How to Find Your Calling – PART 1 & PART 2
Forget Finding Your Purpose! You Need to Learn How to Find Your Calling.
Do you ever wonder whether or not you’re living your PURPOSE? Or whether you even have a purpose?
I have spoken to SO many women who either feel lost and confused about what their purpose is or simply depressed that they still haven’t found it.
The simple, elegant truth is that it’s not your purpose you should be focusing on, it’s your Calling.
You see I too used to focus on discovering my exact purpose in life. It felt finite – a place to find and then achieve. (Former Type A Personality for ya!)
When I finally had the Spiritual Truths downloaded to me, after attending a Spiritual Retreat, I understood that the only purpose any of us have is to expand Consciousness.
The Universe itself is continuously expanding. In fact, current research by cosmologists indicates that the universe may expand to eternity!
Now, since we come from this Source, this Consciousness, we too innately have within us the inclination to expand.
So, our Purpose is to expand Consciousness, but the way in which we help this Consciousness expand is through our Calling.
Each of us has our own unique Calling that is signature to us.
What IS a Calling?
The dictionary definition is: a strong urge towards a particular way of life or career; a vocation.
A more Spiritual definition is: The signature programming of your soul by which you help Consciousness expand itself.
An Elegant description would be: Something that you innately share with others that causes them to Experience, Be or Realise something.
2 Steps to Find Your Calling
Step 1:
Look back over your life and remember the happiest moments of you sharing something.
Notice how without you consciously “doing” anything, people experienced things like beauty, love, freedom, wholeness… just by interacting with you.
Can you remember feeling lit up, fulfilled, joyous and totally present? This will give you clues into your calling.
Has anyone ever complimented you on something that felt easy for you?
Has anyone ever said something to you that stuck in your head for years?
For me, I was raised in the Catholic faith. I didn’t connect with all the rules and protocol but I did connect with Jesus. He seemed to embody the characteristics of a kind, loving human and I looked to him as a role model as to how I wanted to be.
Then my mind was expanded by a powerful experience involving my puppy.
While my family was visiting some friends, my puppy ran off after being put outside by my father for peeing on the friend’s sofa. When we went to let him back in the house we couldn’t find him. We looked for DAYS, in a forest that surrounded this friend’s secluded home.
I was devastated.
Out of desperation, the mother of the family said, “Gosh, too bad we don’t know a physic.”
My mother instantly remembered one that she had heard about back where we lived. They called this physic and she described exactly where he was (on top of a hill in a field that used to be where a crop of hemp had grown, in a clearing like a small animal would rest in.)
Our friend knew exactly where this was so we drove the long distance to get there, decided to created a straight line and all walk forward.
I walked straight then all of a sudden heard a whimpering sound.
“Lucky?” “Lucky?” I cried out.
More whimpering came until I peeked around a tree and there, in a clearing, on a little patch of flattened out grass was my precious puppy.
I ran to him and called loudly to the others. We were beyond overjoyed! I really could not believe that he was exactly where that lady said he was.
From that pivotal moment, I began investigating how people could know things when they were in a completely different place.
What did this lady tap into in order to know this? I wondered.
And so my Spiritual understandings evolved.
As I evolved I found that I adored helping people. Every time I helped a classmate with something they struggled with I felt so whole, so fulfilled, so overcome with JOY & happiness.
When I was a teenager, a meditation teacher who could read people’s energies and auras, pointed to me and said,
“You. You my dear are going to do some beautiful things in this world.”
“I am?” I thought. I knew I wanted to be a school teacher, but what was going to be so special about me?
I ended up becoming a a high profile teacher who could turn around troubled children, help extremely shy children become unbelievably confident and help the average child become their best, most confident self.
Now, during my life I experienced quite a bit of trauma; abuse of all kinds, divorce, grief…and through all of that, the feeling that grew was DEEP empathy for people.
My constant statement was:
“You can never judge someone as you don’t know what they’ve been through.”
Later, I found myself in France, yearning for happiness. That’s all I wanted, but after going through one of the most difficult years of my life, I didn’t know HOW to be happy.
This is when my yoga teacher “friend”, Guy, introduced me to Buddhism. It was here that I learned how to embody the attributes of abundance, compassion, peace, health etc. Embodying these attributes gifts you an inner fulfilment so great that you begin to glow from the inside out.
I was finally able to walk around BEING these attributes instead of just wishing for them.
It was at this time that an internationally renowned Buddhist Lama honoured me by giving me the Spiritual name “Karma Changchun Paldra”, meaning “Radiant Light of Enlightenment Mind”.
I later became a parenting coach, helping stressed, overwhelmed, & exasperated parents to be the parent (and person) they desired to be.
The one comment I received from all my coaching clients and friends was always, “You are SO easy to talk to!” or, “I haven’t shared this with anyone, you are the first.”
And so on and so on and so on…can you see a pattern?
- I LOVED helping people.
- People have always, always opened up to me on a deep level after being in my presence for only a couple of minutes.
- I experienced great trauma which gifted me the ability to understand people in a completely compassionate way.
- I was gifted teachings that allowed me to understand how to be happy and feel fulfilled.
- The Universe provided opportunities for me to learn & understand Divine Truths
- I was given the natural ability to teach & inspire
Now, let’s move on to exactly how to state what your calling is.
Step 2:
Write in a brief statement what people naturally experience as a result of being in your presence or when they interact with you.
Complete this statement:
People Experiencing _________.
Other forms of this are:
People Realising _____________.
People Being _____________.
Word that might fill in the blank are:
- freedom
- love
- beauty
- abundance
- unity within family
- everything is possible
- oneness with God/Source/the Divine
For me, I would write:
People experiencing unity & oneness with their Divinity.
In a retreat I’ll be hosting in May I’ll be going more deeply into how to find your Calling and how to weave it into your entire life and career, but for now, go through these two simple steps.
It will give you the ability to consciously come to every relationship or person you encounter and KNOW & FEEL that you are fulfilling your purpose AND your calling.
With so much love,
