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Ladies! Are you up for a Beautiful Challenge?

About 2 weeks ago, the Divine told me that I was to focus on Self-Love in February.

Normally in February the world focuses on “relationship” love, but I know (and you know) that the only way to attract or experience the type of love you desire in your life is to be in complete & total love with your SELF.

Self-Love changes everything. How?

The Top 5 Benefits of Self-Love:

1. You don’t “need” anyone to make you happy.

2. You effortlessly become or maintain your ideal weight.

3. You attract friends and lovers who truly love you & bring you joy.

4. You attract & manifest what you desire with ease and elegance.

5. You are able to make a real impact as you serve your purpose on earth.

Of course there are many, many more benefits of self-love, but these are at the top!

Now, the word “self-love” has never really resonated with me. I don’t know why but I felt no connection to it. It didn’t stir up a desire for me to change or work on myself.

Can you relate?

I’d see a headline on the front cover of a magazine about Self-Love and either roll my eyes, thinking, “Not again” or “Boring!”. The words just didn’t resonate with me.

But… what I realised is that I REALLY resonate with the word LOVE.

That one word feels FULL to me. It feels warm and all encompassing. I even love the way the word LOVE looks!

Most importantly though, I love the way love feels; when I give it and when I receive it.

By “give it” I also mean that I love the feeling when I “give love” to myself and fully “receive love” from myself.

Now THIS resonates with me. THIS has meaning for me and stirs up the desire to actually commit to doing it because I have felt the benefits and seen the benefits.

There are so many ways I have learned to give myself love. Here are just a few that have strongly impacted my life…

5 Ways to Give Yourself Love

1. Have a “Red Velvet Rope Policy” for your life. Bless and let go of anyone or anything that makes you feel anything less than loved or joyful.

2. Gift yourself things or experiences that your soul desires.

3. Make yourself a priority.

4. Have a daily ritual that honours who you ARE, as well as the woman you desire to BE.

5. Gift your body high vibrational foods in order to honour her.

BONUS!

Every day tell yourself 1 thing that you LOVE about yourself.

Each week in February I am going to elaborate on one of the ideas above. My intention is to share with you simple and pleasurable ways you can give LOVE to yourself so that you feel JOYFUL & PEACEFUL inside, and that your outer reality aligns with these feelings and therefore attracts all good things that are a vibrational match.

The other thing I was divinely guided to do was to create a 28 Day Self-Love Challenge! I’m SO excited! J’adore GIFTING!!!

Here’s how it’s going to work:

Head on over to either The Elegant Life’s Facebook Page OR Instagram Page and “Follow” or “Like” the page.
Each day in February, starting February 1st, return to the platform you choose to follow and watch for the post that looks like this:
In the comment section post 1 thing you love about yourself or your life.
If you comment on all 28 days your name will be entered into a luxurious giveaway! To acknowledge all the women who committed to cultivating self-love within themselves I will be adding their names to a draw and then gifting 1 woman from the draw a beautiful & highly luxurious gift that will be sent straight to her door!

Your name will ONLY be entered into the draw if you have “LIKED” or “FOLLOWED” one of the social media platforms listed above AND commented on all 28 days of the challenge. NO exceptions. A draw will be made on March 1st and the winner will be announced and contacted so that the giveaway prize can be promptly shipped. WOMEN ONLY.

ENJOY the process. ENJOY the feeling. ENJOY the LOVE!

Because, as the French would say… L’amour, c’est magnifique!

Gros Bisous,

signatt

quality friends — My friend and I in Paris!

I am back from the most amazing trip in Provence with two of my closest female friends. What a beautiful gift to have attracted these friends into my life.

It had been a long, long time since I travelled on my own with just female company and I truly cannot recommend it enough.

We laughed until we cried from take-off to landing 4 days later. You know that high pitch sound you make when trying to tell your funny story but can’t because you’re laughing so hard? That was us – I’m laughing right now just thinking about it!!!!

All three of us connected so deeply with one another, but also with ourselves.

My French girlfriend wrote me yesterday to say how thankful she was that I organized the trip as she hadn’t been away from her kids since having them 5 years ago (yes, 5 years!). She went on to explain how she finally felt reconnected to her old self and described how amazing that was.

(Excuse my poor “selfie” taking skills! LOL!)

If you have never booked a short trip away with the girls, set aside some time today or tomorrow to research places and book it. The feminine aspect of your soul will thank you deeply for it.

What if you don’t HAVE any quality friends?

You know the Elegant Clearing Process™ and other Elegant Processes I keep talking about? I used them to manifest these two beautiful girl friends.

You see, as I evolved as a person, I lost many friends and had to let some long time friends go.

I became quite down a few years ago as I didn’t feel like I had any truly close girlfriends who fed my soul, showed true interest in a friendship with me and allowed me to BE exactly who I was.

So…I created an Elegant Intention™ and used the Elegant Clearing Process™ to become very clear about the type of girlfriends I desired… and voila! All three ladies appeared so amazingly, you couldn’t write the script better, honestly.

The 3 Types of Quality Friends I Desired

I desired a French girlfriend so I could speak French with her and bask in my love of the French culture, French attitude and love of all things beautiful & pleasurable.

I desired a bubbly, energetic friend who adored getting together all the time; who would want to get together every week, and would text ME instead of always the other way around.

I desired someone with whom I could speak deeply about spirituality.

First came Sandrine, my French friend. A certain friend of mine would organise weekly get togethers at a Garden Centre play area so our kids could play while we enjoyed a coffee.

About 4 months after I had set my Elegant Intention for the kinds of friends I desired, Sandrine showed up at this gathering. Apparently, she was my other friend’s next door neighbour in an apartment.

My friend invited Sandrine along to the Garden Centre, and VOILA! we hit it off instantly and became close friends. The texts she sends me bring tears to my eyes daily. THANK YOU, UNIVERSE!

Next came Laura. Last year we were moving away from Windsor to a new area just outside of London. The person whose house we were moving into called me and said,

“Erin , you don’t know a Laura _____, do you?”

“I know of her. I’ve never met her, but I helped her get a job a long time ago. Why?”

“Well, I just happened to take the bus into work this morning and sat beside her husband. We got to talking and he’s from Canada. After talking, he said his wife knew you. It turns out they just moved from Houston and are living 2 blocks from the house! So, you’ll be neighbours!”

What are the chances???

Background story here:

10 years ago, I was retiring from teaching at a very prestigious school in Canada and my hubby sent me an email one day saying a collegue of his was asking if I would be able to help out his brother’s fiancé. She was coming from Ireland and needed a teaching job. “Sure,” I said. I emailed with her and helped her get a job at the school, but never met her.

This was Laura. After we moved to the new house, Laura asked to meet. She knew all my old teaching friends so we instantly had that in common, and just completely hit it off. She is bubbly, cheery, so kind and so much fun. And, guess what? She LOVES getting together…and would everyday if we could.

Finally, came Zeynep. Some other Turkish friends of ours invited Zeynep and her family to join a get together; I instantly loved her energy. As time passed, we realised we could speak very openly to each other.

quality friend — My friend and I at my home:)

As I evolved, she evolved. And, last year, we openly began discussing spirituality. She is on my wave length. I don’t have to filter, and we call eachother “soul sisters”.

Ta Da!!!

Manifestation of all my friends, done!

Now, as always, you know I don’t tell you this because I love talking about myself. I share it with you to offer you visual proof of how the Elegant Processes I speak of work.

I know that if you witness my story, your faith will build so that YOU TOO can elegantly intend and manifest that which you desire in your life.

The Universe does not judge. It does not decide what you can and cannot have. It’s neutral. Absolutely zero point, lovingly, neutral. You simply need to get into that zero point frequency and use the simple processes I speak of.

How do you get into that frequency?

Here’s what I want you to know – and it changed my life forever…

You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.

Read that again.

You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.

The amazing news is that it is SO SIMPLE to get into a high frequency…you just have to make it your #1 priority. Each and every day, this needs to be your focus.

Forget everything else, just focus on this for now.

If you haven’t seen my “Elegant Guide to Prosperity”, please click HERE. This will start you on your way, as it shares 14 simple and elegant ways to get and stay in the zero point, loving frequency.

Then, just keep following my posts, because ALL of the Elegant Processes will be revealed. Exciting, right??

Get ready, beautiful lady!

I am giddy with excitement to share all I have learned so that you can finally begin feeling lighter, more peaceful, more fulfilled, more prosperous, more beautiful and happier than ever before.

Here’s to the Elegant Life!!!!

Until next time,

Erin Kurt