that existence. Plus, it’s fun!

The interesting part is that when you ARE actually living the life you desired it will feel so much like your “normal” that you kind of don’t remember when it became your life!

“One day, in a sudden moment, you’ll look at your life and say, “Oh my goodness.  I desired this and now look at me!  It’s my life!”

Along the way, as you practise being who you desire to be, enjoying every aspect of your life and doing things that feed your soul, the Universe will be elegantly orchestrating conditions to make your desired vision a reality, often being even better than you envisioned.

Don’t Fixate on the Outcome

Please don’t fixate on the outcome.  You will just be resonating in a vibration of , “I don’t have __________ yet!”  Which will keep you in conditions where you don’t have ___________!

This is not elegant manifesting.

Your health and emotional wellness will also suffer.

Your relationships will suffer.

You’ll waste so much energy and time worrying instead of experiencing this exquisite thing called LIFE!

Instead, spend your time in pleasure, joy and alignment with Source.

And, keep doing the Elegant Clearing Process™ that I will teach you.

THIS is the secret sauce. Trust me.

I’ll leave you with this… perhaps you can print it off and keep it somewhere visible so that you are consistently reminded that it is a CHOICE to live The Elegant Life and you CHOOSE to live it!

A Woman Who Lives Elegantly isn’t concerned with a to-do list,

she is more concerned with who she’s being

and how her energy

is impacting the world.

A Woman Who Lives Elegantly isn’t necessarily one who wears a Chanel suit;

a woman of elegance has a radiating and glowing inner peace

that is sensed when she walks into a room,

and that energy is chanelled into everything she does,

she knows who she is,

has complete faith in her ability to create what she wants,

and understands that her journey

should be just as beautiful

as the destination.

Much love,

Erin Kurt

 

 


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How the Divine Can Elegantly Manifest Things for You

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As requested by readers I will share the gorgeous story of how elegantly the Divine orchestrated the events necessary for us to manifest our dream of owning a home, on a certain plot of land, by the Sea. Wait until you read the STUNNING part near the end!

Here’s the background…

We owned a property in Turkey since 2007. My husband is orignally from Turkey and we just love going there every summer because of the exquisite healthy food, the amazing blue sea, the generosity of the people to bring you anything, literally ANYTHING you desire, and the beautiful weather.

Not to mention visiting his family;)

When we purchased our first home  in Turkey we renovated it and loved it, but it never truly felt like ours because my husband’s parents lived there more than we did, and therefore changed some of our decorating to suit their needs. You know, sheets on sofas…ahem…not my thing;)

The one thing that stayed the same was the sea…ahhhhh, the SEA…. It-is-stunning!

Every year we would swim in the sea and stare up at a piece of land just a hop, skip and a jump away from the beach, the restaurants, the walkway and nightlife.

The problem was that this land had been held up in the courts for one reason or another and couldn’t be released for development.

Every year we said, “Man, if that land ever came available we would SO want a house there.”

“Can you imagine?” we’d say to each other.

Visioning the Dream

At this time I didn’t fully understand how to manifest things in my life, but I’m a dreamer, so I did what felt natural and began picturing myself  living in a home on that land.

I envisioned myself eating on a balcony, staring at the blue sea and feeling so blissfully at peace and happy.

Years went by, six to be exact.

A different piece of land opened up that was right by the sea.  Whoah!!!  A superb, famous developer bought the land and created a prestigious community.

We toured these homes in awe of the luxurious lifestyle people were living.

The prices were very, very expensive and at that time we did not have enough to purchase one.

So, we continued to dream and follow The Art of Living Elegantly.

The next summer we saw some new, state of the art homes being built on the other side of the bay.  These were GORGEOUS!!! When we drove up to them, I felt, “This is ME. This is what I desire to live in and enjoy.”

The price tag?

€1, 300,000.  At this time we were doing much better financially since my business had really taken off.  We contemplated how we could make it work, but it was still going to be a stretch that we really didn’t want to take on.”

I stood in the show home and put my energy there.

My whole being said, “I WILL have a view of the sea like that and I WILL write my next book overlooking that view.”

What to Do While You Wait for the Universe

Summer holidays were over and when we returned home, I filmed a video telling my online community that I had just found my home and I was going to manifest it.  I posted a link to it and claimed to the Universe that it was mine.

My husband loved the house, but he kept saying, “It’s on the wrong side of the bay though.  It’s going to get direct sun all day making it so difficult to enjoy the balcony and outdoor area. Plus, you can’t walk to the sea, you have to drive.  That’s not what we want.”

I became a bit grumpy with him because I felt he was dimming my vision and being negative.

Periodically, I would watch the advertising video for the house.  I couldn’t get the image of me, writing my next book, with that view, out of my mind!

You Have to Surrender to Manifest

Anyway, I surrendered my desire to the Universe, knowing that it wasn’t up to me anymore and did what I know works….to carry on living my life with pleasure and beautiful experiences so my energetic vibration would be high.

The following summer we went to Turkey a bit earlier than usual.  My parents were visiting us in England and hadn’t yet been to our Turkey house.

We had never, ever gone in May, but this time we decided to go earlier with my parents.  What did we see?

The land of our dreams had diggers on it!

What was going on we wondered???

Then we saw a sign.  A sign of the prestigious company who had develped the expensive & luxurious development by the sea previously.

There was a sales office set up, so we went in to enquire.  They told us the land had FINALLY been released so they bought it.  They were going to be creating another luxury development on it.

AHHHHHHH!!!!!!

You can imagine our excitement, but wait… this story only gets better!

It turned out that the owner of this company was around…just by chance (yeah…right;)

They said we could speak with him. He was so down to earth and kind.

He told us that most of the plots had already gone to people who had bought other properties from him in the past, but he was very open to showing us the plots he had left.

We walked around the vacant plots of land and were squeezing each other’s hands constantly.  We could not believe what was happening.

Then, after choosing which plot we loved best, without even receiving any money from us, he called his personal secretary, told her to assign this plot to us and said, “Let me know in a month if you want it. We’d love to have you here.”

The rest of the trip we were absolutely giddy. We started planning how we could gather the funds.

Back in England…Taking Divine Inspired Action

Once we arrived back in England, we went to the bank, looked over our finances and although it was going to be a stretch, we knew that our Life Vision for the future was to live 6 months in Turkey and 6 months in London and around the world, so we’d make it work.

We immediately put our current home in Turkey up for sale, and within 3 1/2 weeks we sold the house! But… not for the exact amount we wanted, or needed.  Hmmm, this could be a problem…

Here comes the stunning part…

My husband decided to book a flight to Istanbul where the developer’s office was so that he could speak with the owner directly and ask to set up a special method of payment.

He arrived at the appointment and the guy wasn’t there.  His personal secretary told my hubby that her boss had been trying to finalize a deal for years and today was the final meeting… and it wasn’t going well, thus the lateness.

At this point my hubby called me and said, “The guy is not going to be in a good mood if that deal doesn’t go ahead. I’m not sure how to handle this.”

I told him that we needed to do our Elegant Clearing Process™ together until he arrived.  We had to have zero expectations and just clean, clean, clean to remove any obstacles that we may not be aware of that could hinder us getting the land.

Clean and clean we did, when all of a sudden the man appeared.

The Elegant Moment of Manifestation

With a huge smile on his face the man said, “I just made 2 million dollars and I’m in a GRRRREAT mood! Today’s your lucky day, sir. You tell me. What do you want to pay?”

My husband shared with me that at this point he was in shock.  What?  The man was asking what we wanted to pay for the land?  What do you say to that?

I think the man could see how stunned my husband was so he led him into his office and said, “Look, I give friends a price and I’d be willing to give it to you for this too.  How does $__________ sound?”

He took 300,000 off the price!!! Can you even believe it?

The end of this story is that we are now living in our home, in one of the most prestigious communities, on the plot of land we dreamed about for years.

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Again, you really could not dream up this scenario, could you?

Being in Bodrum, in May, exactly when the developer was there.

And, the developer finalizing a HUGE sale and gifting us 300,000 off the purchase price.

I mean…. if this doesn’t give you faith in the elegance and ease of how the Universe can manifest, I don’t know what will. (Well, I’ve got other incredible stories to share with you, but all in time;)

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So, again, the reason I share this story with you is not to show you how “wonderful” my life is, but to show what is possible for YOU and to inspire you to KNOW deep within yourself that the Divine wants the absolute best for you.

The Divine is MORE than willing to elegantly manifest that which you desire, if it’s in the highest good for you and everyone concerned.

Each time you set an intention, then clean and surrender to the outcome, beauty and elegance is bestowed upon you and your dreams will manifest.

Divine Timing

Now, remember, we have only some control over the timing.  My hubby and I dreamed of this land for years!  By the time we moved in last year, it had been almost 8 years since we first started dreaming of that land.

We often want things NOW, and that isn’t necessarily the best for us.  We’ll never understand why at the time, and if we let it bother us, we can get really, really bothered.  But, as I’ve said over and over again, the timing and the “how” is none of our business.

Don’t get me wrong, when you follow The Art of Living Elegantly, manifestations can be almost instant or within a day or two.  I’ve experienced countless quick miracles, but some take longer.

Sometimes we need to go through or experience certain things so that we can BECOME the woman who can fully receive that desire.  Our desire will not manifest until we are ready.

We think we’re ready, but when that desire actually manifests we see why it had to manifest now instead of earlier.

You may say, “Well, while I wait for my desire to manifest, what do I do, Erin?”

Ahhhh…. that’s the other beautiful part of the Elegant Life Formula….

If you desire to create a life you LOVE and become an Elegant Manifestor,  I would highly recommend you have a look at The Art of Living Elegantly.

Here’s to our desires!!!!  Here’s to miracles!!!!  Here’s to The Elegant Life!

“See” you next week!  I wish you an incredibly pleasurable rest of the week and weekend.

With love,

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