Do you struggle with prosperity or weight? I’ve experienced both issues.
Prosperity used to be my BIG area of concern. I never made enough, I never had enough and I couldn’t see how it was possible for me to manifest the life my heart desired.
My head could just not wrap my mind around the HOW.
How in the world could I live that kind of life? I envisioned it for my sister, because SHE had a doctorate and her own successful business, but moi? I would have to live vicariously through her, or so I thought.
Weight issues began when I moved to Brazil and gained so much weight due to loneliness, but things REALLY became an issue after I had my children.
At 5’3″, with 50 pounds (23kg) to lose, well, let’s just say…I wasn’t feeling my best. I didn’t feel like ERIN.
What I Tried to Have Prosperity & Lose Weight
I cried tears
I journaled in at least 10 thick journals
I took courses
I wrote and said positive affirmations
I did EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique)
I hired trainers
I read “The Secret”, “The Science of Getting Rich”, “Think & Grow Rich” and more!
I had food delivered to my house
I went on countless diet and exercise programs (Power 90 anyone?)
…and nothing made a lasting difference until I understood and started to do what I do now.
Today, I have more prosperity in my life than ever before (and it just keeps increasing) AND I am a healthy and happy size 4-6…without having to diet, deprive, or “work out”.
You know I LOVE to share all the Elegant Processes that can gift you The Elegant Life, right?
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Well, here’s what I would like to know…
Which topic is currently weighing on you: finally achieving and maintaining your ideal body or manifesting more prosperity into your life?
Both of these topics will be covered here on the Elegant Life Blog, however my priority is always YOU and what you would like to learn first.
In the video above, I go further into describing each topic, so have a quick watch if you have about 9 minutes.
Then, in the comments below, could you please tell me which topic you’d first be interested in learning the Elegant Solution to, along with a brief description as to why?
I am EXCITED to share my Elegant Secrets with you!
See you next week with Post #1 on whatever topic most of you request!
Money makes life easier. It allows us to enjoy things and experiences that feed our soul. And it gifts us freedom. Freedom to make certain life choices that may not be so easy if money were not there.
I know what you’re saying, “Yes, Erin, but HOW? HOW do I prosper?”
This used to be my question. I asked it every day! You see, each of us comes to the earth with one main issue that exists in order to aid in the evolution of our soul.
Mine happened to be prosperity and money. If you haven’t read my story you’ll find it all in HERE. Issues for other people may be: love, weight, relationships, confidence, health…
Things I’ve “Tried” in order to Prosper:
I tried getting a job.
This was good. I loved being a teacher and was often shocked to find a pay stub in my mailbox every month because I enjoyed it so much. However… my soul desired regular manicures, pedicures and massages and adored staying in luxury hotels, buying high quality clothes and travelling the world. The issue I had was that on a teacher’s salary, this wasn’t always possible.
I tried saying and writing affirmations.
Since I’ve always been into spirituality I used to read countless books on the power of affirmations. The problem was that my subconscious beliefs were SO geared against these affirmations that I could feel the resistance within myself that it wouldn’t work.
I read books on becoming wealthy
such as “Think and Grow Rich“and “The Science of Getting Rich”, and did all the things they said to do, but just ended up spending every waking hour thinking about money (from a lack perspective) and nothing changed. Well, one thing did…I felt even more anxious and desperate about money!
I took courses and went to LIVE trainings.
Everyone at these events kept talking about action. You’ve got to take action. Now, since I’m a very self-disciplined person and former “Type A personality” I took action like crazy! At one point, I had written a book, was writing a blog and articles for 3 other top websites, was filming videos for my You Tube Channel, recording interviews for my own Blog Talk Radio Show, and was a parenting expert for a UK counselling site. Oh, did I mention that I was also launching online products and programs and coaching people at all times of the day and night too? Oh, goodness me, I forgot to say that I was being interviewed multiple times a week for US morning radio shows! (Their morning shows were 10pm at night in the UK!) All of this while having a young child at home.
Yes, ladies, I did it ALL! In fact I was so committed to having an abundant life so that I could live life the way my SOUL desired, that I did something that completely dishonoured my soul.
Attending the SHINE Event
You see this picture? I’m smiling, I’m at a major event called SHINE, the second one put on by Business Guru Ali Brown, and…I’m bleeding profusely.
I had grown my business to a point, but something was blocking the financial growth that I desired. I couldn’t seem to help more people but also help myself financially too , so I got up the courage to speak to my husband about buying the hefty priced ticket, buying a flight from the UK to Las Vegas and looking after our son while I was gone.
I felt so proud of myself for “taking action”, for going after my dreams, for “doing what it takes”, for “working hard”, even though I was pregnant and feeling exhausted.
So, I flew to Vegas, got to my hotel room and decided to take a nap straight away. When I woke from my nap I went to the toilet and there was blood everywhere.
I had never experienced a miscarriage and had never known anyone who had, so I wasn’t too concerned. Perhaps I was “spotting”.
I decided to go to bed early. Maybe my body was just tired from the long flight and needed rest.
No such luck. All throughout the night I was awoken by more and more blood.
(To hear the whole story watch the video at minute 9:00-10:30)
The Moment I Completely Dishonoured My Soul
So there I was, at the event, and every 20-30 minutes racing to the bathroom to pile 3 pads on top of each other, along with a tampon and toilet paper. Then I would put on my business face again and walk into the event raising my hand to say, “Hello, I’m Erin Kurt from ErinParenting and I’m so excited to be here from the UK”.
I masterminded, I went for lunch with women, I connected with women who were at a higher level in their business in order to ask them for tips and tricks, I did it ALL.
I was so proud of myself for doing “whatever it took” for success because that is what every wealthy person was spouting as the secret to their success.
YUCK!
Sadly, I continued on this road for a few more years, with an incremental increase to my wealth.
The Moment I Surrendered and Began to Prosper
It was only when I became so disheartened, so tired, so hopeless that I would ever get MY big break, that I surrendered.
“I give up the fight, God. I will use my talents to serve, but I won’t push. I won’t beg you anymore. I can’t, I’m emotionally & physically tired. Maybe I am just not meant to have wealth in this lifetime. I surrender.”
When I began surrendering my body let down. I could literally FEEL the lack of attachment to my desires. And for the first time in YEARS, I finally felt free.
From that point on, I began feeling into what things I loved to do and what things stressed me.
I began filtering everything through the lens of “Does this bring me JOY?”
Because if I wasn’t going to be wealthy, I might as well feel JOYFUL doing this, right? That was my thinking process at the time.
I began receiving strong inner guidance on what things I should do, so I did those. Funny enough, I began attracting more opportunities and clients!
FUN!
I kept following the next step and the next step and the next step as it was shown to me. I didn’t always understand it and it wasn’t always comfortable, but I just kept surrendering.
Each soul-inspired step I took made my business prosper more and more.
It was a completely different formula than what most people were talking about, but I could see a trend that all of the women who worked so hard for their success were burnt out and desired more balance in their lives.
Hmm, I was on to something! I was growing my business AND enjoying my life at the same time. YES!
Now, I’ll be honest and tell you that I faltered at times. There were times I saw a Facebook ad for a new strategy and got taken off my path of inner peace and went down the “work hard” route again.
I would see others using certain techniques successfully and once again fall off track. But, the one thing that always brought me back was the core feeling I desired – JOY. And if it ever started to feel like I was losing that, then I would realign and shift.
In 2015 my soul told me to STOP. Stop all my businesses and take a sabbatical. Of course my ego went, “WHAT???” But, by then I had learned to trust and so I surrendered and announced my sabbatical.
Of course I kept listening for Divine guidance and took action on only those things.
What so elegantly transpired was:
My life’s prosperity grew more that year than ever before!
I wrote a children’s book series with my mother, one that had been our dream for years!
My ability to prosper just keeps growing and growing, SO elegantly. No “hard work”, no pushing, no desperation, no struggle…
Just alignment, JOY and elegance. Opportunities find me, magnetically come to me. Synchronicities are over the top! Everything just floooows.
So, what is the Secret to Living an Abundant, Prosperous Life full of Inner peace, Pleasure, JOY & Beauty?
You require to:
a) get clear on your ideal Life Vision
b) make an Elegant Intention for exactly what you desire
c) surrender
d) listen to divine guidance and take THAT kind of action.
Do not remain attached to your desires – you will only be resonating the energy of, “I don’t have this yet”.
You want to spend your time and energy units on doing things that truly bring you JOY, and only take action on the things that your soul tells you to do.
How do you know if it’s your soul and not your ego telling you to do things? That is a bigger conversation, but one that I spend a whole module on in The Art of Living Elegantly program.
If you are interested in learning the full process that I live my life by then I invite you to have a look at The Art of Living Elegantly. You can learn moreHERE.
THIS is what changed everything for me, Ladies. I do THIS.
So, now you know why my year in France is a year that I will never forget and will always hold so dear to my heart.
In 1997 I left Canada a broken, insecure, unfulfilled person and in 1998 I returned a peaceful, confident, and spiritual woman.
It is my greatest honour to pass along some of the wisdom I gained. The life lessons I learned that year have served me every day since then.
I’ve had ups and I’ve had downs, but whenever I come back to these lessons, I feel peaceful, aligned, and confident in who I am and why I’m here.
Are you ready to learn them?
Okay!
Here are 5 of the Top Life Lessons I learned in France:
(Psst…for full explanations of the lessons, watch the video above)
How to live a life filled with Peace, Pleasure, Prosperity, JOY and Beauty.
How to connect with one’s own Divine Nature and how to allow that essence to be so fully YOU that you GLOW and touch other people’s lives with that glow. Shortly after returning from France I was walking in a Health Food Store and a woman stopped abruptly in front of me and said loudly, “WHOAH! YOU ARE GLOWING! You are actually GLOWING!” I just smile when I hear this now because I know it’s not me they’re seeing and feeling, it’s the Divine/Source Energy. This was a wish I had while living in France. I wanted to GLOW like the Buddhist Masters did. And, voila! With time and doing my special daily practise (the one you can find inThe 6 Phase Visioning Meditation) I was able to fulfil my wish! And it just keeps getting stronger and stronger as I practise.
How to LIVE your spirituality, not just talk or read about it.
How to know and LOVE yourself intimately, so you never compare yourself with others again.
How to know what your soul desires and how to elegantly manifest it.
Again, these are just SOME of the gorgeous life lessons that France gifted me. The beautiful thing is that much of what I learned has deepened even more since then.
For one, my connection and alignment with Source is something that has deepened to such a level that I consistently receive Divine Downloads for myself and the people I mentor.
I giggle every time I receive an email or comment during a session like this,
“Oh my God, are you psychic? It’s like you know me perfectly and we’ve only just met!
or
“Oh my God, are you psychic? I asked to hear these exact words as a sign today!”
Please know that if you have found your way here, it’s not an accident. It shows you are ready to receive all of the Elegant Processes and wisdom that I have been guided to share.
If you weren’t ready to receive it you wouldn’t have been guided here. So congratulations for being ready!!!
It is my wish and intention, that today is the beginning of your OWN personal pilgrimage. One that takes you on a beautiful journey back HOME, to your Divine Nature – the place where Inner Peace, JOY, Abundance and Beauty resides.
Living from this space allows you to live in Elegant Flow where everything you desire (or something even better) flows elegantly to you, without hard work or huge effort.
So, let’s get this journey started, shall we?
Each week I will be sharing wisdom with you on how to be a Spiritual Woman who lives The Elegant Life, so make sure you put a note in your calendar to come back here every Wednesday.
Also, I LOVE connecting with you by reading and responding to your comments and questions, so please do write to me in the comments, okay?
Since I will only be posting once a week now, I invite you to follow me on YouTube, Facebook, and Instagram for even more inspiration and wisdom.
See you next week!
Love,
Erin
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My trip to Italy was incredible! Spaghetti and Tiramisu really DOES taste different there!
I will never forget the evening my friend and I dined under the stars eating spaghetti bolognese and tiramisu while being served by a funny, passionate Italian!
I will cherish this trip for a very long time. What a stunning country full of vivacious life, history, beauty and dark-haired men! LOL!
I just HAD to call Guy and talk though.
I felt ill inside the few days before coming home. I knew he would be open to talking as I had spoken to Sandra and she told me that he was better.
He had finally realised why I had been telling him over and over for two weeks before I left that it was over and I didn’t want to hurt him anymore.
It felt so good to talk with him in a civil way again; with calmness and peace – how we used to.
He told me that I’ve always asked him to understand me, so now he is asking me to try and understand him. He was just in shock at seeing me kiss Emil, so he lost it.
I totally understand that.
He also said, “I don’t think you realise I much I love you.”
We both agreed that we needed each other in our lives and that after we drive Sandra to her new home in Bretagne we would carry on as friends.
Peace at last.
Now…what in the world do I do about this romance with Emil???
Sandra gave me a note that Emil had written for me while I was in Italy. Oh my God. He really, really felt the way he said he did!
He wrote so beautifully and with such heart. I have to admit, I’m in shock!
God, why am I always so in shock when great men like me?
Emil wrote that he loved me, that he wished he could spend every minute with me and that one day at work, the theme song from The Titanic, “My Heart Will Go On” played on the radio and he cried like a baby.
What???? My tender, emotional, gorgeous man felt the same emotions I had been feeling as I stared for hours at the photos of us in the flower fields by my house?
I’ve never felt THIS way before. It’s different than with Guy. This love feels more like the kind you see in a romance novel or movie. With Guy it was…hmmm… also a romance novel or movie, just a different script.
But with Emil, because he was my type, this added factor of attractiveness completely made me swoon and fall deeply, quickly.
I’m going to go to sleep and dream about him.
Dear Diary,
Today Guy and I drove Sandra to her new family in Bretagne. I’m so happy for her as the family seems so down to earth and the home they live in is gorgeous! It’s near to the Sea, so I can picture Sandra spending a lot of time at the beach.
I will miss her so much though.
On the drive home, Guy and I had a lot of time to talk. I opened up and really tried to explain how I believe we weren’t destined to be together forever, but that we were destined to meet each other and share this experience.
He said all the same beautiful things as usual but then the conversation shifted and we began talking about life like friends. Ahhh….this felt right.
At one point he turned to me and said something that hit me right in the heart and was perfect for me to hear in that moment.
He said, “Erin, I have to tell you that the man who you decide to spend the rest of your life with will be the luckiest man on this earth, because you are truly a beautiful person.”
For the first time in my life, I actually felt and believed that yes, I AM a beautiful person and I deserve to be truly loved and appreciated for who I am.
This is a very spiritual time for me right now and I am learning so many beautiful, spiritual lessons.
When I read from Deepak’s book, “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” I just sob from the absolute truth about how this whole thing called life works…
Dear Diary, Today I felt like leaving the family – I cannot take the mother anymore!! She is SO off and on with her emotions and the LAST thing I need in my life right now is stress!
I spoke to Guy about all this and he said that he is here for me with whatever decision I make but to make sure that I leave without regrets.
He also added…
“Now is the time to bring your meditation into your life.”
Oooooh, that hit home. This was a powerful spiritual lesson for me.
Being with Guy this year has gifted me more than just love and compassion. He has helped bring me back HOME. Home to my Divinity. Home to where my peace & happiness reside and where I don’t feel the need to always run or react in anger.
I know how to align myself and actually EMBODY the essence of an enlightened being now. Guy was right, now was the time to really bring my meditation into my life.
Join me HERE for the finale of “The Making of a Spiritual Woman” series. Find out what happened with Sandra, Emil and Guy, and how they actually led me to my husband. I came full circle, from sitting on a bench in France telling Guy, “I just want to be happy”, to being on a boat, on the Bosphorus in Istanbul saying….
Dear Diary, Yikes! My brain is cluttered. I just want to take a hot bath with essential oils and have some soft music playing and candles burning…
I’m not able to do this right now, so instead I am choosing to listen to music, sing out loud and DANCE! This always makes me feel better:)
Things are just getting so complicated.
Guy is a wreck and actually making me scared.
Everywhere I am, he turns up! I’m driving, he’s beside me on the road. I’m at the train station, he’s there and wants to talk.
I’m at the movies and I feel his presence and boom! It turns out he was there!
And today, Emil, Sandra, her boyfriend and I were doing errands for my Italy trip and whose there? GUY!
I was paying at the cashier and looked up and there he was.
He said, “I promise I didn’t plan this.”
I’m feeling scared! Who IS this person?
Sandra and I were back at her place and Guy called. He was sobbing and saying he needed to talk. God! It’s April and at this exact time last year I felt exactly the same…
Stressed, overwhelmed, frustrated, pressured. I started to cry, as I just couldn’t hold in all my emotions any more.
I agreed to let Guy come over for 5-10 minutes and what did he show up with? Flowers.
He told me to look at him and tell him it was over and would never be again.
“Regards moi, Erin. Regards moi et dis moi que c’est fini entre nous”. (“Look at me, Erin. Look at me and tell me it’s finished between us”)
I looked straight into his eyes and told him, “Guy, c’est fini.”
Somehow this helped him, so we just sat and talked in a very adult way about how things would be between us from now on.
After he left I felt a HUGE sense of relief. This was not the life I wanted. I needed to be FREE and continue learning who Erin was.
What do I like?
What do I want out of life?
I want to deepen my connection to God/Spirit/ what ever it is.
I WANT that. THAT is what my soul is desiring.
After a while, Emil and Sandra’s boyfriend came over. It felt SO good to have him there – a calm, happy presence.
We had an amazing time laughing and talking and connecting. Emil held my hand and guided me to sit on his lap so he could cuddle me.
We had such easy conversation and all I could think was, “Erin, is this your life?”
“You are with a gorgeous, dark-haired guy who treats you so kindly, so tenderly and is SO into learning about you, your life and your interests. I cannot believe this is your life!”
Dear Diary, Today I went to Emil’s apartment and we ate lunch, sang songs together, watched a music concert on TV then decided to go for a walk near my house.
He was so excited to experience my world! He looked at all my photos from Canada with such delight and then asked for me to show him my favourite walk by my house.
Oh my goodness…
We walked through fields of flowers and chateaux taking photos, hugging and laughing…a lot!
I felt so loved and cared for. See? Guy isn’t the only man in the world who will treat me right!
Why did I think that? I would have settled if I had stayed with him!
But… I leave for Italy in 2 days – what can ever come of this?
Dear Diary, Today I head to Italy!!! Guy was kind enough to take me to the dermatologists office to get the prescription for my acne. The doctor says I should notice a difference in a week – oh, I hope so!
Now, the plan was to meet at Emil’s house so I could say good-bye and he could take me to the train station.
I didn’t know what to do because Guy offered to drive me to the train station but I kept saying,
“No, it’s okay. I need to say good-bye to everyone from Prague anyway.”
So, he offered to drop me off there.
I hated this, but didn’t quite know what to say!
Emil and Sandra’s boyfriend were waiting outside for me – uh oh…
As soon as Emil saw me I could tell he was emotional.
Guy drove off and Emil came up to me, put his arm around my shoulders and walked me into the apartment.
Shit, I hope Guy was far enough away that he didn’t see that!
Emil and I spent our last couple of hours talking and kissing in his bedroom. We kept telling each other over and over how much we would miss each other and how sad we were that we met so late.
When I would return from Italy he would be back in Prague. This was a totally intense romance between us.
He asked to keep a picture of me and I could feel how intensely he felt for me when I gave it to him.
Oh God, what is this all about?
We walked to the Boulangerie to buy something for me to eat on the train and couldn’t stop touching eachother. He had to have his hand on my back and I had to be touching his hand – it was like we didn’t want to be disconnected from each other.
He even turned to me and said, “Erin, can you believe that today is one week exactly that we got together?”
What guy remembers those things…and in the middle of a grocery store??
I LOVE this!
We continued on to the train station and I felt a pit in my stomach.
One, because I was going to have to leave Emil and this amazing, new relationship and two, because I felt Guy’s energy somewhere.
I just felt that he was there, but I wasn’t going to ruin this beautiful moment.
Emil and I went to sit on a bench on the train station platform. We faced one another and stared into each other’s eyes while holding hands.
I felt like I was in a movie, a romantic, magical movie, when all of a sudden….
I turned to see Guy charging up the stairs of the train station.
I winced and said, “Guy, pourquoi tu fais ca?” (“Guy, why are you doing this?”)
He spit out, “I looked back in the mirror of my car! I knew this started when we were still together!”
I said, “Non, ce n’est pas vrai!” (“No, it’s not true”)
He stomped away, then turned back around and said to me,
“When you come back, you give me back my knapsack and then that’s it – I don’t want to see you!”
Then he turned to Emil and said, “This doesn’t bother you, hey? You probably like it!”
Emil and I were in shock. He kept saying the F word over and over and over again and told me how sorry he was that I was going to have to come back and deal with all of this by myself.
Wow, I felt so protected by his caring words.
We only had two minutes before my train arrived, so I put Guy out of my mind and just focused on Emil.
Soon the train arrived. We stood up and walked slowly to the carriage.
The door opened, we shared a tender kiss and then as I boarded the train, I felt his hand on my back. Oh, his touch…
The train started pulling away and just like in old movies, he walked alongside the train with his gaze fixated on mine.
As I stared out the window at him, the last thing I remember seeing is him kissing his fingers and raising them up into a peace sign.
I felt like crying because today, I’m leaving a true romance, I’ve hurt and angered someone who has respected and loved me unconditionally, and to top it all off, today, my divorce is legally over. Talk about endings….
So, here I sit, on a train in France, heading to Italy, and even with everything that just transpired a moment ago, I still am having the time of my life.
Join me HERE for the very last post in this series, where I share one of the biggest lessons I learned while in France.
See you tomorrow!
With love,
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