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JUDGEMENT DETOX: How to Move From Judgement to Self Love

Let’s be honest…we’ve ALL done it. Yep—judgement.

We’ve looked at another woman and thought:

  • “Why would she wear that?”

  • “Well, SHE thinks highly of herself, now doesn’t she?”

  • “I don’t like her. She’s SO ______.”

I could probably write a 10,000-word post just listing the countless ways we’ve judged others.

But here’s the real question: what about the judgement we place on ourselves?

Self-Judgement Is the Harshest Kind

Do any of these sound familiar?

  • “How could I be so stupid?”

  • “She’s 55 and not overweight—what’s wrong with me?”

  • “What I have to say doesn’t matter. Others say it better than I ever could.”

At first, judging others and judging ourselves may seem like two separate things. But in truth, they’re deeply connected. When you judge another woman, it often mirrors a hidden judgement you already carry about yourself.

And this cycle of comparison and criticism erodes our self-worth, feminine confidence, and joy.

The good news? You don’t have to stay stuck there.

The Elegant 3-Step Judgement Detox

I’ve created a simple, feminine, and very elegant 3-step practice to release judgement—whether it’s about yourself or someone else—and turn it into self-love in just seconds.

Step 1: Pause & Notice

The moment you catch yourself judging, pause. Take a breath and simply notice the thought without shaming yourself for it.

✨ Ask: “What is this really about?”

Step 2: Reflect & Redirect

Behind every judgement lies a wound, insecurity, or unmet need. Instead of letting the judgement spiral, gently redirect it with compassion.

✨ Ask: “What do I truly need right now—acceptance, love, or reassurance?”

Step 3: Replace With Self-Love

Choose a higher perspective. Speak to yourself the way you would to a dear friend. Replace the judgement with a loving truth.

Examples:

  • Instead of “She thinks she’s so special,” try: “I admire her confidence. I can cultivate that too.”

  • Instead of “I’m not good enough,” try: “My voice matters. What I offer is uniquely mine.”

Over time, this practice rewires your thoughts and strengthens your self-love, confidence, and feminine grace.

Your Invitation

Next time you catch yourself in judgement, try this Judgement Detox and see how quickly the energy shifts.

✨ Let me know in the comments what judgement you’ve struggled with—and how this practice helped you turn it into self-love.

 

With SO Much Love,

ekurt
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CategoriesMANIFESTING CONFIDENCE, MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING JOY

How to Elegantly Stop Judging People AND Yourself

Have you ever felt judged by someone?

Perhaps you said something to your partner and they got really upset with you and you were completely taken aback because you totally didn’t mean it the way they took it?

Or, has someone ever told you that you just don’t have what it takes to _________. (You fill in the blank)

Or, that you are “short”, “overweight”, “stupid”, “shy”, “overbearing”…?

Judgement hurts. It can make us feel misunderstood, less than, embarrassed, angry, guilty and ashamed.

So…here’s a question for you, if feeling judged causes such hurt, why do we continue judging people ourselves?

And! Here’s the even bigger question, why do we continue judging OURSELVES?

In this week’s video I break judgement down and gift you a beautiful, loving & very simple way to stop judging people as well as yourself.

In this video you will learn:

  • When you are being judged, how to think about it so it can be a positive experience for everyone
  • EXACTLY what to do (and say) if you have been judged by others or by yourself
  • What it really means when you are judging people and yourself.

With SO much love,

ekurt