If you’ve followed me and The Elegant Life for any period of time you know that I have experienced my fair share of abuse: sexual abuse, emotional abuse and “Oui” even some physical abuse. And not just abuse but huge disappointments! Huge losses!
Never in my wildest dreams did I see any of that coming when I was a child. I dreamed big dreams, I loved myself and overall I was a pretty happy child. That all changed when I was 15 years old.
I spent the next 25 years living, thinking and acting like a victim. I was entitled! My abuse, disappointments and losses affected every part of my life!
I made decisions, created barriers, built inner walls, distrusted people….. all because of my experiences.
Did staying in victimhood serve me? Yes! But in ways that weren’t so beneficial to the overall quality of my life.
If you’ve ever experienced abuse, bullying, power trips, relationship or career disappointments this video will serve you SO well. Ready to elegantly move from victimhood to EMPOWERMENT & JOY?
“See” you in the video!
Love,
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Ever feel like your needs aren’t being met by your partner? Well, normally when WE don’t feel our needs are being met, we can pretty much guarantee that our partner or spouse feels the same.
In this week’s final video on how to elegantly attract or have a fulfilling relationship I cover the 6 core human needs and how to commit to meeting them for yourself AND your partner.
When we commit to a partnership or marriage we are committing to using our time and energy to love and nurture our spouse.
Once you understand the 6 human needs you will be empowered to have a fulfilling relationship.
Important Message About Human Needs
I always, always work with my private couture clients to become the best version of themselves first. Thus, the reason I spent video 1 & video 2 of this series on that very topic.
What I know for sure is that our vibration attracts situations, experiences and people of the same vibration. So, if we are insecure, judgemental, full of low vibrational emotions such as guilt, shame, anger, etc.then it will be almost impossible to truly have or attract a partner who is happy, passionate, generous, non-judgemental etc.
So the first place to begin is with ourselves. Become happy, passionate, generous and non-judgmental, clear those low vibrational emotions within you (my Clearing Package and Couture Coaching packages are designed for this), and do things on a daily basis to keep your frequency high and aligned with your Divine Self.
Relationships are a 2-Way Street
Let me state very clearly though that a marriage is a two way street. In order to have a fulfilling relationship your partner must be just as invested and commited to meeting your most valued human needs.
So, if you are feeling unfulfilled in your marriage or relationship right now and you are questioning whether to stay or leave, start with getting YOU vibrationally high first.
Then commit to meeting your partner’s top 1 or 2 human needs (the ones THEY value the most) and if after this you still feel unfulfilled and like something is just not right, you are in a very empowered and awakened state to make a choice about whether to stay or leave.
Enjoy this final video and please do let me know if you have further questions, okay?
Welcome to Part 2 of this How to Elegantly Attract /Have a Fulfilling Relationship series!
I have received such wonderful comments from all over the world about Video #1! It really makes me happy to know that the training served so many of you. And thank you for sharing it with women you know as well!
In this video I go into specific ways you can raise your vibration so that you easily become a match to the partner/soulmate that you desire.
As you already know, our reality is totally created by US. We call into our lives that which is a vibrational match to us, so let’s learn ways to elevate our frequency so that having or attracting a fulfilling relationship is truly an elegant experience.
As always, I suggest you create some time to watch this video. Having it on in the background while you do something else is not helpful. Presence and focuson what you desire, a fulfilling relationship, IS helpful, so commit to that, okay?
With so much love,
Erin
If you are truly committed to having or attracting a fulfilling relationship then I highly recommend you join us at The Elegant Life Experience in Budapest, Hungary.
Is is going to be a LIFE CHANGING Experience. You will walk out, after an abundant, luxurious, deeply spiritual and profound four days, feeling, Beautiful, Whole, and Full of Joy, Love & Inner Peace.
I cannot tell you how many of my clients are dealing with relationship issues. In fact just after I finished filming this video series a woman contacted me who was desiring coaching on how to attract the perfect partner!
It has been such a theme within the past 3 years that I thought, since we’re in the month of “LOVE” that I do a thorough video series on How to Elegantly Attract or Have a Fulfilling Relationship. I cover everythign from A-Z so get ready to ENJOY!
ANNOUNCEMENT! You’ve probably noticed that I have been absent for the past couple of weeks. I had a tremendously busy January and eventually got ill. During this time I realised that some things needed to change so that I could FULLY fulfill my Life Calling without burning out.
And, what needed to change was this blog. Many of you may not know that every blog post takes about 2 1/2 days to complete. With the filming, editing, uploading, writing, organising, creating of images etc. it’s a full time job.
With me coaching clients here in Dubai as well as all over the world my schedule is packed. Not to mention the LIVE workshops I do every month as well as being a very present mommy to my two children. Get the picture? It was getting to be too much.
During the past weeks, I have added even more support to my life – a chef that specialises in high vibration food which looks beautiful – he garnishes with flowers!!!! Totally in line with the Elegant Approach to living & eating!
I have also reflected on which aspects of the blog I adore most – the tasks that give me joy and pleasure and those that leave me dragging my feet each week.
Changes to the Blog From Now Onwards
So, the short of the story is that I will be filming more videos (something I adore doing) but I will not be writing a full blog post to match. I will write a little introduction/ blurb and point out important points but the full on written portion of the blog will no longer be present.
I know some of you really love to read, but I simply cannot fulfil that need anymore without burning out. I hope you understand and begin to enjoy watching the videos as much as you enjoyed reading the posts. Who knows, perhaps it will aid you in creating a special moment each week to slow down and make watching the video a beautiful ritual for yourself!
Perhaps you could make a lovely tea and serve it in a beautiful tea cup while enjoying the video! Let me know your comments or ideas, okay?
So without further ado, enjoy PART 1 of this Relationship series.
Have you every desired something SO much but found it almost impossible to “let go and let God” as everyone suggests?
Then this post is for you!
I am going to share 2 ways to practise the art of letting go and letting God. One is a mindset shift and the other is advice that I bet you’ve not heard before. (Psst…it a theme here on The Elegant Life:)
January is a month where everyone is focused on goals, dreams and DOING.
Plans are made, goal are being set, memberships to gyms are being bought, and the focus is on pursuing, trying and desperately wanting their desire to manifest.
I know this pattern well as it was my “go-to” strategy my whole life! Set a goal, make a plan, push, pursue, obsess…you get the picture! The energy I was giving off was one of desperation and lack – not very elegant and definitely not a high frequency for manifesting!
This is completely opposite from what I do now and teach my clients to do.
And…this is exactly what Buddha did before he experienced enlightenment and true happiness.
Many people know the story of how Buddha sat under the Bodhi tree and awakened, however not many people know WHY he ended up sitting under that tree. He was in the same trap I was in and perhaps you find yourself too?
Watch the video above, at minute 2:54, to hear the real reason Buddha sat under the bodhi tree.
2 Steps to “Let Go and Let God”
Step 1: Surrender.
As you can see from Buddha’s story, pushing, trying and pursuing does not serve us. We must understand the Elegant Principle of the Universe:
As soon as you state your intention, Divine Consciousness sets to work to orchestrate everything needed to bring you your desire.”
The problem arises, for most women, when they don’t see any change in their reality and thus start doubting, feeling down, and obsessing even more on trying to figure out “the HOW”.
Spiritual Women who live elegantly, instead, focus on just BEING & await Divine Inspiration.
Do not attach. I’ll repeat that, “Do not attach to the outcome”.
Should we even have desires? Yes! Desires are feelings and feelings come directly from your Soul, which is your connection to the Divine. So yes! You wouldn’t have those desires if you weren’t intended to experience them!
However, instead of obsessing, spend your time & energy visualising your dream. See it vividly, in the greatest detail. FEEL it. Then…
Step 2: Get on With Living Your Life (filling it with JOY & PLEASURE)
I know I know, I harp on this regularly, but trust me, it’s the secret of experiencing The Elegant Life!
If someone would have told me this years ago, when I was in the obsessing mode, I would have thought, “Yeah, easy for you to say!” It was only when I reached mental and physical exhaustion that I finally said,
Screw this! If success means I have to work this hard and be disappointed countless times then I don’t want it. I’m done. I’ll just do this as a hobby out of enjoyment instead of trying to make it a business.”
After I made that conscious decision I felt the weight of the world drop off me.
I began feeling my creativity come out more. I did things I was too scared to do before, out of fear it would “upset” my followers.
I felt the pleasure in what I was doing again- the same pleasure I felt when I first started that business!
And what began happening? Opportunities just flowed into my life like magic. Calls for interviews in top national and international magazines and newspapers, ideal clients coming to me from referrals...the list went on and on. I learned what Buddha did and I invite you to learn it too…
The more you let go and let god (aka surrender) the more you allow Divine energy to do it’s work and flow through you and your life.
All that obsessive energy will be gone as will the manifestation of things and experiences on that same frequency.
Instead, you’ll be resonating at the levels of PEACE & JOY which are just under that of enlightenment – levels that bring in high vibration, exquisite miracles.
Please share your stories of when and how YOU have “let go and let God” – I know it will help so many women.
Do you know there are certain areas of your life where you need to Surrender? Share those too.
Recommendation
If you would like a perfect way of focusing on your dreams the elegant way and feeling joy and inner peace now, then I highly recommend The 6 Phase Visioning Meditation.
With so much love,
Manifest your desire into reality. Download this free meditation
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