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CategoriesMANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE, THE MAKING OF A SPIRITUAL WOMAN

The Making of a Spiritual Woman: Video #8 (Setting Boundaries)

Dear Diary,

Was he SERIOUS???

How in the world, after all we’ve shared with each other, after all the confession sessions after work, after the POEM he wrote me!

He had the gall to invite me to a scavenger hunt he and his girlfriend were hosting????

I was furious!

I ignored Matt the whole next day and he knew something was up, so he came to ask me if something was wrong.

I told him to just stop. Stop talking to me, stop flirting with me, stop everything until he’s figured out what he wants.

I said, “I can’t keep having these roller coaster of emotions. One day you’re into me and the next day you’re confused. Just figure your life out and I’ll go on with my life.”

The next day he didn’t talk to me, come around, or even acknowledge me at lunch time in the staff room.

I guess he was taking me seriously!

I felt like a part of me was missing. I went home that night totally depressed. Had I completely messed up? Should I have stayed with David and given him another chance? He was just so scared he was losing me, that’s why he broke the door down.

I began feeling like I’d completely messed up my life.

The next morning Matt had to give me something school related . He was ULTRA professional; it almost seemed as if he was angry at me!

At recess I went to his office and he told me that not speaking to me was so hard on him. My heart melted. He DID care!

I totally agreed and told him how I felt a piece of me was missing.. The rest of the week was back to normal. We flirted, had fun, and he was coming to my room again. YEAH!!!

LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL! (How quickly emotions can change!)

On Friday, the school had a really fun day planned. It was all about fitness, so as a school, we all did an aeorbics class! Matt did it beside me and he kept complimenting me on my legs – THAT was new! No one had ever done that!

I did notice him hanging around the instructor afterwards though….

Another teacher noticed too and later she told me that at lunch she was bugging Matt about how interested he was in chatting with the instructor afterwards and how pretty she was and he said,

“Yeah I got her number. She had a great body!”

My stomach fell, my heart fell. What the HELL was going on??

I thought he was different. I knew he was flirty, but now everything is piecing together and I’m fed up!

I am totally going to move on with Tony AND spend time with MYSELF and my friends!

I really can’t be with someone who has this quality.

I feel so strong right now. YES! It’s time for Erin to stand up and be HERSELF now!

I am going to focus on myself!

I spent the next week singing with the guys, dancing to the Gyspy Kings,(among other things with Tony) and feeling absolutely in LOVE with my freedom and my life.

Then, at the end of the week I heard that Matt moved out and ended things with his girlfriend…

I’m curious!  What would YOU have done at this point? Drop him? Ignore him? Get excited that we could move on together now? Share your thoughts and comments below:))

Join me HERE for the next installment of this Series. You are never going to guess what Matt does! Mark your calendars, Ladies!

Love,

Erin Kurt

The Making of an Elegant Woman
CategoriesMANIFESTING INNER PEACE, THE MAKING OF A SPIRITUAL WOMAN

The Making of a Spiritual Woman: Video #3 (Abuse)

Dear Diary, I don’t even know how to start to describe what happened after our games night with friends. We were having a fun time, enjoying nice snacks and drinks but when we were going home, I told David that I would drive because I had only had 1 1/2 drinks the whole night. He was drunk. He refused to give me the keys. We argued, as usual, but he refused to give the keys to me. I was so tired that I stupidly got in the car just to avoid another huge argument with him, but as he drove, I got scared; not just for me but for other people on the road. I told him to pull over. He said no. So I threatened to jump out of the car. He pulled over and started screaming at me. I was so disgusted at how he wouldn’t just hand me the keys to keep us and everyone else safe! How hard was that??? He refused, saying I was exaggerating, so I said, “Well, if you want to kill yourself be my guest, but I won’t be staying in this car with you.” As I went to open the door. He grabbed my hair and put me into a head lock. I was so scared because I’d never seen him like this before. It was like a demon had come into him.

Why was he so determind to drive?

I was choking, so I began fighting him. I remember seeing on Oprah to scratch at a guy’s eyes, so I did whatever I could to get him to let go of me. I must have hurt him because the next thing I know he opened my door, called me a bitch and kicked me out of the car onto the street. I was totally and utterly in shock. All I remember doing was getting up and running. Thank God we were close to my mom and dad’s house, so I was just going to run to there. Soon, I started hearing a car’s tires squealing and an engine revving louding. It was our car coming straight down the street that I was running! I was so scared so I found a bush to duck down behind. As I crouched behind this bush I thought to myself, “Erin, you are Nicole Brown Simpson.” (How ironic that on the night of my stagette we all watched the TV in disbelief at OJ Simpson runninng away from the poice in his white Bronco).

Deep inside my soul I knew at this moment that it was over between David and I.

The out of control car continued to squeal it’s way through the residential streets until finally the night went silent. Frightened, I cautiously walked to my parent’s house. My sister let me in and I went downstairs to go to sleep. I didn’t say a word to Jana about the incident. I never did share our problems, out of humiliation.

Soon, I heard David’s voice.

Oh, shit! He starts yelling to my sister, “Where’s Erin? She gone crazy! She was scratching at my eyes. She’s gone crazy!” My sister dind’t know what in the world was going on, so she showed David where I was and said, “Erin, what’s going on???” I stomped up the stairs towards David and said, “Get the H__LL out here!!! It’s YOU who was drunk and was choking me! Don’t you EVER lay a hand on me again! Get out!” David got so angry he pushed me down the stairs. I began sobbing and yelled, “GET OUT!!!!!” Thank God he left. I went into my bed, curled up in the fetal position and said to myself, “It’s over. That’s it.” The next morning I was woken by the telephone. It’s was David…

Click HERE for a very different kind of post…yes, it’s not ALL drama…tomorrow I begin to experience ROMANCE! 

With Love, Erin Kurt

how to manifest
CategoriesELEGANT TRAVEL, HOME DECOR, MANIFESTING PROSPERITY

How the Divine Can Elegantly Manifest Things for You

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As requested by readers I will share the gorgeous story of how elegantly the Divine orchestrated the events necessary for us to manifest our dream of owning a home, on a certain plot of land, by the Sea. Wait until you read the STUNNING part near the end!

Here’s the background…

We owned a property in Turkey since 2007. My husband is orignally from Turkey and we just love going there every summer because of the exquisite healthy food, the amazing blue sea, the generosity of the people to bring you anything, literally ANYTHING you desire, and the beautiful weather.

Not to mention visiting his family;)

When we purchased our first home  in Turkey we renovated it and loved it, but it never truly felt like ours because my husband’s parents lived there more than we did, and therefore changed some of our decorating to suit their needs. You know, sheets on sofas…ahem…not my thing;)

The one thing that stayed the same was the sea…ahhhhh, the SEA…. It-is-stunning!

Every year we would swim in the sea and stare up at a piece of land just a hop, skip and a jump away from the beach, the restaurants, the walkway and nightlife.

The problem was that this land had been held up in the courts for one reason or another and couldn’t be released for development.

Every year we said, “Man, if that land ever came available we would SO want a house there.”

“Can you imagine?” we’d say to each other.

Visioning the Dream

At this time I didn’t fully understand how to manifest things in my life, but I’m a dreamer, so I did what felt natural and began picturing myself  living in a home on that land.

I envisioned myself eating on a balcony, staring at the blue sea and feeling so blissfully at peace and happy.

Years went by, six to be exact.

A different piece of land opened up that was right by the sea.  Whoah!!!  A superb, famous developer bought the land and created a prestigious community.

We toured these homes in awe of the luxurious lifestyle people were living.

The prices were very, very expensive and at that time we did not have enough to purchase one.

So, we continued to dream and follow The Art of Living Elegantly.

The next summer we saw some new, state of the art homes being built on the other side of the bay.  These were GORGEOUS!!! When we drove up to them, I felt, “This is ME. This is what I desire to live in and enjoy.”

The price tag?

€1, 300,000.  At this time we were doing much better financially since my business had really taken off.  We contemplated how we could make it work, but it was still going to be a stretch that we really didn’t want to take on.”

I stood in the show home and put my energy there.

My whole being said, “I WILL have a view of the sea like that and I WILL write my next book overlooking that view.”

What to Do While You Wait for the Universe

Summer holidays were over and when we returned home, I filmed a video telling my online community that I had just found my home and I was going to manifest it.  I posted a link to it and claimed to the Universe that it was mine.

My husband loved the house, but he kept saying, “It’s on the wrong side of the bay though.  It’s going to get direct sun all day making it so difficult to enjoy the balcony and outdoor area. Plus, you can’t walk to the sea, you have to drive.  That’s not what we want.”

I became a bit grumpy with him because I felt he was dimming my vision and being negative.

Periodically, I would watch the advertising video for the house.  I couldn’t get the image of me, writing my next book, with that view, out of my mind!

You Have to Surrender to Manifest

Anyway, I surrendered my desire to the Universe, knowing that it wasn’t up to me anymore and did what I know works….to carry on living my life with pleasure and beautiful experiences so my energetic vibration would be high.

The following summer we went to Turkey a bit earlier than usual.  My parents were visiting us in England and hadn’t yet been to our Turkey house.

We had never, ever gone in May, but this time we decided to go earlier with my parents.  What did we see?

The land of our dreams had diggers on it!

What was going on we wondered???

Then we saw a sign.  A sign of the prestigious company who had develped the expensive & luxurious development by the sea previously.

There was a sales office set up, so we went in to enquire.  They told us the land had FINALLY been released so they bought it.  They were going to be creating another luxury development on it.

AHHHHHHH!!!!!!

You can imagine our excitement, but wait… this story only gets better!

It turned out that the owner of this company was around…just by chance (yeah…right;)

They said we could speak with him. He was so down to earth and kind.

He told us that most of the plots had already gone to people who had bought other properties from him in the past, but he was very open to showing us the plots he had left.

We walked around the vacant plots of land and were squeezing each other’s hands constantly.  We could not believe what was happening.

Then, after choosing which plot we loved best, without even receiving any money from us, he called his personal secretary, told her to assign this plot to us and said, “Let me know in a month if you want it. We’d love to have you here.”

The rest of the trip we were absolutely giddy. We started planning how we could gather the funds.

Back in England…Taking Divine Inspired Action

Once we arrived back in England, we went to the bank, looked over our finances and although it was going to be a stretch, we knew that our Life Vision for the future was to live 6 months in Turkey and 6 months in London and around the world, so we’d make it work.

We immediately put our current home in Turkey up for sale, and within 3 1/2 weeks we sold the house! But… not for the exact amount we wanted, or needed.  Hmmm, this could be a problem…

Here comes the stunning part…

My husband decided to book a flight to Istanbul where the developer’s office was so that he could speak with the owner directly and ask to set up a special method of payment.

He arrived at the appointment and the guy wasn’t there.  His personal secretary told my hubby that her boss had been trying to finalize a deal for years and today was the final meeting… and it wasn’t going well, thus the lateness.

At this point my hubby called me and said, “The guy is not going to be in a good mood if that deal doesn’t go ahead. I’m not sure how to handle this.”

I told him that we needed to do our Elegant Clearing Process™ together until he arrived.  We had to have zero expectations and just clean, clean, clean to remove any obstacles that we may not be aware of that could hinder us getting the land.

Clean and clean we did, when all of a sudden the man appeared.

The Elegant Moment of Manifestation

With a huge smile on his face the man said, “I just made 2 million dollars and I’m in a GRRRREAT mood! Today’s your lucky day, sir. You tell me. What do you want to pay?”

My husband shared with me that at this point he was in shock.  What?  The man was asking what we wanted to pay for the land?  What do you say to that?

I think the man could see how stunned my husband was so he led him into his office and said, “Look, I give friends a price and I’d be willing to give it to you for this too.  How does $__________ sound?”

He took 300,000 off the price!!! Can you even believe it?

The end of this story is that we are now living in our home, in one of the most prestigious communities, on the plot of land we dreamed about for years.

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Again, you really could not dream up this scenario, could you?

Being in Bodrum, in May, exactly when the developer was there.

And, the developer finalizing a HUGE sale and gifting us 300,000 off the purchase price.

I mean…. if this doesn’t give you faith in the elegance and ease of how the Universe can manifest, I don’t know what will. (Well, I’ve got other incredible stories to share with you, but all in time;)

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So, again, the reason I share this story with you is not to show you how “wonderful” my life is, but to show what is possible for YOU and to inspire you to KNOW deep within yourself that the Divine wants the absolute best for you.

The Divine is MORE than willing to elegantly manifest that which you desire, if it’s in the highest good for you and everyone concerned.

Each time you set an intention, then clean and surrender to the outcome, beauty and elegance is bestowed upon you and your dreams will manifest.

Divine Timing

Now, remember, we have only some control over the timing.  My hubby and I dreamed of this land for years!  By the time we moved in last year, it had been almost 8 years since we first started dreaming of that land.

We often want things NOW, and that isn’t necessarily the best for us.  We’ll never understand why at the time, and if we let it bother us, we can get really, really bothered.  But, as I’ve said over and over again, the timing and the “how” is none of our business.

Don’t get me wrong, when you follow The Art of Living Elegantly, manifestations can be almost instant or within a day or two.  I’ve experienced countless quick miracles, but some take longer.

Sometimes we need to go through or experience certain things so that we can BECOME the woman who can fully receive that desire.  Our desire will not manifest until we are ready.

We think we’re ready, but when that desire actually manifests we see why it had to manifest now instead of earlier.

You may say, “Well, while I wait for my desire to manifest, what do I do, Erin?”

Ahhhh…. that’s the other beautiful part of the Elegant Life Formula….

If you desire to create a life you LOVE and become an Elegant Manifestor,  I would highly recommend you have a look at The Art of Living Elegantly.

Here’s to our desires!!!!  Here’s to miracles!!!!  Here’s to The Elegant Life!

“See” you next week!  I wish you an incredibly pleasurable rest of the week and weekend.

With love,

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