If you’ve followed me and The Elegant Life for any period of time you know that I have experienced my fair share of abuse: sexual abuse, emotional abuse and “Oui” even some physical abuse. And not just abuse but huge disappointments! Huge losses!
Never in my wildest dreams did I see any of that coming when I was a child. I dreamed big dreams, I loved myself and overall I was a pretty happy child. That all changed when I was 15 years old.
I spent the next 25 years living, thinking and acting like a victim. I was entitled! My abuse, disappointments and losses affected every part of my life!
I made decisions, created barriers, built inner walls, distrusted people….. all because of my experiences.
Did staying in victimhood serve me? Yes! But in ways that weren’t so beneficial to the overall quality of my life.
If you’ve ever experienced abuse, bullying, power trips, relationship or career disappointments this video will serve you SO well. Ready to elegantly move from victimhood to EMPOWERMENT & JOY?
“See” you in the video!
Love,
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Welcome to Part 2 of this How to Elegantly Attract /Have a Fulfilling Relationship series!
I have received such wonderful comments from all over the world about Video #1! It really makes me happy to know that the training served so many of you. And thank you for sharing it with women you know as well!
In this video I go into specific ways you can raise your vibration so that you easily become a match to the partner/soulmate that you desire.
As you already know, our reality is totally created by US. We call into our lives that which is a vibrational match to us, so let’s learn ways to elevate our frequency so that having or attracting a fulfilling relationship is truly an elegant experience.
As always, I suggest you create some time to watch this video. Having it on in the background while you do something else is not helpful. Presence and focuson what you desire, a fulfilling relationship, IS helpful, so commit to that, okay?
With so much love,
Erin
If you are truly committed to having or attracting a fulfilling relationship then I highly recommend you join us at The Elegant Life Experience in Budapest, Hungary.
Is is going to be a LIFE CHANGING Experience. You will walk out, after an abundant, luxurious, deeply spiritual and profound four days, feeling, Beautiful, Whole, and Full of Joy, Love & Inner Peace.
Have you every desired something SO much but found it almost impossible to “let go and let God” as everyone suggests?
Then this post is for you!
I am going to share 2 ways to practise the art of letting go and letting God. One is a mindset shift and the other is advice that I bet you’ve not heard before. (Psst…it a theme here on The Elegant Life:)
January is a month where everyone is focused on goals, dreams and DOING.
Plans are made, goal are being set, memberships to gyms are being bought, and the focus is on pursuing, trying and desperately wanting their desire to manifest.
I know this pattern well as it was my “go-to” strategy my whole life! Set a goal, make a plan, push, pursue, obsess…you get the picture! The energy I was giving off was one of desperation and lack – not very elegant and definitely not a high frequency for manifesting!
This is completely opposite from what I do now and teach my clients to do.
And…this is exactly what Buddha did before he experienced enlightenment and true happiness.
Many people know the story of how Buddha sat under the Bodhi tree and awakened, however not many people know WHY he ended up sitting under that tree. He was in the same trap I was in and perhaps you find yourself too?
Watch the video above, at minute 2:54, to hear the real reason Buddha sat under the bodhi tree.
2 Steps to “Let Go and Let God”
Step 1: Surrender.
As you can see from Buddha’s story, pushing, trying and pursuing does not serve us. We must understand the Elegant Principle of the Universe:
As soon as you state your intention, Divine Consciousness sets to work to orchestrate everything needed to bring you your desire.”
The problem arises, for most women, when they don’t see any change in their reality and thus start doubting, feeling down, and obsessing even more on trying to figure out “the HOW”.
Spiritual Women who live elegantly, instead, focus on just BEING & await Divine Inspiration.
Do not attach. I’ll repeat that, “Do not attach to the outcome”.
Should we even have desires? Yes! Desires are feelings and feelings come directly from your Soul, which is your connection to the Divine. So yes! You wouldn’t have those desires if you weren’t intended to experience them!
However, instead of obsessing, spend your time & energy visualising your dream. See it vividly, in the greatest detail. FEEL it. Then…
Step 2: Get on With Living Your Life (filling it with JOY & PLEASURE)
I know I know, I harp on this regularly, but trust me, it’s the secret of experiencing The Elegant Life!
If someone would have told me this years ago, when I was in the obsessing mode, I would have thought, “Yeah, easy for you to say!” It was only when I reached mental and physical exhaustion that I finally said,
Screw this! If success means I have to work this hard and be disappointed countless times then I don’t want it. I’m done. I’ll just do this as a hobby out of enjoyment instead of trying to make it a business.”
After I made that conscious decision I felt the weight of the world drop off me.
I began feeling my creativity come out more. I did things I was too scared to do before, out of fear it would “upset” my followers.
I felt the pleasure in what I was doing again- the same pleasure I felt when I first started that business!
And what began happening? Opportunities just flowed into my life like magic. Calls for interviews in top national and international magazines and newspapers, ideal clients coming to me from referrals...the list went on and on. I learned what Buddha did and I invite you to learn it too…
The more you let go and let god (aka surrender) the more you allow Divine energy to do it’s work and flow through you and your life.
All that obsessive energy will be gone as will the manifestation of things and experiences on that same frequency.
Instead, you’ll be resonating at the levels of PEACE & JOY which are just under that of enlightenment – levels that bring in high vibration, exquisite miracles.
Please share your stories of when and how YOU have “let go and let God” – I know it will help so many women.
Do you know there are certain areas of your life where you need to Surrender? Share those too.
Recommendation
If you would like a perfect way of focusing on your dreams the elegant way and feeling joy and inner peace now, then I highly recommend The 6 Phase Visioning Meditation.
How would you like me to show you how to make these remaining moments of 2017 truly meaningful so that you move into 2018 with a whole new frequency, a frequency that allows you to step up and into your most elegant, exquisite life?
You may have had a year that didn’t turn out the way you expected it to.
Your dream may not have manifested.
You may have lost someone. Or you may have had to let someone go from your life.
Or, you may have gotten a new job! Received a promotion! Moved cities or countries! Whatever happened (or didn’t happen) in 2017, let’s make 2018 even better!
Step One – To End the Year Right
Reflect on what has transpired over the past year.
Take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the centre.
On the left side write, “What Things Served Me This Year”
On the right side write, “What Things Didn’t Serve Me This Year”
Complaining about what’s wrong in my life instead of focusing on being thankful for what IS good
These are just some examples that clients have told me. Your Soul will tell YOU what worked and what didn’t.
Step Two – To End the Year Right
Underneath your chart write this question:
“Choices I CHOOSE to make in 2018 are:”
Based on the answers in your chart, decide which items would have the most positive impact on your life in 2018.
I recommend listing 2-5 choices. No more. Just making ONE important choice is powerful enough, but try and go for at least 2.
Step Three – To End the Year Right
Be sure that you are following me on either Instagram or Facebook so you can learn when my New Years Facebook Training will be.
In this training I’ll be sharing my FULL process to end the year right. My hubby and I do this every single year and it is just gorgeous. We look forward to it!
So, be sure to follow on either Facebook or Instagram or…even better… be sure you are on our email list by opting in to any of our free gifts on this site. The most popular is the Ebook “The 5 Things You Need to Remove From Your Life TODAY to Manifest the Life You Want.”
I’ll see you next week with my December Favourites Video! My November Favourites was very popular so I’ve decided to continue with the Favourites Series every month!
It was a moment I’ll never forget… I felt complete bliss and fulfillment of every kind.
I was lying on the floor, covered in a warm blanket, listening to some peaceful music at a Spiritual Retreat when IT happened.
A Moment of PURE Fulfillment
Indigo and purple lights began swirling rapidly in my mind’s eye, faster and faster they swirled until I was no longer in my body, I was an energy, in union with Source Energy.
It felt like everythingness and nothingness all at the same time, and it was pure BLISS.
I’ve never really known how to fully express what happened to me but just recently I read in a book by Osho, that the Buddha describes “Nirvana” as meaning:
You have ceased to be; you are just an infinite emptiness like the sky. And the moment you are that infinity, you become full of stars, and a totally new life begins. You are reborn.”
Osho goes on to say,
Bliss is not something that you invent but something that you discover. Bliss is your innermost nature.”
Are You Craving Fulfillment, Bliss & Joy in Your Life?
The most popular question I receive from women is this…
“Erin, how do you find pleasure and personal fulfillment when you’re dealing with everything else going on in your life?”
Some of the “things” women mention are:
a parent recently passing
children getting ready or already having flew the nest
juggling the demands of raising children and work or running a business
health issues
Here’s what I always answer:
“Your level of fulfillment, success, health & bliss is directly related to the distance of where you are now to where you are in terms of knowing and embodying the fact that you are Divine Energy. That you are part of the the Source of All Energy – God.”
(Watch me fully explain this at minute 1:35 in the video above)
If the distance is wide between these two then your manifestations will take longer and your experience of life will be one of multiple growth opportunities so that you finally KNOW and EMBODY the truth of what you really are.
How do I know this? My gap used to be HUGE! Yet I felt I was a spiritual woman and a seeker of truth.
How to Close the Gap Between Where You Are Now & True Fulfillment
Six years ago I was in quite a state.
I was the mother of a newborn, after having a horrific birth experience (watch the video at minute 4:05 where I describe what made this such a medieval type birth!) with a 4 year old just starting school and an international online Parenting Business to run.
During the pregnancy of my daughter I was struggling with a few personal issues that made me fall into a depression, but after that birth experience I fell DEEP into depression.
Why? Because I felt completely abandoned by God. I had spent 3 months preparing myself to have a stunning, spiritual hypnobirthing experience and the fact that it went completely and utterly opposite from what I visualised made me…well…I’ll be brutally honest here…I gave God the finger.
I was done.
My world, my marriage, my body started crumbling down and I nearly lost everything after certain things took place.
Then a friend of mine told my husband and I about a Spiritual Retreat that was focusing on clearing our energy system.
It was at this spiritual retreat, after one particularly intense clearing session that I experienced what I described at the beginning of this post – nirvana and self-realization.
I walked out of this Spiritual Retreat reborn – literally. And life has never been the same…it’s been better than I ever dreamed – all of my desires, dreams, wishes have come true or are coming true as we speak…with elegance and ease.
What if I told you that I have created a Spiritual Retreat just for YOU that has never existed before?
For 3-4 months now I have been putting together the most beautiful, luxurious, elegant and sacred Spiritual Retreat that has never existed.
At this Retreat you will be doing the EXACT clearing sessions that I went through, with the SAME facilitator and oh, so much more!
I won’t go into all the specifics here, you can find them over at The Elegant Life Experience Registration Page HERE.
I talk about it in more detail in the video above at minute 9:30.
If what you read on the Registration page resonates with you, creates a feeling of excitement or desire, please know that this is a sign from the Divine that you need to be there.
Because you are a follower of The Elegant Life I am giving you “priority registration”. Please don’t spend time “thinking” about whether or not to go as I am only accepting 20 women for this Experience and there are ladies here in Dubai just waiting for the page to be open.
I am also doing many speaking engagements in the next few months and that will most definitely lead ladies to register.
This Experience will be THE BEST GIFT you will ever give to yourself! Trust me on that one! I cannot WAIT for women of every religion, faith, and belief system to evolve and elevate like they never knew possible!
There is an Early Bird Price as well, so be sure to take advantage of that. And better still, if you decide to come with a friend and share a room, your ticket is even less!
“See” you over on the registration page!
With SO Much Love,
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