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MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE

Why Being Happy is a REQUIREMENT For Spiritual Women Now

“Hello! Hi! How are you?” Great thanks, you?”

“Oh, my God! She’s a little odd, isn’t she?”

“Yes! And what was she wearing?”

This is a conversation that goes on all over the world between women. Good women, nice women, women who want to be happy, who want their children to be happy & who have a strong desire for peace… and yet…

Where is OUR happiness? Our peace? Our kindness? Our love?

Yes, we can do big, public things like volunteer, raise money for charities, be a Foster parent, etc. but in our every day words and actions, are we really resonating what we wish for in the world?

Last week we all heard about the horrendous tragedy in Manchester. I felt broken inside. But what added to my sadness was that when I scrolled through my Facebook feed most of what I read was people:

complaining
using extremely negative words (that I choose not to reprint here) against other women
judging

And I thought…

And people wonder why we are experiencing this reality right now?

As we all know, everything is energy. Words have an energetic frequency, actions, feelings, posts we share, comments we make, food, plants, desks, chairs…everything has a measurable energy.

So, if we are using negative words, in whatever circumstance, we are resonating that energy. And the more we resonate this negativity, the more negative energy is collected in our collective consciousness (the world’s consciousness). And, what we have resonated is what we will receive back. It’s the Law.

It’s Time to BE Happy

I was really called to write this post… for it to be a reminder, to all of us women who are truly beautiful souls, that if we want to live in a peaceful, loving world, we must make our main choice every day to BE peace & love. That goes for everything we say and do.

Can we be perfect? Should we get down on ourselves if we mess up? No.

But we CAN inwardly or outwardly say, “I’m sorry” and then make a different choice in the next moment.

And, what we can also do is to make our other main focus, JOY & PLEASURE.

Did you know that the emotion of JOY is only 160 Hz from that of Enlightenment? (Enlightenment resonates at 700 Hz and JOY at 540 Hz)

This is the reason why we focus so much on PLEASURE here at The Elegant Life, because when you are doing something that gives you pleasure, you radiate JOY and when you radiate JOY you change the world’s consciousness.

And when the world’s consciousness is uplevelled by all the beautiful souls around the world committing to JOY, the world’s reality will change. It’s already changing!

How BEING Happy is Changing the World

More people are open to Spirituality than ever before. More people are meditating than ever before. So a shift IS happening, but we need to continue moving towards JOY, ladies.

If you hear yourself complaining, shift to …”But I am so grateful for _________”

If you feel yourself being pulled into gossip, remove yourself from the situation or change the topic.

If you hear yourself judging someone else, say inwardly or outwardly, “I’m sorry, that’s a judgement.” And send that person love instead.

Here is a video to reinforce this concept of how frequency affects reality.

Watching it will change you, trust me.

So ladies, who is up for committing to LOVE, JOY, PEACE & GRATITUDE?

More than ever before the signs could not be more clear as to what our focus needs to be right now.

We women can literally change the reality of our world…but remember…it starts with us and every single thing we consciously or unconsciously do, say, write, or be.

Sending you SO much love, peace, beauty and JOY,

For those of you who would like to commit even further to becoming the BEST version of yourself, I invite you to begin The Art of Living Elegantly. It’s your beautiful guide back to the REAL you.

MANIFESTING INNER PEACE

How I Forgave the Unforgivable – Healing After Abuse

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I am going to finally share something very raw and personal in the hope that it helps you cultivate The Elegant Life for yourself… but I didn’t feel quite ready to film it, so there won’t be a video for this post.

I feel extrememly vulnerable sharing this, however I know that now is the time.

This opportunity is the last step in me finally forgiving two people for something that changed the trajectory of my life some 29 years ago.

Before I get into it, let’s talk quickly about forgiveness…

Forgiveness is an essential process if we truly desire to become the fullest evolution of our soul; to truly allow ourselves to BE who we really are.

You would not still be following the information I share every week, if you did not desire to live a more full, connected, joyful, peaceful, prosperous life of elegance.

It is definitely MY intention, as a Woman Who Lives Elegantly, to become the fullest evolution of my soul. And so… in order to do this, I must go there…

To the places that have caused me deep pain, so I can release…forgive…so that I let go of that which is blocking the gorgeous loving light that I am.

You see, that person or experience we need to forgive is taking up A LOT of space in our energetic field and is blocking our spacious light inside.

We can never BE, DO or EXPERIENCE life as we wish with this “stuff” clouding our joy, peace and love.

We’ll never be able to fully express the beauty of who we are. Whether that be to a partner, a co-worker, a friend, a child, a client, it’s just not possible to do it and enjoy it fully.

Because my intention of who I want to be is so clear and so strong, I allowed myself to “go there” this summer. Actually I was kind of forced by the Universe. Here’s how…

[Deep Breath]

29 years ago, I was 15 years old.

Like every summer my family travelled to Saskatchewan to visit my grandparents. We had done this every year since I was a baby, so it was something I looked forward to.

My grandparents, on my mother’s side, were those kind of grandparents that everyone dreams of. Riding the tractor with Grandpa, baking with Grandma, eating yummy foods that brought me closer to my heritage, picking blueberries, tending to the garden, playing outside for hours, playing cards together and laughing long into the night…

You get the picture. Well, this summer was different in many respects.

I arrived a proper teenager. I had grown into someone who I really liked and loved.

I felt it deep within my heart and I just constantly smiled.

I also felt like I had truly found my style.

I felt beautiful AND I loved my body.

In fact, I suntanned on the sidewalk in my bathing suit…and felt so in tune with ERIN.

Wow, Grandpa noticed too!

He kept staring at me from across the table and complimenting my beautiful skin, etc. “Wow, Thanks!”

I must be radiating this awesome feeling I have inside!

One evening, I went downstairs after hearing my Grandpa and young cousin playing. I decided to join in the action. So we played “Chase my cousin” by crawling.

Grandpa made sure he was always behind me. Then he suggested my cousin go jump on the bed in the bedroom.

I followed of course and ended up sitting on the end of the bed with my Grandpa.

While my cousin jumped up and down, my Grandpa came very close beside me and shared how much he missed me, how great it was to have me there etc. and I just couldn’t believe how open he was being. I felt so loved…yet inside my gut felt something was awkward about this..this wasn’t quite normal for a Grandfather to speak this way, was it?

From here, I have no memory about how the next thing happened, but somehow I was led into the cellar by my Grandpa and was sexually abused by him.

After, he told me not to tell anyone and I quickly said, “No” and went upstairs.

I immediately went to the bathroom, stared at myself in the mirror and said something I will never forget…

“YOU will NEVER dress like this again. NEVER! You will NEVER allow yourself to feel beautiful like that again!” As I spoke these words I shook my finger at myself and broke down sobbing.

There is so much more to how this whole thing played out later…but needless to say,

The one person I thought I could trust betrayed me in the deepest way possible and I was forever changed.

In future blog posts I’m sure the ramifications of this experience will emerge, showing how this experience had a negative ripple effect into every area of my life, but for now, let’s talk about forgiveness.

I have done so much “work” to rid myself of the impact my grandfather’s actions had on my life.

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I tried all sorts of therapies and clearing techniques and the two that had the biggest impact on me were Inspirational Breathwork and The Elegant Clearing Process™.

You will have the opportunity to learn this clearing process if you choose to go through The Art of Living Elegantly Course. (It’s a pre-requisite)

My soul’s evolution has sped up dramatically over the past year, so the next BIG clearing was required for further evolution of my soul.

I require to BE Light, Love, Peace & Beauty for this next phase in my life and this story of mine… this horrible experience…needed to be released and let go for that to fully be possible.

So, what did the Universe do to help me?

It sent my mother to help me during the gap of us moving to Dubai.

To protect the privacy of my mother I won’t go into details here, but I had a lot to clear on.

Seeing her day after day, looking like the female version of my Grandfather, loving ice cream the same way he did, and talking about him in regular conversation, sent me into a tailspin.

I was angry with her and I relived the whole ordeal and the after ordeal all over again.

I went DEEP into anger, resentment and depression.

When it felt like the world was caving in on me, I knew I needed out – the pain of reliving the whole experience and the aftermath was too great.

So, I did what I often do. I asked myself two questions:

1) “Who do I desire to BE in my life?”
2) “Who am I?”

The answer to both questions? DIVINE, LOVING ENERGY.

I knew right then and there what I needed to do…forgive. Not condone. NO WAY!

But forgive, yes. You see, my grandfather played his role in the evolution of my soul.

Without that experience I would not have had to search so deeply for what real love is.

Without that experience I never would have had the empathy and compassion I have in my heart for people.

Without that experience I would never have fully understood that you can NEVER judge someone because you have no idea what has gone on in their life to make them be that way.

Without that experience I would have never desired to profoundly make sense of who I am and what I am meant to do on this earth.

So, there WERE gifts from the experience.

He played his role.

He did what he did for reasons I will not ever fully understand, but I needed to forgive the “human” part of him and realize that behind his despicable human actions there was the same light in him that I have in me… and that you have in you too by the way;)

The realignment to my intention, my understanding of Divine energy, honest communication with my mother and the Elegant Clearing Process™ finalized this phase of my required evolution.

I don’t know if it will be brought up again at some point, with a new angle that I’m not aware exists within me, but for now I feel a spaciousness inside that I haven’t felt since 29 years ago, before it all happened.

I feel beautiful once again.

I love my body again.

I have a wonderful husband who I fully trust and with whom I am finally allowing myself to be more vulnerable with.

Was this hard? YES! Unbelievably hard! As I said to a friend, “I’m ok with myself. I don’t want to evolve anymore. I’m good.”

However, now that I’m on the other side, I can say without a doubt that it was worth it.

How to Forgive

So, I invite you right now to think of someone you need to forgive.

Someone who holds a lot of energy within you right now.

And commit to forgiving them. Not condoning…. no way!

But forgiving and seeing past their humaness and the reasons they did what they did.

And instead, see them for who they are beneath those reasons.

What is your intention for yourself and your life?

Who do you want to BE in your life?

You require to forgive this person in order to BE what you desire. Trust me on this.

As I’m not able to share the Elegant Clearing Process™ with you here, I suggest, as a starting point, to write the person’s soul a letter from your soul.

Get as angry as you need to. Say it ALL!

At the end, see them in front of you. Look through their physical body and SEE that spaciousness inside. And when you see their light, write, “I forgive you” 3 times.

Then, burn the letter and say “I love you” 3 times.

Much, much LOVE & LIGHT to you, Beautiful.

The process of forgiving someone and releasing them is not easy, trust me, I get it. However, I invite you to gift yourself the opportunity to clear away what blocks your light and dims your spirit.

The spaciousness you will feel inside will be exquisite.

And with this space opened up, you will automatically and very elegantly allow for more loving and high vibrational things, people and experiences to come into your life.

Thank you for listening. Thank you for bearing witness to my story and thank you for choosing to be a part of The Elegant Life.

Erin Kurt

MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE, MANIFESTING PROSPERITY

The Elegant Formula for Manifesting Your Dreams

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Ahhh…Manifesting one’s dreams….Are you always thinking about the future, what you desire for the future, and lamenting where you are right now in your life?

Oh, do I know this well!!!

I used to live in a constant state of dissatisfaction. Yes, of course I had good times, love and happy moments in my life, don’t get me wrong…

But in my thoughts, in those quiet moments with myself, in my heart, I always wished for something I didn’t yet have.

Can you relate?

The Mistake Women Make When Manifesting

When I was struggling with my prosperity, I was almost obsessed with reading books, watching “The Secret” and other videos, buying products, and practising techniques. Little did I know, I was actually promoting and attracting what I didn’t have!!!

I was focusing on the LACK of prosperity I had in my life. Oops!

It’s crazy, isn’t it? We think the harder we work at something the better and quicker it’ll appear in our life, but whoa is that ever the wrong way to approach things.

The Elegant Life is what I discovered when I learned how to set an Elegant Intention™, how to Elegantly clear what was blocking or inhibiting the things I desired from coming into my life and then Surrendering the outcome to the Divine.

You’ve heard me say this before so I won’t go too much into that right now. However, what I promised last week was that I would share what you SHOULD do after you’ve set your intention, cleared and surrendered.

What to Do Once You’ve Surrendered

Ready?

What do you do while waiting for your desired life to be your reality?

You LIVE…elegantly.

What does this mean?

Most people are trying to DO more to BE more, but it’s completely the opposite.

When you focus on BEING and ENJOYING, you will notice how life just starts to flow and the “doing” will be more graceful, elegant and full of ease.

I’ve mentioned this before as well, but one of the best questions you can ask yourself is:

“Who do I desire to BE in my life?”

Diane Von Furstenberg said, “I didn’t always know what I wanted to do, but I always knew the woman I wanted to BE.”

diane von furstenburg — Photo credit: Buck Ennis

Who do you desire to BE?

Really spend some time journalling about this and even meditating on it.

A fun idea here is to think of a woman you admire and then deduce what it is that you admire about her. It doesn’t have to be just one woman, it could be many!

Some of mine are:

Amal Clooney – intelligence, elegance, natural beauty, humour, elegant style

Elle MacPherson – elegant style, natural beauty, does movement she enjoys, nourishes her body with alkaline foods, a down to earth, sucessful entrepreneur and mother

Ines de la Fressange – elegant, simple style, REAL, unpretentious, French, simple hair and makeup, lives authentically with her style, her home, her books, her store, knows who she is and enjoys life.

Can you see the patterns?

“How can I BE like this TODAY?”

Ask yourself this each and every day! And soon, you will BE this woman naturally.

People from my past were and still are in awe of how totally different I am compared to 18 years ago.

I never felt comfortable hugging people. Now, hugging is something I feel compelled to do! Even while living in Europe where it’s all about the “kiss on the cheek”;)

I was VERY self conscious – never wanting to do things for fear I’d fail, for fear of not being good enough or just out of pure insecurity and shyness.

People simply cannot believe that I’ve done what I’ve done and accomplished what I’ve accomplished. I wouldn’t either except for the fact that I feel this is my “normal”, and that the old Erin is just a faded memory. I can’t believe I was ever so insecure!

Let’s get this back to you now…

Questions for you to ask yourself:

If you were that woman who you desire to BE, what would you DO?

♥ What would you ENJOY?

♥ How would you DRESS?

♥ What would your home look and feel like?

♥ What music would you listen to?

♥ What movies or TV would you watch?

♥ What books or magazines would you read?

♥ What kind of friends would you have?

♥ What foods would you eat?

♥ Where and how would you travel?

Your life may look SO different from what you desire, but just move elegantly, step by step through this transformation.

It’s not a race. You’ve already determined your destination. Now, just live that way to whatever extent you can each day.

Want true friends?

Begin to clear your Facebook “friends”. Move towards clearing people from your life who don’t match the type of people you desire to have in your life.

THIS is elegant manifesting.

Want a soul mate?

Become clear about who you want your ideal partner to BE. What would you ENJOY together? Start doing some of those things yourself! Focus on being the woman who would attract such a partner.

Maybe you desire for your partner to be kind and patient and plan special things for you to do together. Start being kind and patient with everyone around you, including yourself! Plan special outings with friends and family and even for yourself! Yes, even for yourself:)

Perhaps you could go to the cosmetics department to discover your signature look. Enjoy doing feminine things for yourself such as applying body oils, buying the perfect dress or outfit for dates. Sleep on one side of your bed in order to make space for your partner. Get the picture??

Desire financial freedom?

Spend time visualising you living your ideal day. How and when would you wake up? What would you eat for breakfast? What would your house look like? (My 6 PHASE Visioning Meditation is PERFECT for this! It’s what I do at least once a week)

Go through your whole day focusing on what you are doing and how you are feeling. Focus on raising your personal frequency (using my Elegant Guide to Prosperity) so that you are a vibrational match to money.

Save up to purchase an expensive item that makes you feel prosperous!

ENJOY tea or coffee in luxury hotels to put your energy there and become a vibrational match to luxury.

In essence, while you wait for your desired life, spend time doing, being and enjoying that which your soul desires!

It may not be exactly as you imagine just yet, but you have to begin to step into that existence. Plus, it’s fun!

The interesting part is that when you ARE actually living the life you desired it will feel so much like your “normal” that you kind of don’t remember when it became your life!

“One day, in a sudden moment, you’ll look at your life and say, “Oh my goodness. I desired this and now look at me! It’s my life!”

Along the way, as you practise being who you desire to be, enjoying every aspect of your life and doing things that feed your soul, the Universe will be elegantly orchestrating conditions to make your desired vision a reality, often being even better than you envisioned.

Don’t Fixate on the Outcome

Please don’t fixate on the outcome. You will just be resonating in a vibration of , “I don’t have __________ yet!” Which will keep you in conditions where you don’t have ___________!

This is not elegant manifesting.

Your health and emotional wellness will also suffer.

Your relationships will suffer.

You’ll waste so much energy and time worrying instead of experiencing this exquisite thing called LIFE!

Instead, spend your time in pleasure, joy and alignment with Source.

And, keep doing the Elegant Clearing Process™ that I will teach you.

THIS is the secret sauce. Trust me.

I’ll leave you with this… perhaps you can print it off and keep it somewhere visible so that you are consistently reminded that it is a CHOICE to live The Elegant Life and you CHOOSE to live it!

A Woman Who Lives Elegantly isn’t concerned with a to-do list,

she is more concerned with who she’s being

and how her energy

is impacting the world.

A Woman Who Lives Elegantly isn’t necessarily one who wears a Chanel suit;

a woman of elegance has a radiating and glowing inner peace

that is sensed when she walks into a room,

and that energy is chanelled into everything she does,

she knows who she is,

has complete faith in her ability to create what she wants,

and understands that her journey

should be just as beautiful

as the destination.

Much love,