If you’ve followed me and The Elegant Life for any period of time you know that I have experienced my fair share of abuse: sexual abuse, emotional abuse and “Oui” even some physical abuse. And not just abuse but huge disappointments! Huge losses!
Never in my wildest dreams did I see any of that coming when I was a child. I dreamed big dreams, I loved myself and overall I was a pretty happy child. That all changed when I was 15 years old.
I spent the next 25 years living, thinking and acting like a victim. I was entitled! My abuse, disappointments and losses affected every part of my life!
I made decisions, created barriers, built inner walls, distrusted people….. all because of my experiences.
Did staying in victimhood serve me? Yes! But in ways that weren’t so beneficial to the overall quality of my life.
If you’ve ever experienced abuse, bullying, power trips, relationship or career disappointments this video will serve you SO well. Ready to elegantly move from victimhood to EMPOWERMENT & JOY?
“See” you in the video!
Love,
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Welcome to Part 2 of this How to Elegantly Attract /Have a Fulfilling Relationship series!
I have received such wonderful comments from all over the world about Video #1! It really makes me happy to know that the training served so many of you. And thank you for sharing it with women you know as well!
In this video I go into specific ways you can raise your vibration so that you easily become a match to the partner/soulmate that you desire.
As you already know, our reality is totally created by US. We call into our lives that which is a vibrational match to us, so let’s learn ways to elevate our frequency so that having or attracting a fulfilling relationship is truly an elegant experience.
As always, I suggest you create some time to watch this video. Having it on in the background while you do something else is not helpful. Presence and focuson what you desire, a fulfilling relationship, IS helpful, so commit to that, okay?
With so much love,
Erin
If you are truly committed to having or attracting a fulfilling relationship then I highly recommend you join us at The Elegant Life Experience in Budapest, Hungary.
Is is going to be a LIFE CHANGING Experience. You will walk out, after an abundant, luxurious, deeply spiritual and profound four days, feeling, Beautiful, Whole, and Full of Joy, Love & Inner Peace.
Have you every desired something SO much but found it almost impossible to “let go and let God” as everyone suggests?
Then this post is for you!
I am going to share 2 ways to practise the art of letting go and letting God. One is a mindset shift and the other is advice that I bet you’ve not heard before. (Psst…it a theme here on The Elegant Life:)
January is a month where everyone is focused on goals, dreams and DOING.
Plans are made, goal are being set, memberships to gyms are being bought, and the focus is on pursuing, trying and desperately wanting their desire to manifest.
I know this pattern well as it was my “go-to” strategy my whole life! Set a goal, make a plan, push, pursue, obsess…you get the picture! The energy I was giving off was one of desperation and lack – not very elegant and definitely not a high frequency for manifesting!
This is completely opposite from what I do now and teach my clients to do.
And…this is exactly what Buddha did before he experienced enlightenment and true happiness.
Many people know the story of how Buddha sat under the Bodhi tree and awakened, however not many people know WHY he ended up sitting under that tree. He was in the same trap I was in and perhaps you find yourself too?
Watch the video above, at minute 2:54, to hear the real reason Buddha sat under the bodhi tree.
2 Steps to “Let Go and Let God”
Step 1: Surrender.
As you can see from Buddha’s story, pushing, trying and pursuing does not serve us. We must understand the Elegant Principle of the Universe:
As soon as you state your intention, Divine Consciousness sets to work to orchestrate everything needed to bring you your desire.”
The problem arises, for most women, when they don’t see any change in their reality and thus start doubting, feeling down, and obsessing even more on trying to figure out “the HOW”.
Spiritual Women who live elegantly, instead, focus on just BEING & await Divine Inspiration.
Do not attach. I’ll repeat that, “Do not attach to the outcome”.
Should we even have desires? Yes! Desires are feelings and feelings come directly from your Soul, which is your connection to the Divine. So yes! You wouldn’t have those desires if you weren’t intended to experience them!
However, instead of obsessing, spend your time & energy visualising your dream. See it vividly, in the greatest detail. FEEL it. Then…
Step 2: Get on With Living Your Life (filling it with JOY & PLEASURE)
I know I know, I harp on this regularly, but trust me, it’s the secret of experiencing The Elegant Life!
If someone would have told me this years ago, when I was in the obsessing mode, I would have thought, “Yeah, easy for you to say!” It was only when I reached mental and physical exhaustion that I finally said,
Screw this! If success means I have to work this hard and be disappointed countless times then I don’t want it. I’m done. I’ll just do this as a hobby out of enjoyment instead of trying to make it a business.”
After I made that conscious decision I felt the weight of the world drop off me.
I began feeling my creativity come out more. I did things I was too scared to do before, out of fear it would “upset” my followers.
I felt the pleasure in what I was doing again- the same pleasure I felt when I first started that business!
And what began happening? Opportunities just flowed into my life like magic. Calls for interviews in top national and international magazines and newspapers, ideal clients coming to me from referrals...the list went on and on. I learned what Buddha did and I invite you to learn it too…
The more you let go and let god (aka surrender) the more you allow Divine energy to do it’s work and flow through you and your life.
All that obsessive energy will be gone as will the manifestation of things and experiences on that same frequency.
Instead, you’ll be resonating at the levels of PEACE & JOY which are just under that of enlightenment – levels that bring in high vibration, exquisite miracles.
Please share your stories of when and how YOU have “let go and let God” – I know it will help so many women.
Do you know there are certain areas of your life where you need to Surrender? Share those too.
Recommendation
If you would like a perfect way of focusing on your dreams the elegant way and feeling joy and inner peace now, then I highly recommend The 6 Phase Visioning Meditation.
How would you like me to show you how to make these remaining moments of 2017 truly meaningful so that you move into 2018 with a whole new frequency, a frequency that allows you to step up and into your most elegant, exquisite life?
You may have had a year that didn’t turn out the way you expected it to.
Your dream may not have manifested.
You may have lost someone. Or you may have had to let someone go from your life.
Or, you may have gotten a new job! Received a promotion! Moved cities or countries! Whatever happened (or didn’t happen) in 2017, let’s make 2018 even better!
Step One – To End the Year Right
Reflect on what has transpired over the past year.
Take out a piece of paper and draw a line down the centre.
On the left side write, “What Things Served Me This Year”
On the right side write, “What Things Didn’t Serve Me This Year”
Complaining about what’s wrong in my life instead of focusing on being thankful for what IS good
These are just some examples that clients have told me. Your Soul will tell YOU what worked and what didn’t.
Step Two – To End the Year Right
Underneath your chart write this question:
“Choices I CHOOSE to make in 2018 are:”
Based on the answers in your chart, decide which items would have the most positive impact on your life in 2018.
I recommend listing 2-5 choices. No more. Just making ONE important choice is powerful enough, but try and go for at least 2.
Step Three – To End the Year Right
Be sure that you are following me on either Instagram or Facebook so you can learn when my New Years Facebook Training will be.
In this training I’ll be sharing my FULL process to end the year right. My hubby and I do this every single year and it is just gorgeous. We look forward to it!
So, be sure to follow on either Facebook or Instagram or…even better… be sure you are on our email list by opting in to any of our free gifts on this site. The most popular is the Ebook “The 5 Things You Need to Remove From Your Life TODAY to Manifest the Life You Want.”
I’ll see you next week with my December Favourites Video! My November Favourites was very popular so I’ve decided to continue with the Favourites Series every month!
Ever felt like Spiritual Growth & Personal Growth was really hard sometimes?
Women all around the world are feeling overwhelmed by life right now and to top it all off they are women who strongly desire inner peace! Argh! What to do?
That’s what this Series is all about and that is most definitely what this week’s post is about.
I want to show you how BEAUTY can be used to help you connect with The Divine so that life begins feeling…well… BEAUTIFUL!
And also that life begins to flow more elegantly. Ready?
In last week’s post I spoke about Creativity and how the Divine is constantly intending for something to be created. YOU were intended and created too – isn’t that so special?
Everything the Divine creates is beautiful – yes, even the sometimes challenging experiences that we are gifted in order to help us grow and evolve.
You see the Divine always desires the best outcome, the most expansive outcome for it’s creations, and therefore you wouldn’t be given an opportunity for spiritual growth in your life if it were not beautifully intended to serve you in some way; to help you become more full of beauty and expansiveness.
So, the next time you are feeling like,
Why me, God???”
Remember that the experience was purposefully created for you in order to gift you the opportunity to grow into who you truly desire to be. (aka the most beautiful version of yourself)
If you are currently experiencing something difficult ask yourself these questions:
What is it from this experience that I can learn?
What woman can I become by experiencing this?
The second way you can experience Spiritual Growth and Connection with the Divine is through focusing on YOUR beauty.
I want you to begin having reverence for yourself. Why? Because it is imperative that you tune in to the fact that you wouldn’t be here if you were not intended by God to be here.
You were created exactly the way the Divine desired and intended you to be so please be grateful for who you are and have deep reverence for it.
You can begin a pilgrimage of getting to know, love and accept yourself by:
Remembering who you were as a child. Think back to how you were as a child in terms of your talents, personality, natural abilities, joys, likes etc.
Give yourself permission to BE that person again, albeit, in a potentially more refined way now that you are a woman.
Start dressing in the style that you love. (Watch the video above at minute 12:34 to hear me share a recent story of mine where a Parisian woman solidified this point for me)
So, when we start viewing beauty in ALL things; opportunities, challenges, people, places, and US (both inside and out) we live in resonance with Divine energy, because the Divine IS beauty.
I’ll be spending a full day on the topic of getting to know ourselves intimately, loving ourselves deeply and expressing our inner and outer beauty during a retreat that I’ll be speaking to you about in a few weeks, but for now, focus on the things I’ve mentioned here for a whole week. I guarantee you’ll feel like a brand new woman in just 7 days.
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With all my love,
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