Ever felt such anxiety and fear about something that you just wanted to cry and run away? That was me this past weekend.
After I had my profound spiritual experience 7 years ago overcoming fear was not really a problem for me anymore. My perfectionism went away, my self-doubts went away, and overall I really have not experienced any major anxiety since then.
Cue this video – Ha!
In this week’s video I share:
My recent experience of overcoming fear.
How to know when you should genuinely feel the fear or when you should pick that fear up and carry it with you as you walk into an unknown, sometimes uncomfortable situation.
The exquisite GIFTS I received from overcoming my fear and going with the flow.
Fear can enter at any point in our lives.
We can fear trying a new food, a new travel destination, asking for a raise, saying “No”, being vulnerable with someone, starting a business or applying for a new job.
When we fear something anxiety is usually in there somewhere as well.
Do you know what anxiety really is? It’s your Body & Soul telling you to focus on what you want.
I hear the, “Huh?”s
Yes, your Soul will communicate with you via your body’s emotions.
By being anxious, you are choosing to focus on an outcome that hasn’t happened. You are simply generalising a past experience and associating this new experience with it. But it hasn’t even happened! (This is why women find such transformation when doing Couture Spiritual Coaching with me because we clear your old beliefs and generalisations allowing you to live with more ease and joy)
Overcoming fear is a topic I LOVE speaking about because I lived most of my life in fear…and it kept me from experiencing SO many great things.
What I know for sure is when you say, “YES” and go with the flow, things work out more magically than you could have ever imagined. Trust me, I’ve tried it…it works.
How would you like me to show you how to make these remaining moments of 2017 truly meaningful so that you move into 2018 with a whole new frequency, a frequency that allows you to step up and into your most elegant, exquisite life?
You may have had a year that didn’t turn out the way you expected it to.
Your dream may not have manifested.
You may have lost someone. Or you may have had to let someone go from your life.
Or, you may have gotten a new job! Received a promotion! Moved cities or countries! Whatever happened (or didn’t happen) in 2017, let’s make 2018 even better!
Step One – To End the Year Right
Reflect on what has transpired over the past year.
Take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the centre.
On the left side write, “What Things Served Me This Year”
On the right side write, “What Things Didn’t Serve Me This Year”
Complaining about what’s wrong in my life instead of focusing on being thankful for what IS good
These are just some examples that clients have told me. Your Soul will tell YOU what worked and what didn’t.
Step Two – To End the Year Right
Underneath your chart write this question:
“Choices I CHOOSE to make in 2018 are:”
Based on the answers in your chart, decide which items would have the most positive impact on your life in 2018.
I recommend listing 2-5 choices. No more. Just making ONE important choice is powerful enough, but try and go for at least 2.
Step Three – To End the Year Right
Be sure that you are following me on either Instagram or Facebook so you can learn when my New Years Facebook Training will be.
In this training I’ll be sharing my FULL process to end the year right. My hubby and I do this every single year and it is just gorgeous. We look forward to it!
So, be sure to follow on either Facebook or Instagram or…even better… be sure you are on our email list by opting in to any of our free gifts on this site. The most popular is the Ebook “The 5 Things You Need to Remove From Your Life TODAY to Manifest the Life You Want.”
I’ll see you next week with my December Favourites Video! My November Favourites was very popular so I’ve decided to continue with the Favourites Series every month!
I’ll never forget the moment when my new personal trainer used his caliper to grab the fat around my waist and his tape measure to jot down my inches. Oh – My – God, how totally humiliating.
Then came “The Talk”. Here’s how it went:
Trainer [trying to sound non-chalant]: “Okay, so based on all the results you are considered to be in the Obese Zone.”
Me [trying to look like I’m really interested but really wanting to cry], “Oh wow, okay.”
I used to be the skinny kid. The young adolescent who some described as looking too thin – sickly thin even. They used to tell me I should eat more….until they saw me eat whole bags of cookies after school.
To have gotten to a place in my life where I was tired, worn out, and OBESE was something I couldn’t even wrap my head around.
In order to get me down to my ideal weight, the trainer had me doing short, intense periods of cardio, along with weights, squats and stomach exercises.
I was a sweaty mess after our exercise sessions.
After returning home in order to take care of my daughter and run my business, I would lay down on the sofa and not get up until it was time to collect my son from school. My body was completely spent.
I thought to myself, “Who ARE those people who say exercise gives them energy??? All it does for me is make me want to sleep for 10 years!”
I worked with this trainer for 6 weeks as a lead up to my summer holiday with “the GOAL” being to drop a dress size & look good in a bikini. You know how that goes, right?
And so the saga continued. I would try to do things on my own, do another diet…. and nothing was sustainable, not even exercise. After about 2 weeks I would catch a cold, get the flu or just feel unwell.
How to Attain Your Ideal Weight… Without Exercise
I won’t go into the long story of how I came to practise what I do today, but just know that I got to a point where I was just DONE. Done with the countless diets. Done with the countless exercise promises. Done with feeling crappy and no energy. Just done. And so, I asked the Divine for Guidance and voila! Here it is:
Banish the word EXERCISE from your vocabulary. There are so many counter-productive beliefs and messages around the word that it is, in my opinion, better to never use it again. Instead, I choose to use the word MOVEMENT.
We are energetic beings and in our energetic system we store beliefs, memories and memes thus causing a congestion in our energetic system. When there is congestion, there is no flow of energy. And without flow of energy our bodies don’t work well. They put on weight in certain areas related to the belief or memory or they create pain or tension. So, we must move.
Every morning before stepping out of bed, ask your body & soul this question: “How would you like to MOVE today?”
Before beginning your movement make an intention for what you desire the movement to DO for you. Your intention could sound like this: “My intention is that this movement unblocks any and all energy congestion within me so that energy flows freely throughout my body and elegantly brings me to my ideal weight.”
Enjoy the movement and Thank your body for supporting you.
Two of my Favourite Elegant Movements
My Morning Movement Ritual. (Watch the video above, specifically at minute 2:00)
Kundalini Legs (Watch the video above, specifically at minute 10:15)
What I Recommend For You Now
Now you have the 4 Steps to Elegantly Attain & Maintain Your Ideal Body! (If this is the first time you’re seeing this series, start back at Video #1 HERE)
If you’re anything like me you won’t want this series to end here. With anything new, I like to be hand held a bit until it becomes a habit or fully integrated into my life.
I plan on sharing all my extra little secrets that I didn’t have time to share with you during this series. Plus, from my teaching days, I know that the best way to learn something is a little at a time, so one doesn’t become overwhelmed and do nothing out of confusion.
No, I want you to say, “Erin, thank you SO MUCH! I cannot believe that getting to my ideal weight could be this easy and elegant! I am LOVING myself and feeling so incredible!”
So, on Friday, I will be pre-launching a gorgeous program that will hand hold you through this process. Hey, if my mom, who can’t work out hard, can lose 2 dress sizes in 6 weeks then you can too!
Set an alert on your calendar for Friday, April 21st to come back to the blog to see what this is all about.
A quick teaser of just THREE of the gems in the program:
ONE – My Secret trick to use when eating a non-high vibe food, like chocolate cake or white pasta. Your body will enjoy the food and you won’t gain weight from it! YES!
TWO – My Top 6 Elegant Movements that I have found work best for most women; movements that are simple, short & highly effective (and don’t leave you huffing and puffing!)
THREE – 5 Beautiful, High-Vibe Breakfasts, Lunches, Snacks & Dinners for you to choose from each day so you can make conscious choices that taste amazing and are oh, so pleasurable. The weight will melt away as you savour deliciousness!
See you on Friday with all the other juicy details!!
Money makes life easier. It allows us to enjoy things and experiences that feed our soul. And it gifts us freedom. Freedom to make certain life choices that may not be so easy if money were not there.
I know what you’re saying, “Yes, Erin, but HOW? HOW do I prosper?”
This used to be my question. I asked it every day! You see, each of us comes to the earth with one main issue that exists in order to aid in the evolution of our soul.
Mine happened to be prosperity and money. If you haven’t read my story you’ll find it all in HERE. Issues for other people may be: love, weight, relationships, confidence, health…
Things I’ve “Tried” in order to Prosper:
I tried getting a job.
This was good. I loved being a teacher and was often shocked to find a pay stub in my mailbox every month because I enjoyed it so much. However… my soul desired regular manicures, pedicures and massages and adored staying in luxury hotels, buying high quality clothes and travelling the world. The issue I had was that on a teacher’s salary, this wasn’t always possible.
I tried saying and writing affirmations.
Since I’ve always been into spirituality I used to read countless books on the power of affirmations. The problem was that my subconscious beliefs were SO geared against these affirmations that I could feel the resistance within myself that it wouldn’t work.
I read books on becoming wealthy
such as “Think and Grow Rich“and “The Science of Getting Rich”, and did all the things they said to do, but just ended up spending every waking hour thinking about money (from a lack perspective) and nothing changed. Well, one thing did…I felt even more anxious and desperate about money!
I took courses and went to LIVE trainings.
Everyone at these events kept talking about action. You’ve got to take action. Now, since I’m a very self-disciplined person and former “Type A personality” I took action like crazy! At one point, I had written a book, was writing a blog and articles for 3 other top websites, was filming videos for my You Tube Channel, recording interviews for my own Blog Talk Radio Show, and was a parenting expert for a UK counselling site. Oh, did I mention that I was also launching online products and programs and coaching people at all times of the day and night too? Oh, goodness me, I forgot to say that I was being interviewed multiple times a week for US morning radio shows! (Their morning shows were 10pm at night in the UK!) All of this while having a young child at home.
Yes, ladies, I did it ALL! In fact I was so committed to having an abundant life so that I could live life the way my SOUL desired, that I did something that completely dishonoured my soul.
Attending the SHINE Event
You see this picture? I’m smiling, I’m at a major event called SHINE, the second one put on by Business Guru Ali Brown, and…I’m bleeding profusely.
I had grown my business to a point, but something was blocking the financial growth that I desired. I couldn’t seem to help more people but also help myself financially too , so I got up the courage to speak to my husband about buying the hefty priced ticket, buying a flight from the UK to Las Vegas and looking after our son while I was gone.
I felt so proud of myself for “taking action”, for going after my dreams, for “doing what it takes”, for “working hard”, even though I was pregnant and feeling exhausted.
So, I flew to Vegas, got to my hotel room and decided to take a nap straight away. When I woke from my nap I went to the toilet and there was blood everywhere.
I had never experienced a miscarriage and had never known anyone who had, so I wasn’t too concerned. Perhaps I was “spotting”.
I decided to go to bed early. Maybe my body was just tired from the long flight and needed rest.
No such luck. All throughout the night I was awoken by more and more blood.
(To hear the whole story watch the video at minute 9:00-10:30)
The Moment I Completely Dishonoured My Soul
So there I was, at the event, and every 20-30 minutes racing to the bathroom to pile 3 pads on top of each other, along with a tampon and toilet paper. Then I would put on my business face again and walk into the event raising my hand to say, “Hello, I’m Erin Kurt from ErinParenting and I’m so excited to be here from the UK”.
I masterminded, I went for lunch with women, I connected with women who were at a higher level in their business in order to ask them for tips and tricks, I did it ALL.
I was so proud of myself for doing “whatever it took” for success because that is what every wealthy person was spouting as the secret to their success.
YUCK!
Sadly, I continued on this road for a few more years, with an incremental increase to my wealth.
The Moment I Surrendered and Began to Prosper
It was only when I became so disheartened, so tired, so hopeless that I would ever get MY big break, that I surrendered.
“I give up the fight, God. I will use my talents to serve, but I won’t push. I won’t beg you anymore. I can’t, I’m emotionally & physically tired. Maybe I am just not meant to have wealth in this lifetime. I surrender.”
When I began surrendering my body let down. I could literally FEEL the lack of attachment to my desires. And for the first time in YEARS, I finally felt free.
From that point on, I began feeling into what things I loved to do and what things stressed me.
I began filtering everything through the lens of “Does this bring me JOY?”
Because if I wasn’t going to be wealthy, I might as well feel JOYFUL doing this, right? That was my thinking process at the time.
I began receiving strong inner guidance on what things I should do, so I did those. Funny enough, I began attracting more opportunities and clients!
FUN!
I kept following the next step and the next step and the next step as it was shown to me. I didn’t always understand it and it wasn’t always comfortable, but I just kept surrendering.
Each soul-inspired step I took made my business prosper more and more.
It was a completely different formula than what most people were talking about, but I could see a trend that all of the women who worked so hard for their success were burnt out and desired more balance in their lives.
Hmm, I was on to something! I was growing my business AND enjoying my life at the same time. YES!
Now, I’ll be honest and tell you that I faltered at times. There were times I saw a Facebook ad for a new strategy and got taken off my path of inner peace and went down the “work hard” route again.
I would see others using certain techniques successfully and once again fall off track. But, the one thing that always brought me back was the core feeling I desired – JOY. And if it ever started to feel like I was losing that, then I would realign and shift.
In 2015 my soul told me to STOP. Stop all my businesses and take a sabbatical. Of course my ego went, “WHAT???” But, by then I had learned to trust and so I surrendered and announced my sabbatical.
Of course I kept listening for Divine guidance and took action on only those things.
What so elegantly transpired was:
My life’s prosperity grew more that year than ever before!
I wrote a children’s book series with my mother, one that had been our dream for years!
My ability to prosper just keeps growing and growing, SO elegantly. No “hard work”, no pushing, no desperation, no struggle…
Just alignment, JOY and elegance. Opportunities find me, magnetically come to me. Synchronicities are over the top! Everything just floooows.
So, what is the Secret to Living an Abundant, Prosperous Life full of Inner peace, Pleasure, JOY & Beauty?
You require to:
a) get clear on your ideal Life Vision
b) make an Elegant Intention for exactly what you desire
c) surrender
d) listen to divine guidance and take THAT kind of action.
Do not remain attached to your desires – you will only be resonating the energy of, “I don’t have this yet”.
You want to spend your time and energy units on doing things that truly bring you JOY, and only take action on the things that your soul tells you to do.
How do you know if it’s your soul and not your ego telling you to do things? That is a bigger conversation, but one that I spend a whole module on in The Art of Living Elegantly program.
If you are interested in learning the full process that I live my life by then I invite you to have a look at The Art of Living Elegantly. You can learn moreHERE.
THIS is what changed everything for me, Ladies. I do THIS.
So, now you know why my year in France is a year that I will never forget and will always hold so dear to my heart.
In 1997 I left Canada a broken, insecure, unfulfilled person and in 1998 I returned a peaceful, confident, and spiritual woman.
It is my greatest honour to pass along some of the wisdom I gained. The life lessons I learned that year have served me every day since then.
I’ve had ups and I’ve had downs, but whenever I come back to these lessons, I feel peaceful, aligned, and confident in who I am and why I’m here.
Are you ready to learn them?
Okay!
Here are 5 of the Top Life Lessons I learned in France:
(Psst…for full explanations of the lessons, watch the video above)
How to live a life filled with Peace, Pleasure, Prosperity, JOY and Beauty.
How to connect with one’s own Divine Nature and how to allow that essence to be so fully YOU that you GLOW and touch other people’s lives with that glow. Shortly after returning from France I was walking in a Health Food Store and a woman stopped abruptly in front of me and said loudly, “WHOAH! YOU ARE GLOWING! You are actually GLOWING!” I just smile when I hear this now because I know it’s not me they’re seeing and feeling, it’s the Divine/Source Energy. This was a wish I had while living in France. I wanted to GLOW like the Buddhist Masters did. And, voila! With time and doing my special daily practise (the one you can find inThe 6 Phase Visioning Meditation) I was able to fulfil my wish! And it just keeps getting stronger and stronger as I practise.
How to LIVE your spirituality, not just talk or read about it.
How to know and LOVE yourself intimately, so you never compare yourself with others again.
How to know what your soul desires and how to elegantly manifest it.
Again, these are just SOME of the gorgeous life lessons that France gifted me. The beautiful thing is that much of what I learned has deepened even more since then.
For one, my connection and alignment with Source is something that has deepened to such a level that I consistently receive Divine Downloads for myself and the people I mentor.
I giggle every time I receive an email or comment during a session like this,
“Oh my God, are you psychic? It’s like you know me perfectly and we’ve only just met!
or
“Oh my God, are you psychic? I asked to hear these exact words as a sign today!”
Please know that if you have found your way here, it’s not an accident. It shows you are ready to receive all of the Elegant Processes and wisdom that I have been guided to share.
If you weren’t ready to receive it you wouldn’t have been guided here. So congratulations for being ready!!!
It is my wish and intention, that today is the beginning of your OWN personal pilgrimage. One that takes you on a beautiful journey back HOME, to your Divine Nature – the place where Inner Peace, JOY, Abundance and Beauty resides.
Living from this space allows you to live in Elegant Flow where everything you desire (or something even better) flows elegantly to you, without hard work or huge effort.
So, let’s get this journey started, shall we?
Each week I will be sharing wisdom with you on how to be a Spiritual Woman who lives The Elegant Life, so make sure you put a note in your calendar to come back here every Wednesday.
Also, I LOVE connecting with you by reading and responding to your comments and questions, so please do write to me in the comments, okay?
Since I will only be posting once a week now, I invite you to follow me on YouTube, Facebook, and Instagram for even more inspiration and wisdom.
See you next week!
Love,
Erin
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