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Overcoming Challenges: How to Do it The Elegant Way

Ladies!!!! I cannot tell you how excited I am to be back blogging, vlogging and supporting you.

I had an absolutely wonderful 2 month holiday, but there were some challenges that appeared, and I want to share them with you so that you can see how a Spiritual, Elegant woman chooses to move through them.

My kiddies and I first flew to London. I had the opportunity to stay with one of my best friends and visit with my other two besties as well.

How wonderful it was to be openly welcomed, hugged, and cared for. Having close girlfriends was once only a dream. After spiritually evolving so quickly, people I  called friends suddenly dropped out of my life. So to meet up with these three beautiful women again meant the absolute world to me.

To read how I manifested these 3 beautiful friends read, “How to Elegantly Attract Quality Friends”

Overcoming Challenges at the Airport

My kiddies and I swiftly left to travel from London to Calgary. However, due to an unknown Canadian government rule for dual citizens and some extremely unhelpful Air Canada employees, except for one angel, we missed our flight.

The saga that took place is a story I’ve told so many times over the summer, so I won’t go into it all, however we ended up flying to Toronto, only to be held up in security, and then another set of security only to have to run like cheetahs to the terminal which was literally just closing.

We finally landed in Calgary and soon after, my daughter got the flu and a chest infection.

When my hubby arrived he and I went for a special Reconnective Healing session. My intention was “for anything and everything that was still within me, blocking my Divine light, to transmute and be cleared.”

I had been given the clear message before I left for holidays that The Elegant Life would expand even more this year and I needed to ready for it, so when this Reconnective Healing Session entered the picture I said, “Yes”.

While receiving the healing, I heard messages in my awareness like this:

It’s over, Erin. Done. It’s finished now.

“Hmmm, don’t know what that means but… okay”, I thought.

Overcoming Challenges of Health

Later that week I began coughing and feeling unwell. I ended up having to go on antibiotics but still didn’t get better. I was coughing so much that I was bringing up some pretty nasty looking stuff (releasing, clearing, yep!)

I still enjoyed some special moments while my hubby was in Canada with us, but on the final day, when just my kiddies and I were to board a flight from Calgary to London, London to Istanbul then Istanbul to Bodrum…I broke. I asked my sister to please take me to the doctor.

Well… turns out I had pneumonia.

Now, those of you ladies who have read or watched the Series I did on, “The Making of a Spiritual Woman: A Pilgrimage that Began in Paris” know that I had pneumonia at that time as well.

Turns out that this pneumonia was in the exact spot as that pneumonia. That year I had A LOT to clear (oh, just a bit to get over…abuse, grief, restraining order, divorce…) It seems there was a bit left to clear:)

I was prescribed two different antibiotics, got a strong IV to give me energy, and off I set for our flights.

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After my pneumonia was fully gone I felt renewed & so much lighter. And what I will share with you next week is what transpired the following month in August.

Stunning is not even the word to describe it….You see, when we clear old programs, old beliefs & old stories within our energetic system we allow more space for all of the intentions we have asked for to elegantly float on in…feeling like we’ve just been touched by magic. Mark your calendar and be sure to join me next week for that post!

Overcoming Challenges: How YOU Can Elegantly do this!

This summer has been a doozy for many people. People are going through major obstacles & challenges and I wanted to share wisdom on how you can see your way through anything. And how after you’ve moved through it, you will see and experience the miracles you were meant to.

As Spiritual women we have TWO choices:

  1. We can experience obstacles and challenges and feel like a victim.
  2. We can say, “Ah, I see there is something to CLEAR within me.” Then, as we clear, we really listen to Divine Inspiration about what we require to do to help us move through this with ease.  And, along the way, we energetically become a match to that which we desire.”

When we incessantly talk about our challenges & complain about every thing and every one we simply create more blocks to our light as well as the miracles waiting to manifest.

We don’t learn. We don’t grow. We don’t evolve.

No, we stay stuck, all the while ensuring that more drama will occur.

Because remember: like attracts like. So if you are being negative, more negativity will be brought to you.

This is where free will comes in. It’s not the Divine trying to “punish you” or “test you”.  It is simply the Divine allowing you the free will to choose how you desire to live.

Either way, in the end, whether it takes 1 month or 10 years of experiencing the SAME issues over and over again, you will one day get fed up and turn towards LOVE & JOY – and that is the only thing Divine Energy is interested in. Not the time limit.

YOU decide how swiftly and consistently you experience peace and happiness in your life.

I know that is a tough one to swallow, but as I mentioned to my hubby this summer as we were walking,

“Have you ever noticed that whenever you have a problem you’re there?”

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So, if overcoming challenges (the Elegant Way) has been on your mind lately, please hear this…

The Universe/God/Source is responding to YOU.

  • Do you feel emotionally chaotic inside?
  • Have you always struggled with setting boundaries?
  • Is there one issue that continues to come up in your life? What is it?
  • If that issue were not an issue anymore, what would your life be like? How would you feel? What would you be doing? What would you be enjoying?
  • Do you find it difficult believing in yourself? Your worth? Your capabilities?
  • Do you find it difficult to give yourself permission to slow down, relax, pamper yourself, go on a retreat, go on a girly holiday, get a spa treatment?
  • Do you have health problems that keep you from doing work you love? Do you worry that if you get healthy you’ll have to work too hard?
  • Do you struggle with your weight, feeling beautiful or loving yourself?
  • Do you struggle financially?

ALL of these issues have a certain frequency and vibration. So because that frequency is being sent out to the Universe from you, unconsciously, what gets sent back is similar experiences or feelings because that is how the law works.

Now, what’s the reason behind the law being set up this way? It’s to provide you with free will. No judgement, just support towards you evolving.

What? How is giving me all this grief supporting me, you ask?

Each experience will come into your life so that you have the OPPORTUNITY to choose a different way and finally become who you require to become in order to begin experiencing the life you TRULY desire.

I love this poem from a buddhist book I received in France….

“Autobiography in Five Chapters”

1) I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I fall in.

I am lost…I am hopeless.

It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

 

2) I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don’t see it.

I fall in again.

I can’t believe I’m in the same place.

Bit it isn’t my fault.

It still takes a long time to get out.

 

3) I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there.

I still fall in…it’s a habit

My eyes are open.

I know where I am.

It is my fault.

I get out immediately.

 

4) I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.

 

5) I walk down another street.

-Portia Nelson

 

This Buddhist book then goes on to say:

The purpose of reflecting on this is to make a real change in the depths of your heart, and to come to learn how to avoid the “hole in the sidewalk,” and how to “walk down another street”. Often this will require a period of retreat and deep contemplation, because only that can truly open our eyes to what we are doing with our lives.

Yes going on a retreat as I did 7 years ago can completely transform your life, however, it is also in the daily practise of what I call, “Coming back HOME & Aligning with Elegant Flow” that you will begin to experience life differently.

Simple Ways of Aligning With Elegant Flow

Every time you see and hear yourself reacting to life in a certain way (and experiencing a certain outcome) become CONSCIOUS of it.

Then, make a CONSCIOUS choice to change your reaction.

Apologise or make it right somehow.

Repeat, “I love you, __________.” (Insert your name here)

Do something to raise your vibration. You can learn 14 of my favourite ways HERE.

Or, do The Elegant Clearing Process™, which can be learned after you’ve gone through The Art of Living Elegantly™.

Spiritual, Elegant Women CHOOSE to live elegantly, and yes, it is a daily process. But the more and more you choose to live this way, the more life becomes elegant.

The Elegant Life is:

  1. When life flows.
  2. Elegantly moving through challenges.
  3. Desires manifest almost effortlessly.
  4. Your heart is almost consistently in a state of Peace & Exquisite Joy & Bliss.
  5. You feel you have beauty and purpose in your life; your Calling is absolutely clear.
  6. You have a deep connection with who and what you really are.

I promise you this… once you become the woman you are required to be by consistently making different choices than you habitually do, whatever your soul has been desiring will come into your life SO easily & elegantly you’ll be absolutely shocked and amazed.

I experience this personally over and over again and so do my clients.

Do we still have challenges in life? Yes, of course, because we are all constantly evolving, it’s never finished.  But the process is smoother and quicker, which is really nice, trust me on this one!

If you feel ready to go deeper with this learning and begin the pilgrimage of coming back HOME to elegance, beauty, love, abundance and joy go HERE to learn The Art of Living Elegantly.

With Love,

Erin

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CategoriesELEGANT BEAUTY, MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE, MANIFESTING PROSPERITY

Are you a Woman on the Verge of a Spiritual Awakening?

Have you ever had that feeling where one day you just feel unfulfilled with something? It could be a job, a partnership, a friendship, a business?

It probably built up for a while but then one day, your dissatisfaction with the way things were in your life became so clear that you KNEW something had to change.

That level of unfulfillment has been a running pattern with the women coming to me for mentoring this past year. They feel lost.

When I take them deeper, their lack of fulfilment comes from a lack of inner peace, balance, pleasure and connection with their spirituality.

Women who resonate with The Elegant Life are being called to expand and evolve, therefore their souls are creating this yearning for fulfilment.

It hasn’t been an easy time for them;  their souls are desiring to be happy, have peace and calm in their life, and feel a deep connection to the Universe, but what they are currently experiencing is very different than that.

Problems with their extended family? It’s just not okay with them anymore.

The relationship they are experiencing with their partner? It just doesn’t feel like enough anymore. They desire more from a relationship.

Meditation, yoga classes, workshops on spirituality and healing methods?

“Why is nothing making me feel like I SO desire to feel?”

This is a question many of my private clients are asking themselves.

Prosperity? Many women are passed the point of desring money to look or feel successful…they desire to have prosperity so they can experience FREEDOM, PLEASURE  & JOY in their life.

There is a natural evolution occurring right now and although it feels uncomfortable for so many, it excites me.

Why?

Because I was where these women are 6 years ago, and I recognize the signs… these women are on the verge of a Spiritual awakening. Are you one of them?

My Lowest Point 6 Years Ago

I was at a serious low point in my life. Every area of my life felt unfulfilling.

  • My body wasn’t anywhere near where I desired it to be.
  • I had lost connection to my spirituality and actually started to become angry with the Universe. I felt disowned by it and like I had never been connected to it!
  • My marriage was falling apart – we even had THE conversation about the big “D”.
  • I felt like I had lost Erin – where was she?  Where was that feminine, vibrant, spiritually connected, joyful, happy woman?
  • And, the business I had spent years (and money) to build to an international level wasn’t satisfying me anymore – my soul desired something more but I couldn’t put my finger on what it was. That in itself was frustrating!

But everything looked great on the outside!

International business, finally two gorgeous children (after 4 pregnancies), a husband, and a gorgeous house in a prime location in Windsor, England.

So, why did I feel so empty inside? So completely depressed and hopeless?

I completely understand and recognise where many of you are in your life right now and I get that it feels uncomfortable and scary.

Your soul is desiring more which is where this dissatisfaction and unfufillment is coming from.

Remember, you are Divine Energy and the innate desire of this energy is to continuously expand itself. So, once you have everything basic in your life your soul starts desiring more, in order to expand.

The mission of this blog and the work I do via my online programs, one to one mentoring, and offline workshops has always been to inspire and assist Spiritual women to come back HOME to their Divinity so they can elegantly live and manifest an exquisite life.

Last year it was very important to focus on how to manifest by getting into Elegant Flow.

Women experienced miracles!

  • Houses were sold within 3 weeks after trying for 8 months.
  • Weight was lost and kept off effortlessly.
  • Spiritual connection was deepened and miraculous events began occurring.
  • Unexpected money was manifested.
  • New, ideal jobs & circumstances were manifested.

And now….it’s time for a deepening.

The Elegant Life blog and my teachings will respond to this need, and I’ve been clearly guided how to do this.  I cannot WAIT to share it with you! It’s stunning…

Now, not EVERY woman who is attracted to The Elegant Life is ready for this deepening right now, but that is absolutely fine.

The best place to start is to go through The Art of Living Elegantly  This is the foundational course that even I go through every few months!

There are levels of understanding that will appear each time you go through it.  This is also the ONLY online way you are able to access The Elegant Clearing Process™ which teaches you how to completely clear beliefs or experiences that don’t serve you anymore.

What You Can Do This Summer

I am about to go on a two month holiday, so this will be the last new blog post in a little while, however I highly encourage you to re-watch the series The Making of a Spiritual Woman: A Pilgrimage that Began in Paris . I have added even more photos from this incredible France experience! Me, Sandra, & Guy…lots of extra photos to take you through that year with me.

If you loved it the first time (which SO many of you did!) then you’ll LOVE watching and reading again. It’s like the perfect summer read!

If that series doesn’t appeal to you, go back and read through some of the other posts.  The perfect one will pop out for you – one that will be just what you needed to hear.

Finally, be sure to follow me on Instagram or Facebook if you’d like to see my summer holiday.  I’ll be in Canada, Turkey and a special, top secret location that has to do with next year’s focus on The Elegant Life Blog;) Can you guess where it is???

I’ll leave you with this…

You are exactly where you are supposed to be right now.  Whatever you are experiencing is preparing you for what your soul has asked for or strongly desires.

If you are struggling in an area, know that the Divine is preparing you to become who you require to BE in order to  to attract that which you say you want in your life.  If you were already ready you would have what you desire, so….

Focus on JOY, move towards what makes you happy this summer, enjoy the archives or programs of The Elegant Life and I’ll see you back here in September!

I Love You!

 

 

P.S. If you haven’t watched the NEW, powerful video of The Elegant Life have a watch above. Women are telling me they have goosebumps:) I had them too, as what’s coming through me is absolutely beautiful.

 

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The Law of Entrainment – How To Use It to Change Your World

The recent events in the world have either gotten you down or angry…or both.

Spiritual women who live elegantly react to these events differently; they make an even stronger commitment to act in ways that allow The Law of Entrainment to work it’s magic and move this world towards peace and safety.

Are you one of us?

Last week I briefly mentioned The Law of Entrainment in my video on why it is now a requirement for spiritual women to be happy, and this really resonated with you!

Many women wrote to me to say thank you for introducing them to this Law and some asked if I could share more about it.

So, this video is a response to that. (I LOVE when you share your comments and enthusiasm with me. Thank you!)

What is “The Law of Entrainment”?

Basically the Law of Entrainment states that when two different frequencies are in the presence of one another, they will always come into resonance with each other; the lower frequency moving up to meet the higher one.

This Law is at play every single day and we aren’t even conscious of it; it’s so subtle.

I always like to give examples of how this Law works in the physical world first and then bring it into the spiritual realm.

About 10 years ago I began hearing about Facebook, but I really didn’t like it. I actually refused to use it as I thought it exposed people’s privacy too much.

As time went on, I began hearing of more & more people who were using it and enjoying it.

Soon, I decided to set up an account and just use it to keep in touch with friends from back home since I had moved to England from Canada.

More time went on and eventually I found myself having a personal AND a business page!

Today I use Facebook as one of the main ways I market The Elegant Life Blog.

Elegantly, without me even consciously deciding to use Facebook, I somehow went from emphatically refusing to use it to using it on a daily basis for personal as well as business use!

Now, watch this! This is marvellous!

Watch The Law of Entrainment in Action

Below is a video that shows the Law of Entrainment in action!

When you start 64 Metronomes, all at different speeds, they eventually, due to the law of entrainment, end up ticking at the same rhythm. Nature’s innate desire is for HARMONY therefore it will bring all of the metronomes into resonance.

Watch the video below to view this beauty. (If short on time, watch the first 30 seconds, fast forward to the middle and watch for 30 seconds then fast forward closer to the end and watch.)

How The Law of Entrainment Works Every Month With Women!

Have you ever worked in an office with mostly women? Did you notice that eventually all of you, or most of you, had your period a day or two apart from each other every month?

This is entrainment at work again.  Remember, nature’s innate desire is for harmony, so it will want to bring all of the women’s vibrations into alignment by regulating their menstrual cycles to be in resonance with one another!

I’ve always found this so beautiful!

How to Use The Law of Entrainment to Change the World

So, now that you know everything is energy, and all energy vibrates at a certain frequency, and that nature always wants to bring frequencies into harmony, how can you use this to change the world?

Well, change starts with you. You, as a Spiritual Woman, must consistently make a choice to vibrate at the highest frequency you can so that all the lower energies in the world elegantly rise to match you. 

If YOU are peace, love, positivity and JOY, the likelihood that most people around you will shift to that too, is extremely high.

If you’ve ever heard of the Butterfly Effect, you’ve been introduced to the concept of how powerfully you can create change in this world just by a small act or shift in your vibration.

If you’ve not heard of it or wish to learn more click HERE.

I invite you to make an enlightened, awakened choice to raise your frequency.

If you’re not exactly sure how, I have put together 14 simple, elegant & enjoyable ways of how to raise your frequency.

I said it last week and I’ll say it again, it’s never been more clear that the world needs us Spiritual women to step up and elevate the frequency of this planet.

So, will you join me in making the commitment to focus on Love, Peace and Joy instead of anger, judgement and opinions?

Next week will be a very special post – I really cannot wait to reveal something to you!

See you next week!

With so much love,

 

 

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How to Elegantly Manifest Your Greatest SOUL Desires (Without needing to know “How”)

Prosperity, Abundance, Desires Coming true…where are you currently with all of this?

Are you waiting for your desires to appear? Do you feel frustrated? Are you feeling a bit depressed? How about overwhelmed at trying to figure out the “HOW”?

I can relate to all of these. At different stages of my life I would feel hopeful and excited and then depressed and even angry that “The Universe” wasn’t delivering me what I was asking for. Plus, I consistently focused my energy on trying to figure out HOW to make my desires come true. WRONG thing to do!

My intention with this week’s post is to let you know, trust and BELIEVE that the Universe has magical abilities to make your dreams and desires come true…you simply need to know how the Universe works and put those principles into practice…without focusing on the “How” of making your dreams become a reality.  Ready?

You could have a desire about attracting more prosperity into your life, attaining (and maintaining) your ideal body, attracting a perfect partner into your life or getting a dream job somewhere and I’d give you the EXACT same advice, based on my experience of manifesting every single one of these ….and more!

Let me start off by saying this…

The only reason I share my story with you is so you know that if a teacher from Canada can manifest all of her desires, so can you.  My story is meant to inspire and offer guidance on how I learned to manifest my soul’s desires, after suffering in desperation and deprivation most of my life.

How the Magic of the Universe Can Bring Your Desires to You

We just recently moved into a dream apartment in the neighbourhood of our dreams.  Here is how it all played out and how easy and elegant the magic of the Universe can work in your favour.

When I was a school teacher in Canada there was one particular Spring Break that really stood out in my mind. The Spring Break when all my students seemed to be going to far away places to explore the world…and I couldn’t.

Money wasn’t available for me to do this and I felt a bit depressed about it.

When all the students arrived back from their travels they shared with me all of their adventures and although I was excited to hear about them, it made it even more “in my face” that I still was not at a point in my life where I could afford a luxury trip like they had all just experienced.

One boy came up to my desk and showed me pictures of his travels to Dubai as well as the Atlantis Hotel he stayed at.

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WOW! It looked stunning. My heart flipped just looking at the photos. He swam with the dolphins (one of my life long dreams) and had loads of fun with his father in the waterpark and aquarium.

I sat there just stunned that some people were able to experience life this way.  I SO wanted this for myself, but the next thought was,

“Pff…how in the world would I ever be able to experience that?  Some experiences are just for the wealthy I guess.”

Years passed and I did everything imaginable to try and bring prosperity into my life.  Little by little more prosperity came, but not as much as my soul knew it desired. It wanted to experience life FULLY, and more prosperity was needed to do that.

Fast forward 9 years and we managed to elegantly manifest a move to Dubai (Click HERE to read that beautiful story!)

We settled into a villa but soon realised that The Marina area was the area that would suit us better. We adore having everything at our doorstep and being able to go out to dinner or breakfast and walk home leisurely.

So, we did what we know to do, what I teach all of my clients and what is taught in The Art of Living Elegantly

First

We began going to The Marina each week and looked at different apartment buildings.

We found the perfect one! Amazing floor to ceiling views, quality finishings, huge balcony…done!

The only issue was that we could only move at the end of April and it was October!

Second

We created a life vision for Dubai.  In very specific detail we discussed and wrote down exactly how we wanted our life to look and feel.

Third

We continued living “Elegantly” and did the Elegant Clearing Process™ daily on our perfect apartment and life vision.

Fourth

We awaited any inspiration to take. Time clicked on and we kept visiting the Marina and viewing properties. None matched our first choice. And NONE in our favourite building were coming available.

It would have been VERY easy to go down the panic route. The “what are we going to do?” route, but…The Art of Living Elegantly does not include this in it’s steps;)

The Magic in Action!

One day, my son’s school asked me if I’d be open to taking over a class for a bit as they knew I was a former teacher. I really didn’t want to, as I was busy enough with the growing and expanding Elegant Life Blog, but I listened and followed the guidance and said yes.

One day, near the end of my short stint, I was collecting some forms and noticed that one of the addresses of the students was the building we were going to look at later that day (and was directly next to our favourite building).

I was going to say something to her and then my ego came in and said, “Why? Just move on” But then Divine Inspiration came in and practically said the words for me…

“How funny! We’re coming to look at an apartment in your building after school today!”

What happened next is the utter MAGIC of the Divine.

This little girl said to me, “My mummy has something even better for you.”

[Slightly shocked]”Oh, really?”

“You can talk to her after school.”

“Okay!”

Well, I don’t think I even need to tell you the end of this story, do I?

Yep. She had a place in our favourite building that wasn’t even listed. It. Was. Perfect.

As I write this post I am sitting on my sofa, in Dubai, in a fricking amazing apartment, staring straight at….The Atlantis Hotel. (Come see it at minute 8:00 in the video above!)

Yes, I am still in shock I think. I can go to The Atlantis every day if I want and swim with those dolphins and experience the joy of playing in the waterparks with my kids.

I don’t even have words…

What are your dreams?

Do they seem too big?

Too impossible?

Please, please hear me when I tell you this….

If you do what I teach you, you can have, be and experience ANYTHING your soul desires.

I learned how this Universe works and it never fails me. After so many years of struggle and angst, it almost amazes me that I, Erin, am mentoring women on how to make their desires elegantly come true!

Look, I’ll get really honest here for a moment.

If what you are currently doing (or not doing) isn’t working for you…

If you don’t have the body, the health, the partner, the job, the prosperity, the clients…whatever! Then you need to do things differently.

Mentoring with me or going through The Art of Living Elegantly Program are two options, but all I ask you to do is get really specific about your life vision and then ask for Divine Inspiration as to what the next step is. Listen, Wait, or Take action on what it says, but don’t stay doing the same old things that may feel “comfortable”.

I’m telling you, life is BEAUTIFUL! It can offer you so, so much. More than you could even dream up for yourself.

And I’m not talking about life like some people do. I will never ever say, “Dream BIGGER!”, “GO HIGHER!”, or “DON”T PLAY SMALL!” because that is just ego stuff that is led by your subconscious thoughts.

It’s a sneaky way of making you think you need to do or have more to BE more, and that is NOT what The Elegant Life is about.

The Elegant Life is a beautiful way of connecting with your Divinity and allowing this connection to elegantly help you manifest and live this life to the fullest expression of your soul and it’s desires.

If you have questions about dreams, desires, or manifesting please write them in the comments below. It’s always so great to hear from you so I know what type of posts to focus on in service of you.

Here’s to your dreams and desires!!!

With so much love,

 

 

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Addicted: How to Elegantly Stop Negative Behaviours & Patterns

I’m finally ready to admit something: Hi, my name is Erin Kurt and I’m addicted to helping people.

Some of you may think I’m joking.

Some of you may think I’ve lost it! LOL!

And some of you may be quite confused right now….

Let me explain. (I know many of you ladies will completely “get” what I’m about to admit and share. Hey, maybe you’ll be joining me at Helping People Anonymous! LOL!)

During the past month, I have been busier than busy. And it’s of my own doing, to my own detriment.

I knew we were moving house in April.

I knew my husband was going to be away for a whole week after our move.

Yet I took on more work than ever….and I’ve hit a wall.

Not only did I run my very first LIVE training on The Elegant Clearing Process here in Dubai, but I had already agreed to host the ONLINE version of it as well, which required hours and hours of filming, editing & uploading of trainings.

At the same time, The Divine inspired me to teach women how to Elegantly Manifest & Maintain Their Best Body and create a 6 week program for it to continue supporting them while they put the principles into practise!

Now this is all great as the Divine downloaded this to me loud and clear…but! But…. I was the one who put pressure on myself to release it right away. What was I thinking??? (I have now switched to pre-selling it as my assistant, graphic designer and I all work to get it organised and looking gorgeous. If interested you can pre-order it HERE, and get the pre-order BONUS too!)

Throw into the bag being asked to be interviewed and having to create material for that, and I was in over my head.

You see, in the midst of my utter passion for my message and the mentoring I do with women I kind of forgot that there are other “life” aspects to be taken care of too.

Homework help, dinners to make, costumes and supplies to gather, birthday gifts to buy, parties to go to, leaks to fix, a house to set up….you get the picture. It’s been an intense month.

Can you relate at all?

How I First Became Addicted to Helping 

I can still see a movie in my mind that impacted my life forever. I am sitting in a Math Class feeling anxious and upset.

The teacher is teaching a lesson on fractions and a boy named Troy Yearly is continuously being asked questions by the teacher and getting them wrong.  At one point he drops his head to his desk in embarrassment and my heart breaks for him.

The whole time this went on I was thinking, “There is SUCH an easier way to teach this!  Why is she showing him how to do it like that?”

As soon as the teacher set out our textbook assignment I went up to Troy’s desk and said, “Troy, there’s a really easy way to do this, do you want me to show you?”

He mumbled, “Okay.”

I showed him a really simple method and gave him a question to try.  He did it in 2 seconds and I said, “Yes! That’s it!”

What happened next is something I’ll never forget.

He lifted his head up, turned to look at me and a big grin slowly appeared on his face.

That was all I needed.

My heart was FULL! I had instant energy inside, as if  I had just drank 20 cans of Red Bull.

I was overjoyed beyond anything I’d ever felt before from helping him….and this is when I became addicted to helping people.

How My Helping Addiction Didn’t Serve ME

I went on to become a teacher because I LOVED helping kids feel great about themselves and live up to their potential and beyond.

I then became a Stress-Free Parenting Coach to mothers & fathers all over the world because I wanted eliminate the unnecessary stress that parents were facing on a day to day basis.

And then I went on to coach women on how to create Signature Businesses for themselves because I so wanted them to feel the same empowerment and exhilaration I felt by being able to express myself and serve people using my natural gifts and abilities.

And now,  well, I am serving at the highest level ever.  What I do now makes me feel exactly as I did with Troy Yearly that day…. I assist women all over the world to live & manifest exquisite lives for themselves by helping them return HOME to their Divinity. NOTHING is better than this.

So, when I receive downloads on how to serve, I’m up for it!

When someone reaches out to me, I’m THERE.

When someone is feeling lost, disconnected, or at a major turning point in their life and needs guidance, I AM THERE.

And when they email me to share of their success, breakthroughs and miracles, I can’t go to sleep for hours because I am on such a high!

So, where’s the negative in all of this,  you ask?

Things I’ve Done to DisHonour Myself

  1. Overcommitting to others and neglecting my own family
  2. Promising a deadline and working night & day to honour that deadline (with little sleep and no time for doing those things I always dreamed of doing in my life.)
  3. Allowing people to not pay me in full or bargain my price (I learned the hard way here. Now, I set my price which honours who I am and the magic I bring into people’s lives and no longer negotiate or offer payment plans. If someone desires change and is committed to that change they will find a way to raise the money to work with me or invest in one of my life-changing online programs. )
  4. Working During My Holidays and Not Fully Turning Off. I used to do this all the time.  I finally learned to state that during a certain month I’ll only be doing Social Media postings. Although I had a wee slip just the other month when my hubby and I were talking about our trip to Canada this summer and I blurted out, “Hey! Maybe I can lead a short weekend workshop while we’re there!” Ahem…that didn’t go down well…

Can you relate to any of this? Do you give, give give and then hit a wall?

We come from such a great place, don’t we?

And I really do take care of myself! I regularly meditate, move, eat well, have dates with my hubby and friends and spend quality moments with my kiddies, but there is something deeper that is going on and I feel it.

You probably feel it too.

You KNOW your soul desires more quiet time.

You KNOW you miss your girlfriends.

You KNOW you miss reading more novels.

You KNOW you miss having your own “thing” outside of being a mother, a partner, a business owner or employee.

For me, it’s the fact that I am literally living the life I could only dream of years ago. 

But I am so busy right now serving and helping people that I have no time to fully ENJOY this life that I manifested.

And that’s not okay with my soul. That feels like a REAL dishonouring of the Divine.

How to Stop These Addicted Patterns

Step 1

Notice there’s a problem.

Step 2

Journal about WHY it’s a problem. Why is it feeling like a problem? How is it affecting your life right now?

Step 3

Write down how your ideal life would look and feel down to the smallest detail. (I do this with my 1:1 clients and it is a beautiful and very telling experience)

Step 4

Do the Elegant Clearing Process or Work 1:1 with someone who can support you with tools, strategies and mentorship on how to go from where you are to where you desire to be.

Step 5

Meditate and Visualise Your New Life Vision at least once a week. My 6 Phase Visioning Meditation is perfect for this.

After going through these steps myself:

  • I definitely noticed that overcommitting and giving myself short time lines were a problem. I was addicted to helping so much that I forgot about honouring myself.
  • I recognised all the ways in which being addicted to helping was negatively affecting my life.
  • I revisited my life vision that I wrote on December 31, 2016 (New Years Eve) and became realigned to my soul’s desires in all areas of my life.
  • I did the Elegant Clearing Process and made some beautiful decisions on how I will move forwards. (If you are interested in what my soul wants to do that I haven’t been doing, watch the video at minute 9:00 where I share all!)

What I want to hi-light here is that I always view every experience as a gift. And I really did receive a gift from this busy, uncomfortable month. I reconnected to my soul’s deepest desires.

If you have had a similar experience of over giving to the point of burnout or feeling resentful or getting ill, please do share it in the comments. Or…

Do you feel you are addicted to something that isn’t serving you anymore?  Please share below as I can guarantee someone else is feeling the very same way.

Talk to you in the comments!

With so much love,

 

 

ekurt