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Addicted: How to Elegantly Stop Negative Behaviours & Patterns

I’m finally ready to admit something: Hi, my name is Erin Kurt and I’m addicted to helping people.

Some of you may think I’m joking.

Some of you may think I’ve lost it! LOL!

And some of you may be quite confused right now….

Let me explain. (I know many of you ladies will completely “get” what I’m about to admit and share. Hey, maybe you’ll be joining me at Helping People Anonymous! LOL!)

During the past month, I have been busier than busy. And it’s of my own doing, to my own detriment.

I knew we were moving house in April.

I knew my husband was going to be away for a whole week after our move.

Yet I took on more work than ever….and I’ve hit a wall.

Not only did I run my very first LIVE training on The Elegant Clearing Process here in Dubai, but I had already agreed to host the ONLINE version of it as well, which required hours and hours of filming, editing & uploading of trainings.

At the same time, The Divine inspired me to teach women how to Elegantly Manifest & Maintain Their Best Body and create a 6 week program for it to continue supporting them while they put the principles into practise!

Now this is all great as the Divine downloaded this to me loud and clear…but! But…. I was the one who put pressure on myself to release it right away. What was I thinking??? (I have now switched to pre-selling it as my assistant, graphic designer and I all work to get it organised and looking gorgeous. If interested you can pre-order it HERE, and get the pre-order BONUS too!)

Throw into the bag being asked to be interviewed and having to create material for that, and I was in over my head.

You see, in the midst of my utter passion for my message and the mentoring I do with women I kind of forgot that there are other “life” aspects to be taken care of too.

Homework help, dinners to make, costumes and supplies to gather, birthday gifts to buy, parties to go to, leaks to fix, a house to set up….you get the picture. It’s been an intense month.

Can you relate at all?

How I First Became Addicted to Helping

I can still see a movie in my mind that impacted my life forever. I am sitting in a Math Class feeling anxious and upset.

The teacher is teaching a lesson on fractions and a boy named Troy Yearly is continuously being asked questions by the teacher and getting them wrong. At one point he drops his head to his desk in embarrassment and my heart breaks for him.

The whole time this went on I was thinking, “There is SUCH an easier way to teach this! Why is she showing him how to do it like that?”

As soon as the teacher set out our textbook assignment I went up to Troy’s desk and said, “Troy, there’s a really easy way to do this, do you want me to show you?”

He mumbled, “Okay.”

I showed him a really simple method and gave him a question to try. He did it in 2 seconds and I said, “Yes! That’s it!”

What happened next is something I’ll never forget.

He lifted his head up, turned to look at me and a big grin slowly appeared on his face.

That was all I needed.

My heart was FULL! I had instant energy inside, as if I had just drank 20 cans of Red Bull.

I was overjoyed beyond anything I’d ever felt before from helping him….and this is when I became addicted to helping people.

How My Helping Addiction Didn’t Serve ME

I went on to become a teacher because I LOVED helping kids feel great about themselves and live up to their potential and beyond.

I then became a Stress-Free Parenting Coach to mothers & fathers all over the world because I wanted eliminate the unnecessary stress that parents were facing on a day to day basis.

And then I went on to coach women on how to create Signature Businesses for themselves because I so wanted them to feel the same empowerment and exhilaration I felt by being able to express myself and serve people using my natural gifts and abilities.

And now, well, I am serving at the highest level ever. What I do now makes me feel exactly as I did with Troy Yearly that day…. I assist women all over the world to live & manifest exquisite lives for themselves by helping them return HOME to their Divinity. NOTHING is better than this.

So, when I receive downloads on how to serve, I’m up for it!

When someone reaches out to me, I’m THERE.

When someone is feeling lost, disconnected, or at a major turning point in their life and needs guidance, I AM THERE.

And when they email me to share of their success, breakthroughs and miracles, I can’t go to sleep for hours because I am on such a high!

So, where’s the negative in all of this, you ask?

Things I’ve Done to DisHonour Myself

Overcommitting to others and neglecting my own family
Promising a deadline and working night & day to honour that deadline (with little sleep and no time for doing those things I always dreamed of doing in my life.)
Allowing people to not pay me in full or bargain my price (I learned the hard way here. Now, I set my price which honours who I am and the magic I bring into people’s lives and no longer negotiate or offer payment plans. If someone desires change and is committed to that change they will find a way to raise the money to work with me or invest in one of my life-changing online programs. )
Working During My Holidays and Not Fully Turning Off. I used to do this all the time. I finally learned to state that during a certain month I’ll only be doing Social Media postings. Although I had a wee slip just the other month when my hubby and I were talking about our trip to Canada this summer and I blurted out, “Hey! Maybe I can lead a short weekend workshop while we’re there!” Ahem…that didn’t go down well…

Can you relate to any of this? Do you give, give give and then hit a wall?

We come from such a great place, don’t we?

And I really do take care of myself! I regularly meditate, move, eat well, have dates with my hubby and friends and spend quality moments with my kiddies, but there is something deeper that is going on and I feel it.

You probably feel it too.

You KNOW your soul desires more quiet time.

You KNOW you miss your girlfriends.

You KNOW you miss reading more novels.

You KNOW you miss having your own “thing” outside of being a mother, a partner, a business owner or employee.

For me, it’s the fact that I am literally living the life I could only dream of years ago.

But I am so busy right now serving and helping people that I have no time to fully ENJOY this life that I manifested.

And that’s not okay with my soul. That feels like a REAL dishonouring of the Divine.

How to Stop These Addicted Patterns

Step 1

Notice there’s a problem.

Step 2

Journal about WHY it’s a problem. Why is it feeling like a problem? How is it affecting your life right now?

Step 3

Write down how your ideal life would look and feel down to the smallest detail. (I do this with my 1:1 clients and it is a beautiful and very telling experience)

Step 4

Do the Elegant Clearing Process or Work 1:1 with someone who can support you with tools, strategies and mentorship on how to go from where you are to where you desire to be.

Step 5

Meditate and Visualise Your New Life Vision at least once a week. My 6 Phase Visioning Meditation is perfect for this.

After going through these steps myself:

I definitely noticed that overcommitting and giving myself short time lines were a problem. I was addicted to helping so much that I forgot about honouring myself.
I recognised all the ways in which being addicted to helping was negatively affecting my life.
I revisited my life vision that I wrote on December 31, 2016 (New Years Eve) and became realigned to my soul’s desires in all areas of my life.
I did the Elegant Clearing Process and made some beautiful decisions on how I will move forwards. (If you are interested in what my soul wants to do that I haven’t been doing, watch the video at minute 9:00 where I share all!)

What I want to hi-light here is that I always view every experience as a gift. And I really did receive a gift from this busy, uncomfortable month. I reconnected to my soul’s deepest desires.

If you have had a similar experience of over giving to the point of burnout or feeling resentful or getting ill, please do share it in the comments. Or…

Do you feel you are addicted to something that isn’t serving you anymore? Please share below as I can guarantee someone else is feeling the very same way.

Talk to you in the comments!

With so much love,

ELEGANT BEAUTY, HIGH VIBE RECIPES, MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE

The Elegant Guide to Your Best Body: How to Manifest & Maintain a Confident, Healthy, Energetic YOU!

Diets, Exercise, Deprivation…No more! It’s time to elegantly step into your BEST BODY today!

Let’s chant this, ladies! How liberating to never ever have to diet again. In fact, go throw out every diet book you’ve ever purchased. I’ll wait. Whoo Hoo!

Over the past 4 weeks I’ve gone through some of the steps I took (and still do to this day) to elegantly melt 50 pounds off my body.

I review them really quickly at the start of the video above, so have a quick watch!

However…there were things I didn’t have time to share. And, I wasn’t able to gift you the kind of support I know will be SO helpful if you really want to have this work for you like it did for me.

Based on my experience and conversations with women who are wanting to live this way too, I created a simple 6 week program that will elegantly guide you into your best body.

I highly encourage you to watch the video above to hear me explain all the juicy details (you can start at minute 3:52 if you are short on time)

In a nutshell though, here is what I KNOW will allow you to attain & maintain your best body.

In this 6 week Elegant Guide you will receive:

1) My Top 6 Elegant & Effective Movements for Women (these are simple, fun & feminine and can be done in 20 minutes or less. Hurray!)

2) My Personal 2-Step Morning Ritual for Incredible Health & Vitality (This sets me up for a speedy metabolism and consistent energy throughout the day – no more 3pm energy slumps, hurray!)

3) 5 High-Vibe Breakfasts, Lunches, Snacks & Dinners for you to choose from each each day so you can make conscious choices that taste amazing and are oh, so pleasurable. The weight will melt away as you savour deliciousness! (You’ll LOVE how I organised this for you!)

4) How to Elegantly Eat Non-High Vibe Foods (I’ll give you 3 words you can say to all of your food so that your body loves it and uses it for only good.)

5) Daily Elegant Reminders for Your Soul. For 6 weeks you will receive a daily message that will inspire & remind you of the Elegant Principles for attaining your Best Body. It’s like having me pop in to give you a hug, smile and little nugget of wisdom for 42 days straight (Oui, even on the weekends)

6) BONUS! My secret to making your daily movements 10X more effective. Whoo hoo! (It’s a manifesting secret)

7) Pre-Order BONUS! If you order before the product actually launches in May you will receive a VIP Ticket to an Online Soiree with me where I will answer any question you have regarding the elegant principles to attaining & maintaining your best body!

If you desire a body you love, total health & vitality and a lifestyle that brings you Inner Peace & JOY then there really is only one thing to do…

Click HERE and begin the Elegant Journey back to the best YOU. “See” you in the program!

With SO much Love,

ELEGANT BEAUTY, MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE

4 Steps to Elegantly Have the Body You Want (Video #4)

Have you ever eaten a meal and felt bloated or like you want to go to sleep afterwards? How about a bit depressed or “low” and you have no idea why?

I used to have all of those experiences. I couldn’t figure out why I would eat a healthy meal and soon after feel bloated, sleepy, a bit grumpy or even depressed. What was wrong with me?

It was certainly not my intention to eat and feel this way! So what was going on? Of course, you know the pattern. Search the internet, find a book, purchase it, follow it and not really feel or see the fantastic results it promised. Yep, I had a mini library of these!

Until I threw all the books away and proclaimed that I would never diet again. The diets never brought me joy or peace, sooooo….what was my plan?

I had been having success with manifesting wealth, experiences, opportunities, etc. so I wondered, could my Elegant principles be used for this as well? I tried and it worked!

How I Started to Lose Weight & Have Energy

The first thing I always teach is to set an intention for what you desire. So, I desired to have energy and vitality and to be toned and slim. (Of course I went into more detail, but in general that’s what I wanted).
Then, as I teach my clients, I surrendered and waited for Divine Inspiration to guide me on how to have more vitality, energy and a slim, toned body.
Once I felt Divinely guided I listened. I listened about what to eat at each meal (see video#2 in this series), and I listened to what my body did NOT want anymore and stopped eating that.
I began finding information about “high vibration foods” everywhere! So I ate more of them.
I asked myself a question every day, which I will share with you next week.

What Foods Give You Energy & Vitality

Now, I wanted to feel energetic and full of vitality.

How do YOU want to feel?

What words come to you? Happy? Energetic? Fully of Vitality? Clear? Light?

What if I told you that the choices you make in terms of food have a direct effect on how you feel?

From what I have learned from my mother, a holistic nutritionist, my sister, a naturopathic doctor, and my friend/client Dr. Simone Laubscher (creator of the Super Elixir), is that if you desire to feel high vibe you need to feed your body high vibe foods.

high frequency foods

As you know from my previous videos, everything in this universe, us included, is energy. And that energy can be measured.

You unknowingly measure someone’s energy when you immediately feel down or joyful in someone’s presence.

Well, food is no exception. You can measure the vitality a food has. When we eat high vibe foods we take on that energy!

So, if you desire to feel full of energy and vitality all you need to do is eat a lot of foods that measure a high frequency. Simple right?

Well, unless you’ve been immersed in this, like I have, you wouldn’t know what is high frequency or not.

To put it simply, high frequency foods are foods that come in their natural state. (See some of my favourite high vibration foods and how I prepare them in the video above at minute 6:00)

High Frequency Foods

Here are just some of my favourite high frequency foods:

fresh, organic fruit
fresh, organic vegetables (particularly anything that is green)
whole grains like oats, quinoa, brown rice
beans & lentils
nuts & seeds

Now, before you say, “Oh, Erin, this doesn’t sound very “pleasurable” or “French” to me! I thought you said Spiritual Women can eat anything they want and be slim.”

Oui, oui, they can, come see how!

How to Eat Non-High Vibe Foods

On videos 1, 2 & 3 I told you that you need to let the Divine be your guide on what you eat and how much. You’ve practised that, right????

I also shared with you that when you beautify and frenchify your food you tend to eat slower, eat less, and ENJOY the food so much more. You’ve brought out those gorgeous plates and silverware or even bought new ones, right?

Okay, so now, I’ve just told you that if you want to feel light, clear and full of energy and vitality you need to choose foods that can be measured at high frequencies. Are you confused?

A croissant or chocolate éclair wasn’t on that list! Here’s how this all works…

Image from Alrifai: The Irresistible magazine

Spiritual women know how they want to feel and consciously, intentionally choose foods that will gift them the frequency of this feeling.

However, a Spiritual woman also asks her soul what it desires to eat and if her soul says it would LOVE to savour a piece of dark chocolate cake then she does. (after asking how much of that chocolate cake it desires to eat).

If you berate yourself for eating that cake you will be creating negative energy and therefore ingesting negative, low energy. If you ENJOY that cake slowly and fully with pleasure then you will be raising the energy of that food.

There’s also a little secret that I use to boost the vibration even more which I share in my program “The Elegant Guide to Your Best Body” (I taught it to my hubby this weekend and his reply?

“Man, that shit works!”

Okay, not so Elegant, but I’ll forgive him:)

Keep applying all three Elegant Principles you’ve learned so far throughout this week and then meet me back here next week for the final post which will explain EXACTLY how I slimmed down without “exercising”.

Here are links to the past videos just in case you’ve missed them.

Intro Video #1 (My story with photos – eek!)

Video #2

Video #3

See you next week!

P.S. If you are feeling in alignment with this way of attaining and maintaining your best body then I suggest heading straight HERE. You can get get started today and within a week you will feel more peaceful, confident and full of vitality than you have in a very long time.

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ELEGANT BEAUTY, ELEGANT TRAVEL, MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE, THE MAKING OF A SPIRITUAL WOMAN

The Making of a Spiritual Woman: Video #27 (The FINALE)

Well, this beautiful story could continue… in fact it could continue on for years since the connection between Guy, Emil and my current husband, Ilker, is very interconnected. This has been a full circle love story that I will hold close to my heart forever. It’s the story of how I became the Spiritual Woman I am today and how I truly live “The Elegant Life”.

Here is the short version of how things ended with all of the key players in this beautiful story…

I did see Emil one last time – in Prague. That story can be for another time because it wasn’t the kind of meeting I expected, in fact I felt heart broken at one point and then strong and resilient near the end.

The interesting part is that after I returned to Canada, an amazing thing happened to reconnect us and I spent months trying to find a way to get him over to Canada. However, in the midst of this, I met my husband. When I finally told Emil about my “boyfriend” we eventually stopped communicating. The last time I heard from Emil was on my wedding day.

I hadn’t heard from Emil for years but on the morning of my wedding day, which was in Turkey, just next door to Bulgaria where he lived, I opened my email to find, you guessed it, an email from Emil saying he missed me. Yeah, I know….

Talk about a year!

1997, a year that began with drama and things I never thought would happen to me in my life…to experiencing things that were amazing, AMAZING!

In one year I went from stressed, insecure and scattered to spiritually aligned, peaceful and confident in who I was as a woman.

During the remaining months in France my relationship with Guy as well as my spiritual evolution flourished.

I left France with a daily practise that I did every morning without fail…and still do to this day.

When my sister came to visit me in France, just before I left, she was in awe at the reaction I was receiving from people on the street.

“Did you SEE that?” she’d say. “Look how people are reacting to you!”

I was oblivious to it – I just thought their stares and double takes were perhaps because they thought I was someone famous.

But no, there was something different about me.

I felt inner peace.

I felt connected to my “Divine Nature”

I felt beautiful.

I intimately knew and LOVED who Erin was. I loved what her style was and I knew what she required and what she desired…. I just loved her.

WATCH the video above, at minute 5:44-6:30, for a little giggle:)

Guy is, to this day, the greatest gift of my life. He GAVE me the life I have now, as it’s because of everything he showed me, did for me and taught me that I am the woman I am and that I have the life I have now.

This is why he and I were meant to come together that year. I served the evolution of his soul and he served the evolution of mine. No, it wasn’t meant to be a long term relationship, but it was truly a year we will both always remember and be thankful for.

I’ve not seen him since 1998, but we spoke regularly for years.

A period went by when our communication totally stopped.

He got married, I got married. We both had children, etc. but a couple of years ago Sandra, he and I almost reunited in Paris. (Sandra and I did and that story is one I MUST tell you since it miraculously occurred after I used my Elegant Clearing Process™).

Sadly, Guy is divorced now, but he is still teaching yoga and is highly respected in what he does.

If you go back to post #1 of this series, “The Making of a Spiritual Woman: A Pilgrimage That Began in Paris”, you will see that it began with Guy and I sitting on a park bench and me staring up into the sky saying with such sadness and hopelessness, “I just want to be happy, Guy. I just want to be happy.”

Well, here’s where I will end this series…

Picture it being July 26, 2003 and I’m on a boat, with 150 plus guests sailing down the Bosphorus in Istanbul, Turkey.

I’m wearing a simple, elegant wedding dress that is so ME, and I’m with my father. We are dancing to the Father/Daughter song and all I keep repeating is, “Dad, I’m so happy right now. I’m SO happy.”

I felt peace in my heart and full JOY and contentment with my life, who I was marrying and who I was as a woman.

The Finale of The Making of an Elegant Woman

I want to say a massive thank you to my husband; my dark-haired, spiritual, generous, guitar playing, great cook, music loving, great lover of a husband for loving me unconditionally and gifting me two incredibly beautiful souls…our children.

HERE is a post I wrote culminating all the BIG LIFE lessons I learned in France and what that means for YOU.

I always felt I needed to share this story, but I never wanted to share it just for ME. There was a purpose and the Divine told me I needed to share it.

The beautiful responses I’ve been receiving privately just solidifies WHY I needed to share it.

The post HERE shares how we’ll be moving forward at The Elegant Life.

I really cannot wait! It’s been 20 years since I began my pilgrimage back HOME to the truth of who I am, both as a soul and as a woman, and I finally feel ready to BE the woman I was meant to BE; to share these exquisite Elegant Processes & Principles it took me years to learn and embody.

Now it’s your turn to begin your OWN beautiful pilgrimage, but the good news is that your pilgrimage will be supported by exquisite Elegant Processes!

It’s going to be a beautiful journey:)

ELEGANT BEAUTY, ELEGANT TRAVEL, MANIFESTING INNER PEACE, MANIFESTING LOVE & PLEASURE, MANIFESTING PROSPERITY, THE MAKING OF A SPIRITUAL WOMAN

The Making of a Spiritual Woman: Video #26 (My BIG Spiritual Lesson)

Dear Diary,

My trip to Italy was incredible! Spaghetti and Tiramisu really DOES taste different there!

I will never forget the evening my friend and I dined under the stars eating spaghetti bolognese and tiramisu while being served by a funny, passionate Italian!

I will cherish this trip for a very long time. What a stunning country full of vivacious life, history, beauty and dark-haired men! LOL!

I just HAD to call Guy and talk though.

I felt ill inside the few days before coming home. I knew he would be open to talking as I had spoken to Sandra and she told me that he was better.

He had finally realised why I had been telling him over and over for two weeks before I left that it was over and I didn’t want to hurt him anymore.

It felt so good to talk with him in a civil way again; with calmness and peace – how we used to.

He told me that I’ve always asked him to understand me, so now he is asking me to try and understand him. He was just in shock at seeing me kiss Emil, so he lost it.

I totally understand that.

He also said, “I don’t think you realise I much I love you.”

We both agreed that we needed each other in our lives and that after we drive Sandra to her new home in Bretagne we would carry on as friends.

Peace at last.

Now…what in the world do I do about this romance with Emil???

Sandra gave me a note that Emil had written for me while I was in Italy. Oh my God. He really, really felt the way he said he did!

He wrote so beautifully and with such heart. I have to admit, I’m in shock!

God, why am I always so in shock when great men like me?

Emil wrote that he loved me, that he wished he could spend every minute with me and that one day at work, the theme song from The Titanic, “My Heart Will Go On” played on the radio and he cried like a baby.

What???? My tender, emotional, gorgeous man felt the same emotions I had been feeling as I stared for hours at the photos of us in the flower fields by my house?

I’ve never felt THIS way before. It’s different than with Guy. This love feels more like the kind you see in a romance novel or movie. With Guy it was…hmmm… also a romance novel or movie, just a different script.

But with Emil, because he was my type, this added factor of attractiveness completely made me swoon and fall deeply, quickly.

I’m going to go to sleep and dream about him.

Dear Diary,

Today Guy and I drove Sandra to her new family in Bretagne. I’m so happy for her as the family seems so down to earth and the home they live in is gorgeous! It’s near to the Sea, so I can picture Sandra spending a lot of time at the beach.

I will miss her so much though.

On the drive home, Guy and I had a lot of time to talk. I opened up and really tried to explain how I believe we weren’t destined to be together forever, but that we were destined to meet each other and share this experience.

He said all the same beautiful things as usual but then the conversation shifted and we began talking about life like friends. Ahhh….this felt right.

At one point he turned to me and said something that hit me right in the heart and was perfect for me to hear in that moment.

He said, “Erin, I have to tell you that the man who you decide to spend the rest of your life with will be the luckiest man on this earth, because you are truly a beautiful person.”

For the first time in my life, I actually felt and believed that yes, I AM a beautiful person and I deserve to be truly loved and appreciated for who I am.

This is a very spiritual time for me right now and I am learning so many beautiful, spiritual lessons.

When I read from Deepak’s book, “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” I just sob from the absolute truth about how this whole thing called life works…

Dear Diary,
Today I felt like leaving the family – I cannot take the mother anymore!! She is SO off and on with her emotions and the LAST thing I need in my life right now is stress!

I spoke to Guy about all this and he said that he is here for me with whatever decision I make but to make sure that I leave without regrets.

He also added…

“Now is the time to bring your meditation into your life.”

Oooooh, that hit home. This was a powerful spiritual lesson for me.

Being with Guy this year has gifted me more than just love and compassion. He has helped bring me back HOME. Home to my Divinity. Home to where my peace & happiness reside and where I don’t feel the need to always run or react in anger.

I know how to align myself and actually EMBODY the essence of an enlightened being now. Guy was right, now was the time to really bring my meditation into my life.

Join me HERE for the finale of “The Making of a Spiritual Woman” series. Find out what happened with Sandra, Emil and Guy, and how they actually led me to my husband. I came full circle, from sitting on a bench in France telling Guy, “I just want to be happy”, to being on a boat, on the Bosphorus in Istanbul saying….