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4 Steps to Elegantly Have the Body You Want (Video #3)

Welcome back to the next step in this series: How to Lose Weight Elegantly & Have The Body You Want.

This week I want you to continue asking your soul what it desires to eat, but now I want you eat that food in a way that is very “Français”.

Let me explain.

When I lived with a family in France for a year, I experienced the relationship they had with food first hand.

French people truly focus on the pleasure of food.

And, every meal time is an experience.  They don’t rush. They don’t eat at different times from each other, and they certainly don’t eat unconsciously.

Non, they sit down and focus on dining.

  • There is thought and care taken in the presentation of the food.
  • Beloved platters are used to serve the food.
  • Every meal has some sort of ritual.

And because of all this, they eat gorgeous food and rarely worry about how to lose weight.

So, let me share how you can use the French tenets of PLEASURE & BEAUTY to attain & maintain your ideal body.

Le Petit Déjeuner

Morning tea is served in a bowl which they sip slowly while enjoying one tartine (baguette with fresh butter and homemade jam).

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You would not normally see a French woman quickly make herself a coffee and then drink it half cold because “the kids” demanded her attention. Non, non!

The children would be a part of this morning ritual, but their drink would be whole (often farm fresh) milk with chocolate powder.

Le Déjeuner

Lunch time is famous in France because everything shuts down so that people can enjoy their meal experience. People often go home for a hot meal and nap or dine with friends, a lover, or close colleagues at a local café.

They would never sit in front of the TV or computer unconsciously eating their lunch.

They also would never eat food out of plastic containers. Mais, non!

They always make sure their food looks beautiful. Garnishing the food, presenting it nicely and eating it with the best dinnerware & silverware is a common French practice.

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Le Dîner

Once again, the French create a ritual and an experience around dinner time.

Normally they eat a light dinner then follow it with a plate of different fromages and a basket of sliced baguette.

To finish the meal there is usually something sweet, but not always. They listen to their bodies, just like you are practising to do right now.

Later in this series I’ll be sharing with you some gorgeous options for each meal, but for now, I want you to practice asking your soul what it would like.

Remember, your soul will guide you on what to eat as well as how much. Listen.

There is no need to judge what your soul asks for based on old beliefs, just be sure that it is presented beautifully so that you fully enjoy it.

Tips for Creating an Experience at Each Meal

1. Think of Breakfast as Le Petit Dejeuner. 

Ask your soul, “What do you desire to eat this morning?

Listen.

Give it what it desires and ENJOY it! How?

Create a morning ritual for yourself!

  • Could you use a French Tea/Café Bowl to sip your tea or coffee?
  • Could you light a special candle that you love?
  • How about turn on some high vibration music that makes you feel happy?
  • How about having a few “go-to” options that you absolutely adore?

2. Focus on enjoying Lunch  & Dinner like Le Déjeuner & Le Dîner.

Ask your soul, “What would you like to eat for lunch/dinner?”

Then think how you could create a ritual around your Déjeuner & Diner.

Also, how could you beautify your Déjeuner & Dîner?

  • Could you keep a beautiful plate at work to eat your home prepared lunch off of?
  • Could you use a cloth napkin?
  • Could you light candles or dim the lights?
  • Could you use your best silverware?
  • Could you drink your water with a slice of lemon from a wine glass?
  • Could you savour a dark chocolate truffle after dinner with a cup of tea?

Ask your soul what it would like to eat for lunch and dinner and then ENJOY it fully.

3. Enjoy “Le Goûter”.

In France, le goûter is a late afternoon snack. It’s direct translation is: to taste, to try, to enjoy.

Children in France have longer school hours so when they arrive home they are ready for a sweet snack.

Workers in France also head to cafés to enjoy something sweet, usually with a hot beverage.

This is a beautiful nationwide ritual that makes the time between meals…well, sorry to repeat myself,  a pleasurable experience!

I don’t know about you, but every time a diet book suggested eating carrot sticks and hummus for an afternoon snack I grimaced.  It just didn’t feel pleasurable!

Keep following this series as I will definitely share a goûter that is a sweet favourite in my home!

4. Bring out your “good” dishes, cups and silverware.

This may seem trivial, but trust me, it makes a massive difference and has a ripple effect into every experience and relationship you have with food and eating.

When eating off a beautiful plate you might be moved to slow down while eating. You may even be inspired to talk about different topics.

You may choose to eat different foods or serve different portion sizes. Who knows! Flow with this and see where it takes you. (Watch the video above to see some of the plates, silverware, serving dishes and cups that I use every single day!)

If you don’t have any dinnerware that feels beautiful to you, then may I highly suggest that you make a special trip to your favourite department store or kitchen specialty shop this week and purchase even just 1 special plate, bowl, cup and silverware set that you will use from now on.

Really, please do this for yourself.

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5. Play la Musique to enhance your dining experience.

Music creates a pleasurable ambience for preparing and enjoying one’s food.

With the French, Jazz is very popular as is new and old french singers. Charles Aznavour anyone?

At my home, Parisian Jazz from my favourite Jazz app is always playing while I cook, tidy up the dishes and enjoy eating with my family.

It makes us SO happy!

My cleaner giggles when she sees me dance around singing to my French songs. One day she said, “Oh Madame, you are so happy in the kitchen!”

Eating is a Spiritual Experience

Stay with me here.

When I had my spiritual experience 6 years ago, I shifted to knowing that my body is just Divine, loving energy condensed into form.

All I wanted to do from that moment on was to help expand this loving energy into the world.

Everything that brings me pleasure expands this energy.

Everything that truly gives my soul JOY expands this energy.

Every time I am in the presence of beauty I expand this energy.

So, use this week to tune into your soul (your Divinity) and continue asking it what it would like to eat for le petit dejéuner, le dejéuner, le goûter et le dîner and then ENJOY it as pleasurably and beautifully as you can.

I’ll see you next week where we will dive more deeply into certain foods and how they can serve your body & soul.

With Love,

signatt

 

 

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4 Steps to Elegantly Have the Body You Want (Video #2)

Welcome to your BONUS video! This video describes in depth the first step in completely shifting your relationship with what to eat so that you elegantly lose weight.

I do my best teaching when I talk, so I will let you watch the video to find out all you need to know about how to choose the right foods to eat…for YOU personally.

You can throw out the diet books, the point guides, the calories counting apps and just follow my advice on how to lose weight elegantly.

You may have heard of intuitive eating, but this goes far deeper than that.

We go spiritual here.  As with everything on The Elegant Life, we come back HOME to find our answers.

Elegant Women make a choice about how they desire their bodies to look and feel and always return HOME to receive the guidance on exactly what to  eat and when.

Weight loss has never been so beautiful.  So, ENJOY and practise what I teach for 1 whole week, okay?

Just doing this 1 thing will have a massive impact on your relationship with food and your body and soul. It’s what Elegant Women do.

Let me know if you have any questions in the comments below. Or, if you have any A Ha! moments during the week let me know as well! I LOVE hearing from you and I will be your biggest cheerleader.

“See” you next week!

Love,

signatt

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And the Winner of The Self-Love Challenge is…

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I am thrilled to announce that SOFIA BEG ZAHEER is the winner of The Self Love Challenge!

Sofia, I will be sending you this full set of my most favourite body care system – *The Elemis Frangipani Body Care Set!*

The scent is utterly divine! When I purchased my first set I literally could not stop smelling myself!

I said to myself, “THIS is the signature scent of The Elegant Life”, and then I looked into the benefits of frangipani essential oil and just grinned.  Listen to this…

Frangipani fragrance is connected to divinity itself. The flowers inspire spirituality and invoke love.

How perfect is that?

(Below, I list 8 incredible benefits of this gorgeous essential oil.)

May I personally congratulate each and every one of you ladies for participating in the FULL 28 days.

At first it may have felt awkward to say out loud, “I LOVE ________ about myself”, but as the days went on, I could see and sense that it became easier to honour ourselves and say out loud, with so much gratitude, “I really love this about myself.”

THANK YOU once again.  I look forward to more giveaways and special surprises!

x


8 Divine Benefits of Frangipani Essential Oil

1. It makes You Feel Love

Frangipani essential oil is said to be one of the best perfumes in the world, the flower is linked to  feminity, and in Feng Shui, Frangipani is associated with love.

2. It reconnects You With Inner Peace

Frangipani essential oil brings peace and harmony back into your life. Its calming qualities reduce the negative effects of everyday stresses, uplifts your spirits, nourishes your soul and brings self-awareness.

3. It Promotes Self Confidence 

This exquisite oil promotes high, positive self-esteem and lifts your emotions overall.

4. It Gives You Soft, Beautiful Skin

Frangipani essential oil moisturises the skin. The oil ensures that the skin remains soft, even cracked, dry skin.

5. It De-Stresses The Mind By Letting You Sleep

Frangipani essential oil has a sedative effect, helping you to sleep. The oil calms your mind and relieves stress in the process.

6. It Maintains a Healthy Body

Frangipani essential oil has antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties. This maintains a healthy body by eliminating harmful toxins and free radicals from the tissues.

7. It Relieves Headaches

Frangipani oil can relieve a headache and even back pain by relaxing your muscles and nerves.

8. It is an Aphrodisiac 

Frangipani essential oil’s scent promotes sensuality and connection.

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How to Use the * Konmari Method * to Become a Woman Who Lives Elegantly

Marie Kondo, creator of The Konmari Method, got it right when she said,

When you surround yourself with possessions that spark joy, you’ll create a life and home you love.

In Marie’s book, “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up”, she teaches an elegant method that will help you get to know yourself better and create a life and home that truly represents you and the life you desire to live.

Want to have a little tour of my home?

Come inside and I’ll show you some things that spark JOY in me and how you can use my tips and Marie’s to fully become a Woman Who Lives Elegantly.

Now, if we relate the Konmari Method to The Elegant Life, which is a life filled with:

  • a knowing of who you really are
  • a knowing of how to move through life with ease & elegance
  • a knowing of inner peace
  • a knowing of your beauty & signature self
  • a knowing of what brings you JOY and continuously adding more of it to your life
  • a knowing of what your gifts and passions are and how to express them in the world
  • a knowing that you are part of Divine energy
  • and a knowing that Life is Beautiful!

We can see that The Konmari Method is a method that women can use to help them live The Elegant Life! Because, when we focus on JOY, as Marie Kondo suggests, we are in direct alignment with the essence of The Elegant Life.

When we ask the possessions in our home, “Do you spark JOY within me?” we are literally creating our Elegant Life by letting go of what isn’t us and isn’t serving us, and only keeping and letting in the things that represent who we are and the life we truly desire to live.

French Homes and the Konmari Method

There is something I have always adored about French homes and french decor.  When you visit someone’s home in France you really get a sense of who the owners are.

French homes are not always typically “beautiful” or put together like you’d see in a magazine, but they ooze individuality and presence.

They have a personality, an essence all unto themselves and you REALLY get to know more about whoever’s home you’re in.

It’s a pleasure to walk around and hear stories about the possessions they have on display.  

It’s so intriguing to witness the colour palettes they use.

And again, it’s not that the decor looks perfect, it’s how the person has used their home as another way to express their signature self.

Have a look at these Parisian Apartments featured on TheArchitectualDigest website.

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I have walked through many beautiful homes and felt no soul whatsoever, and I have walked through very modest homes and felt absolutely enamoured by them.

The difference?

The owner’s sense of self and a knowingness of who they are and what sparks JOY within them.

Take a moment right now and wander around your home, or simply spin around in your chair and look around the room you’re currently in… does it show who you are?  Does everything in it spark JOY within you?

If someone were to walk into your home, would they be able to know something about you without you even speaking?

A Parisian in My Home!

A few months back we had our friends over for dinner; Jean-Louis, the husband, is Parisian.

The moment Jean-Louis walked into my home he began wandering.  He looked at everything I had on my walls and the things I had on little tables and as he did this I could hear him saying, “Oh!” and “Mmmmm…”.

I have to admit that the francophile in me LOVED that he, the Parisian, found my home fascinating and interesting. 

The real feeling in me though, was one of happiness.  Because I could see him enjoying our home and learning more about us as a result.

One object intrigued him enough to ask a question and this opened up a whole beautiful discussion.

So I ask you again, hoping not to sound too redundant, “Does your home spark JOY in you?”

Do the clothes you own, the blankets that cover you, the photos and pictures on the walls, represent YOU?

What do they say about you?

If you don’t feel your home represents you, then I highly recommend you begin using the Konmari Method that Marie Kondo so beautifully teaches.

This month on the blog we have been focusing on knowing yourself, honouring yourself and loving yourself…

Has anything shifted for you in your life this month after reading the blog posts?  I’d be so curious to hear about it!

I’ve already heard from some women who say they have given themselves more permission this month to enjoy things they love.

Ça c’est merveilleux!

Next week we will end this month’s theme with a BIG CELEBRATION as the winner of the Self-Love Challenge will be announced!!!

Stay tuned for that!

With so much love,

signatt

 

 


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Finding Happiness – How to Find it & Sustain it the Elegant Way

Did you know that there are over 62,000 books written on “finding happiness”?

This shows that there millions of people searching for fulfilment and happiness.

In fact, did you know that Dubai has created a Minister of Happiness position?

Yes! Finding happiness is a major focus right now and I LOVE this!  However, I want you to know what Women Who Live Elegantly know.

I want you to know how Women Who Live Elegantly define and experience happiness, as well as sustain it.

Curious?  Read on and/or watch the video above.

Finding Happiness & Sustaining Happiness

The dictionary defines happiness as:

 a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

A Woman Who Lives Elegantly’s definition of happiness is:

 the state of contentment, fulfilment & joy that I experience as a result of doing, being and enjoying what my soul desires.

Notice that happiness from a Woman Who Live Elegantly’s point of view is a state that she is directly capable of creating in her life.

Now, in order to create this state, she must do three things…

Step 1:

Spend time getting to know herself.

Step 2: 

Spend time listening to her soul.

Step 3:

Give herself permission to do, be and enjoy what her soul says it desires.

Let’s look at each of these in more depth now.

Spend Time Getting to Know Yourself

I can remember many times in my life that I have admired a woman because she seemed to really KNOW herself.

She really knew her style, she really knew what she loved to do for enjoyment, she knew her taste in music and home decor, she had some signature dishes she loved to cook…she just had that “Je ne sais quoi”.

Now, when I say that I admired the women, I actually meant that I envied them.  I didn’t know what they knew and it made me so depressed and was left feeling empty, plain, boring, uninteresting, lost…you get the picture.

One day, in my early 20’s I asked an older friend, who definitely KNEW her style and likes, etc. (she oozed “Je ne sais quoi”!), “How did you find your style?  How do you KNOW what you like in life?  Her answer was, “I don’t know, I just do.”

Ugh, that was a depressing answer.  I wanted so much to have an air about me, an essence, a knowingness of who I was, but no one could guide me!

If you feel this way right now…maybe not as desperately as my 20 year old self, but subtly enough that your soul is resonating with what I’m saying here, then I would invite you to purchase the book,Style Statement” by Danielle LaPorte and Carrie McCarthy.  

It was such a beautiful experience to explore myself the way in which this book guides you to!  I really cannot recommend it enough.

  It takes you into every crevice of who you are. Watch the video above to see inside MY book!

Spend Time Listening to Your Soul

You will hear me saying this over and over again and I will never stop because it is the KEY to your happiness…Ask your soul what it desires and listen! 

“What do you feel like eating for breakfast this morning, soul?”

“How do you feel like moving today, soul?”

“What do you want to wear today, soul?”

When a woman listens to her soul she receives the most intimate guidance on how to be happy & fulfilled each and every day.

There will be no pushing to be happy, no “trying” to be happy, no effort in “finding happiness”, it will simply be her state, and a sustainable one.

Give Yourself Permission to Do, Be & Enjoy What Your Soul Desires

So, you know yourself intimately and you listen to your soul, but…you don’t ALLOW yourself to DO, BE or ENJOY what your soul desires.

THIS is an epidemic with women.

We women can always come up with a reason why we shouldn’t do, have, be or enjoy something.

There can ALWAYS be a reason, however, the moment we give ourselves permission to go ahead with whatever our soul has said it desires, we will feel exquisite happiness and joy!

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Examples:

Let’s say your soul really desires a molten dark chocolate dessert. Will you give yourself permission to eat it with pleasure or will you think about the calories it has and how much exercise you’ll “have to do” to burn it off?

Let’s say your hubby comes to you to make love and you say out of stress, “I don’t have time”. Did you ask your SOUL what it desires?  Sometimes it may say that a tidy house or a completed task is what it desires, but sometimes it will say, “How wonderful it would feel to connect with him like this!”  What will you do?

Let’s say you look in the closet and see nothing that inspires you.  Will you schedule in a day where you go shopping at your favourite shop or will you say, “Oh, but the kids need things more than I do”?

Let’s say your soul desires to enjoy dinner at a certain restaurant and your husband never wants to go out. Will you stay in night after night after night, with sadness and resentment building, or will you figure out a way to go on your own by booking a table for one or inviting a friend along?

Let’s say your soul desires to work with a particular coach or mentor or to purchase a course, but your ego comes in with, “You can’t do that, you don’t have enough money or time for that!” Will you listen to your soul or your ego?

Which would bring you more happiness & fulfilment do you think?

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I could go on and on as the number of times in a day that women hear the whispers of their soul but quickly shut it down, is countless.

And THIS is where unhappiness and unfulfillment come from.

There is no joy.

There is no pleasure.

There is no fulfilment of the soul.

We carry on living our life in “responsibility” and resentment and then buy 62,000 books on, “How to be Happy.”

The answers are within us…specific answers for us alone!  We just have to listen and give ourselves permission to Do, Be, and Enjoy what it asks us to.

Are you ready to experience sustainable happiness? Remember what Women Who Live Elegantly do…they make a choice.  What’s your choice?

I’d love to know if you resonate with anything I’ve written here.  Do you consistently resist allowing yourself to do something you know your soul keeps asking you to do?

Do you have a feeling like perhaps you don’t deserve to be happy?

With so much love,

signatt

 

 


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