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How to Connect With the Divine Through RECEIVING

“I don’t want to bother you”

“Aw thanks, but I’m okay, I’m just complaining.”

Ever said one of these statements? Ever heard another woman say them?

Yep, we women have a REALLY difficult time receiving help or pleasure. And it is one of the top reasons we don’t “receive” what our soul truly desires.

Yes, it’s time we take a much closer look at receiving and give it the attention and practise it deserves because your goals, dreams and desires depend on it.

This week’s post and video teaches you two ways to practise receiving – the Human version of receiving AND the Soul version of receiving. Ready?

Let’s do this!

Over the past five weeks we’ve been looking at the attributes of God/Source and the reason for doing this is so that we can EMBODY these traits. We can’t become more Divine, vibrating at a high frequency, and living an exquisite life if we don’t know exactly what to focus on, can we?

Once we learn how to BE these Divine attributes we can start harnessing the power and beauty of it. Not only to create beautiful transformation in our own lives, but the lives of everyone around us.

Today is the very last post in this Series. (There are more attributes of the Divine but I’ve been guided to stop here, so I will)

The final attribute of the Divine I will share with you is…you guessed it – RECEIVING.

Two Ways to Practise & Embody RECEIVING

1. Open ourselves up to RECEIVE from ourselves and others.

When others offer you help – take it! (Even when it feels really uncomfortable to). When you do this you allow the other person to practise the art of generosity, so really it’s a win win!

I have come a long way on this. I am now able to actually ask for help, but still find it a bit of an effort to receive help that is simply offered without me asking.

It’s such an interesting phenomenon, isn’t it?

The one area I don’t struggle with is gifting myself alone time and pampering time. It is such a part of my personality that I require alone time to recharge. If I don’t gift this to myself I become resentful and angry REAL quick! Can you relate? Most ladies that follow me are introverts or ambiverts so I am sure you “get” this.

However, most of my clients, even though they are introverts deny themselves pleasure. They would never schedule regular moments of pleasure because they believe they must give first THEN receive, only there is never any time left over to receive so they just carry on giving and giving.

Until…

They blow up! They yell at their kids and husband and feel like they are depressed, but aren’t sure why.

The reason why is because it is a natural attribute of the Divine to receive, and if you aren’t regularly receiving your soul will feel out of alignment and depressed.

Or, perhaps depressed is too strong of a word, perhaps “flat” is a better word. Life is “okay”, but it’s not fulfilling or full of JOY.

Can you relate?

So, the first thing you want to practise this week is to consciously allow yourself to receive. When others offer (friends, children, family, your husband or partner) say, “Yes, Thank you!”

And schedule at least ONE pleasure for yourself this week. Tune in to your soul and ask it,

What do you require to ENJOY this week?”

Whatever comes up, whether it be quiet time to read a magazine in the bath, go to the movies with girlfriends, book a massage or begin a new novel, listen and schedule it in your diary. Trust me… you’ll be in BLISS! And in return, resonating the vibration of openness to receive to the Universe.

2. Be still & RECEIVE downloads from the Divine.

If you are always running around, shuttling kids from class to class, working, volunteering, travelling and such you will not be able to receive the gorgeous downloads from the Divine.

The Divine has already received your requests, desires or prayers, but now it’s waiting for YOU to receive guidance!

Without stillness and silence in your life it will be much more difficult to live and manifest the kind of life you dream about.

The Elegant Life is a life where you create moments of stillness and silence so that you can hear the actions to take.

I will be teaching the elegant morning meditation and rituals that I do every morning and evening at a Retreat I’ll be telling you about shortly.

It is so very important, to turn off the radio, TV, podcasts and music and just have silence in your life.

When I drive in the car, I sometimes just drive in silence.

When I’m doing things around the house I sometimes consciously choose not to put my lovely music on.

Remember? Spiritual women who live elegantly CHOOSE how their life flows. And yes, I know it’s not always easy. It takes practise, like building a “receiving muscle”, but you will notice a massive difference in the fulfilment you feel as well as the ease in your ability to manifest. Trust me on this one!

Have you ever?

Have you ever experienced magical benefits from receiving?

Have you ever noticed that when you’ve been generous with yourself, gifting yourself something that gives you pleasure that you experience other beautiful experiences or gifts from the Universe?

Have you ever regularly had a morning meditation or ritual and seen and felt the miracles that have transpired because of it?

I’d LOVE to hear about them in the comments!

This is the last post in this series of “How to Connect With the Divine”. If you missed any click HERE to start back at the very first post. I have absolutely LOVED showing you how to embody the attributes of the Divine!

Next week we move on to something really powerful. See you next week!

Love,

P.S. If you enjoyed this post and can think of another woman who could benefit from it, please share it with her. Or, simply share it on your Facebook feed! That way more and more women can be touched by The Elegant Life. Thank you!

MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE

Why Being Happy is a REQUIREMENT For Spiritual Women Now

“Hello! Hi! How are you?” Great thanks, you?”

“Oh, my God! She’s a little odd, isn’t she?”

“Yes! And what was she wearing?”

This is a conversation that goes on all over the world between women. Good women, nice women, women who want to be happy, who want their children to be happy & who have a strong desire for peace… and yet…

Where is OUR happiness? Our peace? Our kindness? Our love?

Yes, we can do big, public things like volunteer, raise money for charities, be a Foster parent, etc. but in our every day words and actions, are we really resonating what we wish for in the world?

Last week we all heard about the horrendous tragedy in Manchester. I felt broken inside. But what added to my sadness was that when I scrolled through my Facebook feed most of what I read was people:

complaining
using extremely negative words (that I choose not to reprint here) against other women
judging

And I thought…

And people wonder why we are experiencing this reality right now?

As we all know, everything is energy. Words have an energetic frequency, actions, feelings, posts we share, comments we make, food, plants, desks, chairs…everything has a measurable energy.

So, if we are using negative words, in whatever circumstance, we are resonating that energy. And the more we resonate this negativity, the more negative energy is collected in our collective consciousness (the world’s consciousness). And, what we have resonated is what we will receive back. It’s the Law.

It’s Time to BE Happy

I was really called to write this post… for it to be a reminder, to all of us women who are truly beautiful souls, that if we want to live in a peaceful, loving world, we must make our main choice every day to BE peace & love. That goes for everything we say and do.

Can we be perfect? Should we get down on ourselves if we mess up? No.

But we CAN inwardly or outwardly say, “I’m sorry” and then make a different choice in the next moment.

And, what we can also do is to make our other main focus, JOY & PLEASURE.

Did you know that the emotion of JOY is only 160 Hz from that of Enlightenment? (Enlightenment resonates at 700 Hz and JOY at 540 Hz)

This is the reason why we focus so much on PLEASURE here at The Elegant Life, because when you are doing something that gives you pleasure, you radiate JOY and when you radiate JOY you change the world’s consciousness.

And when the world’s consciousness is uplevelled by all the beautiful souls around the world committing to JOY, the world’s reality will change. It’s already changing!

How BEING Happy is Changing the World

More people are open to Spirituality than ever before. More people are meditating than ever before. So a shift IS happening, but we need to continue moving towards JOY, ladies.

If you hear yourself complaining, shift to …”But I am so grateful for _________”

If you feel yourself being pulled into gossip, remove yourself from the situation or change the topic.

If you hear yourself judging someone else, say inwardly or outwardly, “I’m sorry, that’s a judgement.” And send that person love instead.

Here is a video to reinforce this concept of how frequency affects reality.

Watching it will change you, trust me.

So ladies, who is up for committing to LOVE, JOY, PEACE & GRATITUDE?

More than ever before the signs could not be more clear as to what our focus needs to be right now.

We women can literally change the reality of our world…but remember…it starts with us and every single thing we consciously or unconsciously do, say, write, or be.

Sending you SO much love, peace, beauty and JOY,

For those of you who would like to commit even further to becoming the BEST version of yourself, I invite you to begin The Art of Living Elegantly. It’s your beautiful guide back to the REAL you.

MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE

Finding Happiness – How to Find it & Sustain it the Elegant Way

Did you know that there are over 62,000 books written on “finding happiness”?

This shows that there millions of people searching for fulfilment and happiness.

In fact, did you know that Dubai has created a Minister of Happiness position?

Yes! Finding happiness is a major focus right now and I LOVE this! However, I want you to know what Women Who Live Elegantly know.

I want you to know how Women Who Live Elegantly define and experience happiness, as well as sustain it.

Curious? Read on and/or watch the video above.

Finding Happiness & Sustaining Happiness

The dictionary defines happiness as:

a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

A Woman Who Lives Elegantly’s definition of happiness is:

the state of contentment, fulfilment & joy that I experience as a result of doing, being and enjoying what my soul desires.

Notice that happiness from a Woman Who Live Elegantly’s point of view is a state that she is directly capable of creating in her life.

Now, in order to create this state, she must do three things…

Step 1:

Spend time getting to know herself.

Step 2:

Spend time listening to her soul.

Step 3:

Give herself permission to do, be and enjoy what her soul says it desires.

Let’s look at each of these in more depth now.

Spend Time Getting to Know Yourself

I can remember many times in my life that I have admired a woman because she seemed to really KNOW herself.

She really knew her style, she really knew what she loved to do for enjoyment, she knew her taste in music and home decor, she had some signature dishes she loved to cook…she just had that “Je ne sais quoi”.

Now, when I say that I admired the women, I actually meant that I envied them. I didn’t know what they knew and it made me so depressed and was left feeling empty, plain, boring, uninteresting, lost…you get the picture.

One day, in my early 20’s I asked an older friend, who definitely KNEW her style and likes, etc. (she oozed “Je ne sais quoi”!), “How did you find your style? How do you KNOW what you like in life? Her answer was, “I don’t know, I just do.”

Ugh, that was a depressing answer. I wanted so much to have an air about me, an essence, a knowingness of who I was, but no one could guide me!

If you feel this way right now…maybe not as desperately as my 20 year old self, but subtly enough that your soul is resonating with what I’m saying here, then I would invite you to purchase the book, “Style Statement” by Danielle LaPorte and Carrie McCarthy.

It was such a beautiful experience to explore myself the way in which this book guides you to! I really cannot recommend it enough.

It takes you into every crevice of who you are. Watch the video above to see inside MY book!

Spend Time Listening to Your Soul

You will hear me saying this over and over again and I will never stop because it is the KEY to your happiness…Ask your soul what it desires and listen!

“What do you feel like eating for breakfast this morning, soul?”

“How do you feel like moving today, soul?”

“What do you want to wear today, soul?”

When a woman listens to her soul she receives the most intimate guidance on how to be happy & fulfilled each and every day.

There will be no pushing to be happy, no “trying” to be happy, no effort in “finding happiness”, it will simply be her state, and a sustainable one.

Give Yourself Permission to Do, Be & Enjoy What Your Soul Desires

So, you know yourself intimately and you listen to your soul, but…you don’t ALLOW yourself to DO, BE or ENJOY what your soul desires.

THIS is an epidemic with women.

We women can always come up with a reason why we shouldn’t do, have, be or enjoy something.

There can ALWAYS be a reason, however, the moment we give ourselves permission to go ahead with whatever our soul has said it desires, we will feel exquisite happiness and joy!

finding happiness

Examples:

Let’s say your soul really desires a molten dark chocolate dessert. Will you give yourself permission to eat it with pleasure or will you think about the calories it has and how much exercise you’ll “have to do” to burn it off?

Let’s say your hubby comes to you to make love and you say out of stress, “I don’t have time”. Did you ask your SOUL what it desires? Sometimes it may say that a tidy house or a completed task is what it desires, but sometimes it will say, “How wonderful it would feel to connect with him like this!” What will you do?

Let’s say you look in the closet and see nothing that inspires you. Will you schedule in a day where you go shopping at your favourite shop or will you say, “Oh, but the kids need things more than I do”?

Let’s say your soul desires to enjoy dinner at a certain restaurant and your husband never wants to go out. Will you stay in night after night after night, with sadness and resentment building, or will you figure out a way to go on your own by booking a table for one or inviting a friend along?

Let’s say your soul desires to work with a particular coach or mentor or to purchase a course, but your ego comes in with, “You can’t do that, you don’t have enough money or time for that!” Will you listen to your soul or your ego?

Which would bring you more happiness & fulfilment do you think?

finding happiness

I could go on and on as the number of times in a day that women hear the whispers of their soul but quickly shut it down, is countless.

And THIS is where unhappiness and unfulfillment come from.

There is no joy.

There is no pleasure.

There is no fulfilment of the soul.

We carry on living our life in “responsibility” and resentment and then buy 62,000 books on, “How to be Happy.”

The answers are within us…specific answers for us alone! We just have to listen and give ourselves permission to Do, Be, and Enjoy what it asks us to.

Are you ready to experience sustainable happiness? Remember what Women Who Live Elegantly do…they make a choice. What’s your choice?

I’d love to know if you resonate with anything I’ve written here. Do you consistently resist allowing yourself to do something you know your soul keeps asking you to do?

Do you have a feeling like perhaps you don’t deserve to be happy?

With so much love,

signatt

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How To Be Woman Who Lives Elegantly in 6 Simple Steps

Being a Woman Who Lives Elegantly would have been so foreign to me in my 30’s. Sure, I had a lot of my stuff together. I had a consistent spiritual practise that aligned me every day and I finally had my signature style figured out, but I only TRULY felt like a Woman Who Lives Elegantly after I turned 40 and experienced quite a tough year personally.

I had gone through a few rough years of moving countries, renovating a home with a newborn, moving again to another country after finally finishing our nightmare of a renovation, starting an online business, experiencing 2 miscarriages and then bad post natal depression.

During my depression, after I had my daughter, I looked back over the past years and thought, yes, well, it’s understandable that I am depressed! Look at everything I’ve had to go through!

But… when I took a good look at my life I realised that my soul felt empty and THAT was the reason I felt so depressed. It was time for me to begin cultivating my life instead of just reacting to it.

How can YOU cultivate a BEAUTIFUL LIFE for yourself? Here are 6 Simple Steps!

Step 1

The first step to cultivating yourself as a Woman Who Lives Elegantly is to know what it is you want to cultivate.

Ask yourself,

“What are my values?”

What is MY definition of success in life?”

“What are my priorities?”

Once you know this you can start making conscious decisions around them.

Way back when, I realised that I was working way too many hours. I lived in England, and because most of my online clients were in North America I was having all of my coaching calls during the evenings. Once I honoured my value of FAMILY, I adjusted my working hours so that my clients had to be more flexible and meet with me during English daytime hours.

I also set an intention to get more clients in the UK. With more UK clients and with my overseas clients being more flexible, I was able to stop working at night all together. Pure elegant living:)

Step 2

Get to KNOW yourself. Once you know who you are…intimately, you can begin to appreciate and admit who you are.

When you admit and accept who you are, and those qualities serve your highest good, then you give yourself permission to be who you are, without hiding or dimming any part of you.

This is SO freeing! I used to feel bad that I liked staying IN more than going OUT. I also wondered if I was anti-social since I needed days of solitude in order to feel happy. Yes, without my kids or hubby around, not to mention friends or clients. Was this NORMAL?

When I accepted this aspect of myself I realised that it greatly served me in connecting deeply with the Divine and doing my job well. I also consistently experienced inner peace and alignment…things most people were searching aimlessly for, AND my clients received DIVINE coaching from me.

So, what aspect (s) of yourself have you not accepted? Start to LOVE and appreciate them as it was God, the Divine who made you this way!

Step 3

Turn inwards and ask your soul what it requires.

When I began asking my soul what it wanted for breakfast, I always felt satisfied and full of energy. When I asked myself, “How do you want to feel today?”, when getting dressed, I always felt beautiful…even if I was in jeans and a nice T-Shirt.

It’s SO important to begin connecting with your soul so that you don’t have to ask 20 people or an “expert” what you should do, eat or wear.

Begin to ask your soul questions like:

a) “Does this feel right to me?

b) “Does this person add to my life or take away from it?”

c) “Does this food make me feel good after eating it?”

Lead from THIS place. Gradually, elegantly, you will learn to trust yourself and really ENJOY the relationship you have with your beautiful soul.

Step 4

Cultivate LOVE. Ask yourself how you can spread love towards yourself and others. Can you give yourself or someone a smile, a note, a thought, fresh flowers, an email, a text, a bath with epsom salts, a manicure?

A Woman Who Lives Elegantly GLOWS of love and light. Why? Because she aligns with it everyday and makes a choice to gift it to herself and other people regularly.

Step 5

Elegantly nourish your Body. I love food. I get excited by it and even read cookbooks in bed with glee! Eating well (mostly plant-based) gifts you clarity, energy, health, vitality and an elegant body without even “trying”. This is a Woman Who Lives Elegantly’s secret to looking and feeling beautiful.

Some of my favourite cookbooks are: Deliciously Ella Everyday, Livia’s Kitchen, Get the Glow

Step 6

Create pleasurable everyday rituals. A Woman Who Lives Elegantly knows what she loves and what gives her pleasure, and creates small rituals for herself. Cooking to Jazz music is a favourite ritual of mine, as is applying luxurious creams like Elemis Frangipani Body Cream to my body after a shower.

Do you have a nightly bath? A twice weekly mask? A monthly manicure? A gorgeous morning and evening daily ritual where you connect with your soul?

A Woman Who Lives Elegantly don’t just exist, she commits to cultivating herself and her life.

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If you are too busy to enjoy a bath, a mask, a cup of tea or making love, you haven’t created a life, you are just existing. Creating daily rituals helps you cultivate a luxurious, rich life now, today, and everyday, and Women Who Live Elegantly know this.

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The Making of an Spiritual Woman: Video #6 (FREEDOM!)

Dear Diary,

I was giddy!!!

My new life was beginning!

My whole body felt exhilarated and FREE!!!!

Finally I had told David what I had wanted to tell him for years. And finally, Matt and I were going to share what we had wanted to share for months.

The afternoon couldn’t go quick enough.

We decided to meet at a certain bar close to the school.

We did small chat and then Matt spilled his guts.

This was the BEST day!!!

What I had wondered for months was finally answered!

Unfortunately, it was Sprink Break and we’d be away from each other for 10 days. Plus, he was still with his girlfriend and was in the process of breaking it off with her.

How did I spend my Break?

With Tony!

After hearing of my break up he invited me to piano recitals, museums, and again to dinner.

We spent evening after evening with Ian and our other friend John jamming in their basement. Ian on the drums, Tony on the guitar, John on then base and me as lead vocals.

Was this actually happening?

Was this my LIFE?

I had NEVER felt this way before. I could be myself. I could laugh as loud and silly as I wanted (David always told me to quiet down. People would think I’m weird)

One night, Tony and I were alone. We had a bit to drink…okay, a lot, and just laughed and sang the entire night. At one point he pulled me up to dance with him, stared into my eyes and then kissed me.

Ahhhhhhh! To feel passion again. To feel desired again. To feel feminine and womanly again!

By a man who enjoyed life as I did. This confirmed to me that I had done the right thing by leaving David. THIS was who Erin was. THIS was the life I wanted to live. THIS was the kind of man I wanted to spend time with.

I was very honest that night and openly shared that there was possibly something between another man and myself.

I just felt I had to be open. I’ve never lied. I just can’t.

Spring Break came and went and school was back in session…as was Matt’s flirting.

He came back and handed me a poem he had written entitled, “BEAUTIFUL”. I had never had anyone write something so deep and beautiful about me.

My whole body felt FULL. Full of everything good that I had yearned for. I remember feeling like life was a lover for me.

I used to think that I was just going to have to settle. That I would have to watch romantic movies to experience real romance.

But, here I was. Erin. Receiving profound, loving attention from two wonderful men.

Life was feeling incredible… until the night the police had to come to my parent’s home and arrest David.

Join me HERE for Part 7 of “The Making of an Spiritual Woman” where I share something I cannot even believe I experienced in my life. BUT, it’s also the moment when my FREEDOM & AWAKENING truly began.

See you tomorrow!