So, I’m back from my holidays and ready to upgrade my life and business even more. Do you feel this way too?
My hubby and I were really feeling the desire to upgrade certain things that we use on a daily basis so when we were in Turkey at our Summer House we purchased new towels and cutlery- their specialties! I don’t think anyone makes towels as soft as Turkey!
I also upgraded my handbag, which I still really like but the lack of sections was driving me crazy! Always rummaging around for my keys at the bottom of my bag was no longer acceptable to me.
I purchased two new bags (see below the video) I LOVE them!
Last month I really focused on showing you how to declutter your life and vibration. Well THIS month my focus will be on showing you how to install more JOY, BEAUTY & PLEASURE into your life…in other words, how to upgrade your life!
Have you every desired something SO much but found it almost impossible to “let go and let God” as everyone suggests?
Then this post is for you!
I am going to share 2 ways to practise the art of letting go and letting God. One is a mindset shift and the other is advice that I bet you’ve not heard before. (Psst…it a theme here on The Elegant Life:)
January is a month where everyone is focused on goals, dreams and DOING.
Plans are made, goal are being set, memberships to gyms are being bought, and the focus is on pursuing, trying and desperately wanting their desire to manifest.
I know this pattern well as it was my “go-to” strategy my whole life! Set a goal, make a plan, push, pursue, obsess…you get the picture! The energy I was giving off was one of desperation and lack – not very elegant and definitely not a high frequency for manifesting!
This is completely opposite from what I do now and teach my clients to do.
And…this is exactly what Buddha did before he experienced enlightenment and true happiness.
Many people know the story of how Buddha sat under the Bodhi tree and awakened, however not many people know WHY he ended up sitting under that tree. He was in the same trap I was in and perhaps you find yourself too?
Watch the video above, at minute 2:54, to hear the real reason Buddha sat under the bodhi tree.
2 Steps to “Let Go and Let God”
Step 1: Surrender.
As you can see from Buddha’s story, pushing, trying and pursuing does not serve us. We must understand the Elegant Principle of the Universe:
As soon as you state your intention, Divine Consciousness sets to work to orchestrate everything needed to bring you your desire.”
The problem arises, for most women, when they don’t see any change in their reality and thus start doubting, feeling down, and obsessing even more on trying to figure out “the HOW”.
Spiritual Women who live elegantly, instead, focus on just BEING & await Divine Inspiration.
Do not attach. I’ll repeat that, “Do not attach to the outcome”.
Should we even have desires? Yes! Desires are feelings and feelings come directly from your Soul, which is your connection to the Divine. So yes! You wouldn’t have those desires if you weren’t intended to experience them!
However, instead of obsessing, spend your time & energy visualising your dream. See it vividly, in the greatest detail. FEEL it. Then…
Step 2: Get on With Living Your Life (filling it with JOY & PLEASURE)
I know I know, I harp on this regularly, but trust me, it’s the secret of experiencing The Elegant Life!
If someone would have told me this years ago, when I was in the obsessing mode, I would have thought, “Yeah, easy for you to say!” It was only when I reached mental and physical exhaustion that I finally said,
Screw this! If success means I have to work this hard and be disappointed countless times then I don’t want it. I’m done. I’ll just do this as a hobby out of enjoyment instead of trying to make it a business.”
After I made that conscious decision I felt the weight of the world drop off me.
I began feeling my creativity come out more. I did things I was too scared to do before, out of fear it would “upset” my followers.
I felt the pleasure in what I was doing again- the same pleasure I felt when I first started that business!
And what began happening? Opportunities just flowed into my life like magic. Calls for interviews in top national and international magazines and newspapers, ideal clients coming to me from referrals...the list went on and on. I learned what Buddha did and I invite you to learn it too…
The more you let go and let god (aka surrender) the more you allow Divine energy to do it’s work and flow through you and your life.
All that obsessive energy will be gone as will the manifestation of things and experiences on that same frequency.
Instead, you’ll be resonating at the levels of PEACE & JOY which are just under that of enlightenment – levels that bring in high vibration, exquisite miracles.
Please share your stories of when and how YOU have “let go and let God” – I know it will help so many women.
Do you know there are certain areas of your life where you need to Surrender? Share those too.
Recommendation
If you would like a perfect way of focusing on your dreams the elegant way and feeling joy and inner peace now, then I highly recommend The 6 Phase Visioning Meditation.
Are you desiring to EXPAND this year? Expand in abundance? Abundance of health, love, money, fulfilment or inner peace?
There is an incredible energetic shift that is creating great desires within women right now. Not just desires, but the momentum to move elegantly towards those desires.
If ever you desired expansion and abundance, THIS is the year Universal energy will support you even more to make that a reality.
Find out how in this week’s video!
Here’s How You Expand into Abundance
1. A desire is felt within you.
A Natural Law is that the Universe, and everything within it, is always expanding. Therefore, your Soul, being an extension of this Universal energy, innately wants to expand. The beauty is that your Soul knows what is in it’s “programming”, aka the natural talents, personality traits and abilities that you have, which could assist in the expansion of your Soul (Divine Consciousness).
The Soul then creates a feeling and often an image or vision inside of you which you could call a “desire”. Now the conscious part of you gets to use it’s free will and creativity!
2. Become extremely clear on what you desire – see & feel every detail.
The MOST important thing you can do to bring abundance of anything into your life is to focus on the EXACT details you desire. This is where your free will and creativity come into play. Do you desire to earn $10,000/month by only working 3 days a week? What are you doing exactly? Where are you working? What does it look like in that space? What are you wearing? Who are you working with? If it’s an abundance of health you desire then what do you see yourself enjoying? What are you wearing? Who are you with? How do you feel? What are you doing that you’ve never been able to do?
The Divine doesn’t care HOW you expand, because you are always expanding anyway, it’s a universal law, however, wouldn’t it be delicious if you got to create HOW you expand? I always tell my clients that your life is a blank canvas on which YOU paint. YOU get to decide what it looks and feels like. Isn’t this fantastic?
Here are some questions that you can answer to guide you towards creating your next expansion. You can also simply free write and allow it to unfold naturally.
3. Commit to focusing on this desire (in an unattached way).
This step is where most women go wrong. They don’t allow the Divine to gift them their desires because they remain too stuck in focusing on what IS (what they don’t yet have). I have definitely manifested something incredible in 30 minutes, 2 weeks etc. however some of my grand desires have taken 7 years! Not because it had to take seven years, but because I was constantly focusing on what wasn’t in my life that I desired.
There is absolutely NO WAY you can attract into your life something that has a high vibration if you are vibrating in a low vibration. It goes against every Universal law that exists.
Obsessively, I would read The Secret, The Science of Getting Rich, Think and Grow Rich etc. ( I had a library!) all the while feeling desperate that it wasn’t working for me.
I would become SO hopeful then SO depressed. Then I’d buy another book thinking it would be my answer.
In order for us to elegantly manifest abundance into our lives we require to live in JOY, focus on what we desire ( in great detail), and clear any negative emotions or limiting beliefs that are blocking our abundance and Divine light. That’s it!
If you desire a beautiful program that has changed hundreds of women’s lives simply by training them to live elegantly and manifest elegantly, then I highly recommend investing in The Art of Living Elegantly . This is your ticket to freedom, inner peace, pleasure, fulfilment and yes, the abundance of whatever it is that your Soul desires.
4. Create the feeling that the desire will bring you…now, in any way you can.
One of the fastest ways to bring abundance of anything into your life is to begin feeling the way you know you’ll feel once your desire becomes your reality. I noticed a big change in my life when I began doing this 7 years ago.
I desired to be financially prosperous so I got super detailed about what I desired. In fact I answered the 9 questions listed above.
After this I had more clarity on exactly which emotions I would need to focus on creating in my current reality.
One of the things I began doing was having tea in 5 star hotels so that I could simply FEEL abundantly prosperous.
I also made sure that I always had some money in my wallet, even it is was just £5. This made me feel like I always had money available.
How could YOU begin to feel the way you desire right now, in your current reality? Share your ideas in the comments section. If you can’t think of any great ideas, share your desire and your desired feelings and I will help you brainstorm.
I do this every day with personal clients so I have a good repertoire for a variety of desires!
Et Voila! Enjoy the process and commit to it!
It can’t work unless you follow through. (If you struggle with following through then I highly recommend you enquire about my 1:1 Couture Coaching. We can dive deep to discover what your blocks are and clear them once and for all using my Elegant Quantum Techniques.
It’s that time again! Time to thrill you with my December Favourites! Or as I like to call them, Mes Petits Plaisirs;)
This month I have TWO favourites. The first will gift you absolute relaxation and pleasure (and romance!) and the second? Well, you will be the talk of any party or celebration with this one! Let’s dive in, shall we?
My December Favourites
Novel – Seven Letters From Paris by Samantha Verant
I discovered this novel about 2 years ago. I’m always on the look out for a great francophile novel and when I read the synopsis for this book I KNEW I had to read it.
Synopsis:
At age 40, Samantha Verant’s life is falling apart-she’s jobless, in debt, and feeling stuck… until she stumbles upon seven old love letters from Jean-Luc, the sexy Frenchman she’d met in Paris when she was 19. With a quick Google search, she finds him, and both are quick to realize that the passion they felt 20 years prior hasn’t faded with time and distance.
Samantha knows that jetting off to France to reconnect with a man that she only knew for one sun-drenched, passion-filled day is crazy-but it’s the kind of crazy she’s been waiting for her whole life.
After reading this book (in about 1 day) I just had to find the author and tell her how much I loved it (Facebook is a wonderful thing!) I told her how much her story reminded me of my own personal love story in France and she encouraged me to write about it. So I did! Samantha Verant is the inspiration behind my blog series: The Making of a Spiritual Woman: A Pilgrimage That Began in Paris.
This blog series has been THE most watched series here on The Elegant Life. So many women tell me they see themselves in different parts of my story. ENJOY discovering yourself!
This cake has such a lovely, soft flavour and a very moist texture. Best of all, it takes no more than 5 minutes to prepare. Okay, even better than that, it looks absolutely elegant and will be the showstopper of any party or celebration. Ready to learn the recipe? (Watch how in the video above at minute 4:50)
Ingredients:
160 g/5 1/4 oz. caster sugar
250 ml/8 fl oz. vegetable oil
225 ml/ 8 fl oz. natural yoghurt
2 eggs
225 g/ 8 oz. plain flour
3 teaspoons baking powder
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
250ml/8 fl oz. double cream (whipping cream)
25 g/ 1 oz. icing sugar
100 g/4 oz. fresh raspberries plus 8 same sized raspberries for the garnish
Method:
Grease 2 round bakings pans.
Preheat oven to 160°C/325°F.
In a blender or food processor, mix the sugar, oil, yoghurt, eggs, flour, baking powder, and vanilla until just mixed. Be sure not to overmix.
Evenly pour batter into the cake pans and bake in oven for approx. 30 minutes (until lightly browned and top springs up when touched).
When ready, flip both cakes onto a cooling rack. Leave until cool.
Pour cream into a medium bowl. Add icing sugar and whip until stiff peaks form.
Fold in the 100 g raspberries.
Place 1 cooled cake on a cake pedestal. Spread the raspberry cream mixture on top. Place second cooled cake on top of the cream.
Sift icing sugar on top to lightly garnish the surface. Finally, place the 8 raspberries on top to decorate.
Voila! Un beau gateau!
See you in 2018!!!
Love,
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What would life be like if…. all that holds you back is gone?
I realised something HUGE recently and I have to apologise to you!
You see here on The Elegant Life blog I am constantly talking about gifting yourself pleasure, receiving pleasure etc. yet I have never actually made any blog posts specifically around pleasure!
One day I was enjoying some of my favourite You Tubers sharing their November Favourites and a message whooshed down into me,
Erin, you have SO many things you love and enjoy and you need to share them with the Spiritual, Elegant Women who follow you!”
How could I not have thought of this myself? J’adore talking about things I love and sharing my favourite things with women who I know would love them too!
So, Voilà! Welcome to a brand NEW monthly series on the blog!
Each month I will share my favourite things so that you may be introduced to things that could potentially bring you tremendous pleasure as well!
My November Favourites
Fragrance – Jasmin Rouge by Tom Ford
This Tom Ford fragrance is my absolute new favourite! Those of you who follow me on social media know that my signature scent has always been My Burberry, and I still adore that and wear it often, but… but! This fragrance blew me away when I tested it while casually shopping with my hubby. I literally could not stop sniffing myself! The notes in here are some of my favourites:
Jasmine
Bergamot
Cardamom
Mexican Vanilla
The mixture of these notes with all the others creates a full bodied scent that makes you feel Signature, unique, and beautiful. You’ve got to have it!
Book – Choosing the Simply Luxurious Life by Shannon Ables
About 5 years ago I was searching for francophile blogs as I felt the urge to bring more of my Frenchie-ness into my life. Well, I stumbled upon a blog I have been reading ever since, www.thesimplyluxuriouslife.com
Shannon Ables, the woman behind the blog, wrote a book which encompasses all the topics I love – cooking, organisation, signature style, french way of living etc.
I resonate with her on many levels but perhaps the biggest one is that she often mentions how we must CHOOSE to live simply luxuriously.
Yes, we Spiritual, Elegant Women know that we CHOOSE how to live our lives every – single-moment- of – every – single – day.
This book is one you can reread often or just pick up, turn to a section and get inspired in 5 minutes.
I really don’t watch much TV, but two summers ago my parents introduced me to a show that my husband and I have become obsessed with!
This show is like the best novel ever! (Well, the show is based on the book series by Diana Gabaldon, so that would make sense).
There is love, passion (wowza!), incredible drama, history, a whole season based in Paris, France, shocking twists, and some of the best acting I have ever witnessed, particularly from Sam Heughan, who plays one of the main characters.
The episodes are on regular cable but you must, must, must start back at Season 1, which can be found on Netflix or Apple TV. Trust me on this one!
Retreats – The Elegant Life Experience
Okay, I couldn’t do this November Favourites post without mentioning what I believe is THE best gift you will ever give yourself.
If you desire a deep connection with the Divine|God|Source AND you adore luxury, abundance & beauty (even if you don’t fully experience them…yet) then THIS spiritual retreat is for you.
Most spiritual retreats strip back the luxuries of life but at The Elegant Life we ADD them to your life since the Divine epitomises Unlimited Abundance, Beauty, Creativity & Expansiveness. At this Spiritual Retreat you will be basking in an environment full of LOVE , BLISS, & PEACE as well as beauty and abundance.
If you have ever dreamed of staying at The Ritz Carlton Hotel as well as one day attending a Spiritual Retreat, then this opportunity is perfect for you as you’ll be checking two items off your bucket list!
For 5 nights and 4 Full days, you will embark upon a personal pilgrimage back HOME – where truth and bliss and peace reside.
You’ll fall back in love with yourself, have unwavering confidence and reverence for yourself and feel more connected to the Divine/God than ever before.
See you in a couple of weeks! And, if you love any of the November Favourites I mentioned above please tell me about it in the comments below, okay? Thank you!
Love,
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