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How Negative Energy is Holding You Back & How to Clear it

“I would do that if_____________.” Have you ever said this?

I would do that if I felt better.

I would do that if I didn’t have to look after my kids.

I would do that if I lost 20 pounds.

I would do that if my boss wasn’t so…

I would do that if I knew how to……

How many times do we as women turn away from our Calling? Loads. How do I know this? I’ve been coaching women from around the world for 10 years AND I used to be a woman who consistently rejected her soul’s true Calling.

For those of you who have followed me you may be thinking, “What? Look what you’ve done over your lifetime? You’ve taught around the world, lived in France, written a book, created multiple online businesses? How can you say this?”

Well…

Underneath everything I have done in my life, there was always, always a yearning to really connect with the Universe and have a huge impact on people’s lives. I am not sure I even knew WHY, I just had this strong, innate desire to! (aka “my Calling”, but I didn’t know this back then)

Throughout my life I accomplished things that consistently allowed me to do my Calling to a certain level yet deep down there always felt like more. I got side tracked the odd time due to my incessant need to prove myself; that I was good enough & worthy enough.

I used to feel such comparison with my sister who was the natural achiever. She didn’t have to try, she was just naturally gifted at school, piano, poetry, speaking. You name it, she won an award for it. And as a result I felt less than. Not special enough. Not appreciated enough.

So as many women do, we go on with our lives living with a certain amount of negative energy and limiting beliefs within us.

And this holds us back from acknowledging & knowing our Calling as well as feeling worthy enough to accept our Calling…

And therefore, we move through our lives feeling:

held back
anxious
unfulfilled
nervous
resentful
exhausted & overwhelmed
scared
frustrated

You name it! And the reason why is because we KNOW we are meant for more in our life.

Our soul feels it. Craves it. Desires it. Yearns for it!

But…we come up with fantastic, very logical reasons why we can’t, and these very logical reasons keep those yearning feelings pushed down for a while, but…

They’ll always come back again, because a Calling is a Calling, and you were created to fulfil it, so the feeling will never leave you.

You may never DO your calling, but it will always BE there, yearning to be fulfilled. (That’s the definition of a tragedy in my opinion)

How to Move Forward When Negative Energy is Blocking You

The FIRST question to answer is…How did I go from feeling completely happy, fulfilled, blissful, whole and connected to the Divine after my life changing year in France

to feeling hopeless, totally disconnected, profoundly depressed and completely lost 14 years later?

How is that even possible? Well…I had reached a level of evolution and was required to evolve some more. In fact little did I know, this evolution was to be THE most profound spiritual experience I could have ever believed or wished for.

What happened?

Well, I’ll save that story for another time, but the short version was that a friend of mine asked if I would allow her to practise a clearing technique on me. She was training in it and needed some practise hours.

In the middle of our session she found an area that had some negative energy blocked so told me to “tone”. It’s like saying , “Ahhhhhhhhh”. The problem was that I couldn’t. I literally could not get a sound out! Watch the video above at minute 3:00 to see me demonstrate this bizarre experience.

After multiple tries my friend said, “Erin, when you finally release this you’ll be free”. I’ll never forget those words because at that moment that is really what I wanted – to be free from all the horrible unhappiness and depression I was feeling inside.

The BIG Clearing that Occurred!

After the session I went home to England and felt better, more open, but still felt that yearning to clear what I hadn’t been able to. So, when my friend emailed me a couple of months later saying that there was going to be a 6 Day Retreat where we would be doing A LOT of clearing my hubby and I said, “YES!”

This too is a long story that will be told (definitely at The Elegant Life Retreat I’ll be hosting in late May) but for now I’ll give you the short version.

One day during the beginning of the retreat I felt extremely down. I felt like I was so far from ever being able to feel the way I desired, that I didn’t “get” how this Universe worked and that the connection with my Divinity was almost non-existent.

The negative energy inside of me was huge. So much so that I went up to my room and wrote in my Journal all the frustrations I was feeling. I really didn’t want to go back down for the afternoon session but my husband came to get me and persuaded me to finish what we started.

We did another clearing and while I lay there afterwards I had THE most profound experience of my life. My physical body dissolved and I was at one with Consciousness – the energy of me was in union with the All energy- Divine Consciousness. I struggle to share what I felt because it is indescribable, but I sometimes say, “I had a near death experience without dying.”

I remember feeling like, “I never want to leave here” and I could hear my physical self saying, “Wooooowww”.

negative energy

Right after this I went up to my room and had downloaded to me Universal truths of how this Universe works, why we’re here, what we’re supposed to be doing and HOW to do it, how to manifest the life we want, how to experience this feeling of bliss consistently and more.

I had a KNOWING that:

a) We are part of this all encompassing Divine energy

b) We all have a Calling and when we clear the clutter and negative energy that exists in us we are able to live out that Calling and live Heaven on Earth.

When You Clear Negative Energy Your World Opens Up

Since that time 6 or 7 years ago, I have opened up even more and fully accepted who I was created to BE in this lifetime- A Spiritual Teacher of Divine Truths.

Last year I was told by Consciousness that The Elegant Life needed to expand even more. It needed to help women awaken and come back HOME to their Divinity, to assist them in reconnecting with Consciousness but also to fully accept and LOVE who they’ve been made to be and what their Calling is in this lifetime.

I’ll be sharing more about this in the coming weeks. (Squeal!)

A Gorgeous Sign That I am Truly Fulfilling my Calling

This summer, I travelled to the location I had been guided to host The Elegant Life Retreat in order to test it out and see if it really was the right location.

All I can say is….WOW! I will share this most exquisite story with you another time but if you watch the video above from minute 10:00-14:00 you’ll see a video I took in this location that gave me shivers, warmth, & utter surety that yes, Erin, this is it. This is it. And you are on the right path of fulfilling your Calling.

Now it’s YOUR turn! If you’ve been feeling a deep desire to BE more, DO more, or EXPERIENCE more in your life this is the time to Find Your Calling and Clear any Negative Energy that is blocking you from doing that.

I’m SO excited for you!

Life is about to get really, really Beautiful.

With so much love,

MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING PROSPERITY

How to Find Your Calling – PART 1 & PART 2

Forget Finding Your Purpose! You Need to Learn How to Find Your Calling.

Do you ever wonder whether or not you’re living your PURPOSE? Or whether you even have a purpose?

I have spoken to SO many women who either feel lost and confused about what their purpose is or simply depressed that they still haven’t found it.

The simple, elegant truth is that it’s not your purpose you should be focusing on, it’s your Calling.

You see I too used to focus on discovering my exact purpose in life. It felt finite – a place to find and then achieve. (Former Type A Personality for ya!)

When I finally had the Spiritual Truths downloaded to me, after attending a Spiritual Retreat, I understood that the only purpose any of us have is to expand Consciousness.

The Universe itself is continuously expanding. In fact, current research by cosmologists indicates that the universe may expand to eternity!

Now, since we come from this Source, this Consciousness, we too innately have within us the inclination to expand.

So, our Purpose is to expand Consciousness, but the way in which we help this Consciousness expand is through our Calling.

Each of us has our own unique Calling that is signature to us.

What IS a Calling?

The dictionary definition is: a strong urge towards a particular way of life or career; a vocation.

A more Spiritual definition is: The signature programming of your soul by which you help Consciousness expand itself.

An Elegant description would be: Something that you innately share with others that causes them to Experience, Be or Realise something.

2 Steps to Find Your Calling

Step 1:

Look back over your life and remember the happiest moments of you sharing something.

Notice how without you consciously “doing” anything, people experienced things like beauty, love, freedom, wholeness… just by interacting with you.

Can you remember feeling lit up, fulfilled, joyous and totally present? This will give you clues into your calling.

Has anyone ever complimented you on something that felt easy for you?

Has anyone ever said something to you that stuck in your head for years?

For me, I was raised in the Catholic faith. I didn’t connect with all the rules and protocol but I did connect with Jesus. He seemed to embody the characteristics of a kind, loving human and I looked to him as a role model as to how I wanted to be.

Then my mind was expanded by a powerful experience involving my puppy.

While my family was visiting some friends, my puppy ran off after being put outside by my father for peeing on the friend’s sofa. When we went to let him back in the house we couldn’t find him. We looked for DAYS, in a forest that surrounded this friend’s secluded home.

I was devastated.

Out of desperation, the mother of the family said, “Gosh, too bad we don’t know a physic.”

My mother instantly remembered one that she had heard about back where we lived. They called this physic and she described exactly where he was (on top of a hill in a field that used to be where a crop of hemp had grown, in a clearing like a small animal would rest in.)

Our friend knew exactly where this was so we drove the long distance to get there, decided to created a straight line and all walk forward.

I walked straight then all of a sudden heard a whimpering sound.

“Lucky?” “Lucky?” I cried out.

More whimpering came until I peeked around a tree and there, in a clearing, on a little patch of flattened out grass was my precious puppy.

I ran to him and called loudly to the others. We were beyond overjoyed! I really could not believe that he was exactly where that lady said he was.

From that pivotal moment, I began investigating how people could know things when they were in a completely different place.

What did this lady tap into in order to know this? I wondered.

And so my Spiritual understandings evolved.

As I evolved I found that I adored helping people. Every time I helped a classmate with something they struggled with I felt so whole, so fulfilled, so overcome with JOY & happiness.

When I was a teenager, a meditation teacher who could read people’s energies and auras, pointed to me and said,

“You. You my dear are going to do some beautiful things in this world.”

“I am?” I thought. I knew I wanted to be a school teacher, but what was going to be so special about me?

I ended up becoming a a high profile teacher who could turn around troubled children, help extremely shy children become unbelievably confident and help the average child become their best, most confident self.

Now, during my life I experienced quite a bit of trauma; abuse of all kinds, divorce, grief…and through all of that, the feeling that grew was DEEP empathy for people.

My constant statement was:

“You can never judge someone as you don’t know what they’ve been through.”

Later, I found myself in France, yearning for happiness. That’s all I wanted, but after going through one of the most difficult years of my life, I didn’t know HOW to be happy.

This is when my yoga teacher “friend”, Guy, introduced me to Buddhism. It was here that I learned how to embody the attributes of abundance, compassion, peace, health etc. Embodying these attributes gifts you an inner fulfilment so great that you begin to glow from the inside out.

I was finally able to walk around BEING these attributes instead of just wishing for them.

It was at this time that an internationally renowned Buddhist Lama honoured me by giving me the Spiritual name “Karma Changchun Paldra”, meaning “Radiant Light of Enlightenment Mind”.

meditation in france

I later became a parenting coach, helping stressed, overwhelmed, & exasperated parents to be the parent (and person) they desired to be.

The one comment I received from all my coaching clients and friends was always, “You are SO easy to talk to!” or, “I haven’t shared this with anyone, you are the first.”

And so on and so on and so on…can you see a pattern?

I LOVED helping people.
People have always, always opened up to me on a deep level after being in my presence for only a couple of minutes.
I experienced great trauma which gifted me the ability to understand people in a completely compassionate way.
I was gifted teachings that allowed me to understand how to be happy and feel fulfilled.
The Universe provided opportunities for me to learn & understand Divine Truths
I was given the natural ability to teach & inspire

Now, let’s move on to exactly how to state what your calling is.

Step 2:

Write in a brief statement what people naturally experience as a result of being in your presence or when they interact with you.

Complete this statement:

People Experiencing _________.

Other forms of this are:

People Realising _____________.

People Being _____________.

Word that might fill in the blank are:

freedom
love
beauty
abundance
unity within family
everything is possible
oneness with God/Source/the Divine

For me, I would write:

People experiencing unity & oneness with their Divinity.

In a retreat I’ll be hosting in May I’ll be going more deeply into how to find your Calling and how to weave it into your entire life and career, but for now, go through these two simple steps.

It will give you the ability to consciously come to every relationship or person you encounter and KNOW & FEEL that you are fulfilling your purpose AND your calling.

With so much love,

MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE, THE MAKING OF A SPIRITUAL WOMAN

The Making of an Spiritual Woman: Video #7 (Endings)

It was 9pm at night when the phone rang. It was David.

He wanted to talk.

In my mind there was nothing left to discuss and I was heartbroken because I had to put Lucky down the day before.

Lucky had been the dog I dreamed of, the dog my dad made me write a report about to show I would know how to take care of him. This little angel had been by my side for 17 years.

My puppy was so scared the day we entered the Vet’s office. He has a massive tumor and was in so much pain. He started shaking uncontrollably, crawling over my shoulder to try and get away as he must have felt something was going to happen.

I tried to hold it together when he peed on me out of fright. My sweet angel.

This day was one I told you would never happen.

I used to lie in bed with him when I was a young girl and say, “I will never put you down. I don’t know how people can do that. I love you, Lucky.”

And here I was, doing just that. I HAD to. Our whole family entered the room and I sat Lucky on the cold, metal table. I had my arm around him and then the vet came in to inject him.

The first try didn’t work and Lucky became agitated. All I remember is the sound of his scratching nails on the metal table, trying to climb up on me again. I broke down sobbing and then…

My sweet angel dropped slowing into my arms and he was gone.

Anyone who has ever had to do this knows the deep PAIN of this.

My puppy loved me unconditionally. He was the one who waited atop the sofa to see me come home from school each day. He is the one who sat silently by be when I cried over a heart break.

He was the one who would lick me uncontrollably when he was happy.

I couldn’t believe he was gone.

The loss I felt was profound.

And now, David wanted to talk…

I shared with him the devastating news that I had to put Lucky down and at first he was genuinely sorry. He knew how precious Lucky was to me.

Quickly though, he wanted to change the topic to us.

He was saying all the right things, being sensitive, admitting his wrong doings, his realizations. He wanted me to give us one more chance. He promised it would be different.

I was feeling very emotionally weak.

How could I end a marriage when someone was telling me all these things? I never thought I’d get divorced! I had to do the right thing and try one more time.

David saw I was opening to the idea so he tried to rush my answer. I asked him to give me a bit of time as I was still grieving from Lucky’s death.

He pushed, and when I said firmly, “David, I’ve just lost Lucky. I need some time”, David’s reply was, “Erin, he was just a f_cking dog!”

It was then that I knew… It. Was. Over.

I said, “You’ve just made my decision. Good- bye.” And I hung up.

I got ready for bed yet had a horrible feeling in my stomach. I felt that David might try and come over to continue this conversation. It was his pattern.

I got into bed, still feeling sick to my stomach when I heard the a car screech up to the house. The car door slammed and before I knew it he was ringing the doorbell nonstop.

It was 1:30am.

I started to get concerned that my parents would be woken up so I got out of bed.

Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding….he didn’t stop ringing the doorbell.

Now my parents were up.

The ringing switched to pounding.

“LET ME IN!!!!!” David yelled.

I became so scared, especially after my previous experience, that I called 911 and asked the police if they could just come by and make him go away.

The police officer kept me on the phone by asking lots of questions and I started to get so anxious.

“Please, just send someone! He’s going to break the door down!”

All of a sudden I heard a huge THUD . Down came a set of double doors and in came David charging at me.

I screamed and yelled, “Please, send someone! He’s broken down the door!”

My father came between me and David and then a fight broke out.

David pushed my father down.

My father, who has a soft heart like me, said calmly, “Hey buddy, please just calm down.”

I”’m not your f-cking buddy! Let me talk to Erin!” he replied.

Then my mom got involved and David started yelling obsenities at her.

My dad managed to get David out to the front lawn but after David pushed him down once more and started wrestling with him, my sister got involved.

She came outside with a tennis racket and began hitting David with it to get him off my dad.

Meanwhile I’m on the phone begging them to please send the police. The officer kept assuring me they were on their way, but it was taking forever!!!

Finally, they arrived and pulled David off my dad.

One officer handcuffed David and put him in the car and another came to check on me.

He said they’d be back to take my statement.

I waited until 4:30 am, meanwhile planning for a subsitute teacher (the “JOYS” of being of teacher)

At 4:30 the police arrived and as soon as they came in they said, “This isn’t the first time he’s been abusive, is it?”

I said no and they told me that he was a typical abuser. As soon as they put him in the police car he began banging his head on the window saying , “Why are you doing this to me???”

Their reply? “Buddy, you did this to yourself.”

After giving my statement to the police I fell fast asleep…totally and utterly exhausted, both physically and emotionally.

Did this all just happen?

Is this MY life?

I was in disbelief.

The next day I went in to see Matt and the Principal to share what had happend just in case David decided to break the restraining order put against him and come to get me at the school.

I was trying to be so strong, but I half talked, half cried.

Matt was so concerned, and I admit, it felt nice to have a man know that this was unacceptable behaviour.

Later that day Matt came to tell me how strong I was and that all he wanted to do in that office was hold me.

I felt very, very cared for…for a couple of days.

So why did I find an invitation in my mailbox inviting me to “Matt & Tanya’s” house for a Scavenger Hunt????

Join me HERE for Part 8 of “The Making of an Spiritual Woman” where I try and learn to set boundaries and teach people how to treat me – a lesson I will need to practise over and over again! The start of my SELF LOVE journey begins.

Can you relate to any part of this story? I’d love to hear from you in comments below. The more we speak up and share, the more we can help other women currently going through this situation.

See you tomorrow!

Love,

Erin Kurt

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